#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 7

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6

Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Yes, welcome Mamasloth, sorry, I missed you.

Pez I wondered the same thing! Did you maybe not mean fridge Late? As in they were collected on Friday and are dividing at the moment? They do that somewhere warm, to replicate your body.

Hello also to the people we haven't seen in a while if they are reading this new thread - Miri, Tygr, snork and anyone I've missed.

Happy Mother's Day to all!

pez so glad you slept better!

Still nothing on my POASing... OTD Tuesday.....

Happy mummy's to be everyone..... really hoping this is my last....even if still bun in the oven next year
🤞everyone xx

Stork, my fingers are staying crossed for you - hang in there xx

Wotcher @taydex Happy Mothering Sunday 💐

Wotcher @taydex Happy Mothering Sunday 💐

I think I did mean fridge (Petri dish, Tupperware, whatever they store the embryos in)... . I've been feeling pretty wonky and sore after the EC, and I got excited too early - I know that they may not all make it to day 5, let alone the freezer...

Taydex - nice to see you on the thread 5 months!? How did that happen? I hope your little family are all enjoying things.

Pez - I hope your clinic visit today goes well.

Stork - you're not out yet! Still crossing my fingers for you

And I would definitely be up for a thread meet-up

My best laid plans have gone to pot today My mum who has been looking forward to staying and helping me with baby in the first few weeks has broken her shoulder. The consultant said two months at least before she will be able to use that arm. Mum is upset because she was looking forward to being hands-on helping with baby and I'm now wondering how the heck I'll manage especially if I have to have a CS. Argh! (By the way, I know that all sounds really selfish and my overriding concern is that my mum allows her shoulder to recover properly to avoid long-term issues, but the timing is pants!).

Rant over

late my first EC really knocked me, so I get it, just listen to your body, and sleep when you can if you need too. My 2nd EC was a walk in the park, compare to the first.

And yeah, it's out of our hands, ideally you want to get several to day 5 and get some in the freezer! We all want that. I have my fingers crossed for you. Xoxo

Ah shoes that sucks about ur mum and agree completely bad timing!!!
My sister had a cs and was advised not to drive for 6 weeks and not to lift anything heavier than the baby (she is married so unlike us not relying on me,myself and I) but her DH was back at work after 2weeks so she had to do everything else for herself and she managed alone so try not to panic. Think as long as everything is set up at home ready & there will be lots of friends that will help out you'll be ok 🙂(I know it's not the same) oh also don't know what your planning baby to sleep on from beginning but her little one slept in a Moses or the next to me bed boosted with some expensive pod thing but basically something shallow so didn't have to lift too far especially as will be doing feeds etc.
Again I know it's not the same but I'm always here if u need any help (obviously when not at work 🙄)hopefully her body will heal well and then they'll only be a couple of weeks until she can do a bit more. Sometimes just having someone there is enough xx

Ha ha Late definitely in Tupperware! What I mean is they don't keep them cold at this stage - it's more like an incubator. Sorry you're not feeling great, keep rested, the tenderness does (should) pass after the first few days. I got a funny look at work the next day because I was lowering myself into a chair so gingerly! It's ok to get excited about there being lots collected! That's the best place to start. I was a bit shocked at the drop off from eggs collected to eggs fertilised to blastocysts and I thought the clinic were maybe giving me a low estimate to manage expectations but they ended up being spot on. Nothing you can do now though except hope and know that they are having positive thoughts beamed at them from all corners of mumsnet.

Shoes sorry about your mum. I keep worrying (irrationally) that my parents will die or suffer ill health before I get going.

Very sorry to hear about your mum shoes but I am confident you will be fine.

Just had a bit of a melt down at restaurant when my brother gave me a mother's day gift too 💔

Oh Kwick.

There's a silver lining though Kwick - what a lovely brother you have

Welcome Mamasloth :)

Hey Taydex! 5 months?! That's flown by! Happy Mother's Day to you, and your wife - you're both brilliant mummy's to little Mya!

Shoes that's awful, I'm so sorry about your Mum! Wishing her a speedy recovery

Kwick that's so lovely of your brother... How thoughtful!

Still very sore from my surgery, still taking it easy. Left side is worse than the right, but I think that's because that's where the cyst was... I keep getting pain in the crook of my hip whenever I walk so I'm trying not to

My Nan, bless her heart, is so excited about me having a child. Considering I thought she'd be negative, it's a huge relief! When I visited earlier, she said to me "you'll be getting a Mother's Day card from 'the bump' this time next year!" And I couldn't help but smile. She's so on board and excited... Having her support means the world!!

Happy Mother's Day to all you lovely yummy mummy's to be xo

Shoes - I had a planned c section and recovery was really quick. I was driving within 4 weeks (with midwife and insurance approval). I think just having your mum there will be a great help. There is still plenty of support she can give, even if just making a cup of tea or keeping an eye on the baby while you shower. I wish her a speedy recovery though.

Can someone please PM me if there is a meet up as I find it hard to get time to keep up to date with this.

Aww kwick that was so nice of your brother

Will do taydex x

Kwick. You've got such a lovely brother! How nice. Not surprised it made you cry a little though x
Shoes. How horrible for you and your mum. It's crappy when things like this happen. However, I'm sure she'll still be able to help out, just not in the heavy lifting type way. Fingers crossed you won't need a CS but even if you do then I'm sure you'll find a way to make it work

kwick I think your brother did a lovely thing.

Hi taydex! So nice to see you drop in.

shoes that's terrible about your mom. I hope it heals quickly. Bad news for helping you, but I'm sure just having her around will be a great help to you even if she can't do all the physical stuff.

Happy Mother's Day to all of you!

This is so sweet kwick but I would have totally lost it too 🌺 did you see I posted pictures on my parking thread for you? 😉

Shoes, your poor mother, this really sucks! But as others have said I'm sure she will still be able to help in some way. Is it too late now for littleshoes to turn?

😁 late, I hope your little embies aren't in a Tupperware!!

caution, take is easy will you? They've been threading cameras and stuff through your abdomen tissues (sorry if that sounds gross) so it will take time to heal but you'll get there in the end.

I have also found out the exact position of my ovaries today as I get stabbing pains and feel rather uncomfortable when sitting. The doctor called earlier and hormone levels were all good so I've just done the trigger shot, which was my 14th and final injection - phew! WFH tomorrow and the rest of the week so can stay in my loose pyjamas ☺️

Hope all the little swimmers fiasco gets sorted out tomorrow pez. So when is ur EC planned for-36hours after?....the trigger is specific time isn't it?

I've just been writing in my baby journal (been writing in it since sept 2015 when starting planning-but not that frequently) really REALLY bored of waiting now 😫

Yeah I did it at 8.30pm on the dot for EC at 8.30am on Tuesday

I have also emailed the lady at ESB (the same one the consultant saw on Saturday in Manchester) to act as a further reminder. I just have to hope for the best now and that the shipping company won't mess up or planes don't get cancel...

I have taken a picture of all empty needles to keep in my journal 😉

Glad you've emailed, I'm sure it will all work out ok. It's in both their interests to get it sorted.

I'm trying to hold out emailing the donor clinic as I haven't heard anymore about my donor being shipped to my clinic yet (I have about 6weeks but OCD is insane) I'll be let known when it does happen as my clinic send me a form with details to check but I've set a little date for mid April that if haven't heard anything then I'm going to chase up as that's reasonable to start being more
forceful as my meds are also being ordered then too.

Shoes - is little shoes breech? That's why I ended up with a planned c section for Mya as she was too comfy in there to turn around (despite me trying everything).