#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome! Thread #6

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Pez, I've just caught up and I am livid on your behalf. This is an almighty screw up on behalf of your clinic, and they should be moving mountains to rectify it. Is there an option to delay egg collection for a couple of days?

I hope you managed some sleep, and you can distract yourself with something this weekend. I wish I could do something to help.

Hi late, they are moving it to Tuesday and are scanning me every day until then. There is a risk I lose my leading follicles as some of them are already at 20+ and the smaller ones might not even have time to catch up as they were at 9 yesterday.
And there is no guarantee the sperm will be there on Tuesday anyway in which case all is lost

I get the crying headache too Pez though thankfully it's been a long time since I cried that hard.

FedEx so a service called a Europe First which both the U.K. and Denmark are included in and which guarantees delivery by 9/9.30/10 the next day, depending on destination. It won't be the only service like that, but it's proof that they exist www.fedex.com/gr/services/europefirst.html

I would be much more confident in that than a general next day service because they have to put such a specific effort into getting it here that it's more likely to make it.

What time is your appointment today? Let us know what happens.

I was thinking earlier that they'd also messed something up about an IUI too - accidental progesterone? Or am I thinking of someone else?

Yep that was me too witch - I'm starting to think the odds are against me...

My appointment is at 11:40 but I'll get there early to talk to the Embryologist team who will deal with the order on Monday. I'll mention the FedEx service. ESB used TNT last time and it was on the van for delivery in London city at around 9am but didn't make it to the clinic until 3.15pm.
What really annoys me is that it looks like it's me (with your help ☺️) looking for solutions while they're super relaxed about it all.
I plan to make a proper fuss every day I go as I can feel that if I release the pressure this is not going to happen

So much stress when I should be relaxing this weekend....

Late, I hope you get good numbers today x

pez i hope the clinic has some answers for you today and you should definitely ask abput compensation for all the stress they have put you through, what time is your appointment?

pickle haven't arranged counselling yet although did say I would take it. Never thought about the pregnancy slot running out so will check that out with ESB before I order should be fine though cause I will bebusing it in May. Not sure yet if I am going to order multiple straws, it's only £100 delivery so might just order as I go.

Thanks Bear, I have a pregnancy slot with the ESB and it doesn't run out.
I also pay €100 for delivery which is why I only ordered 1 straw this time (the travelling straw 😎)

Just been thinking... I hope they don't send me back the exact same straw!!!!

shoes I did not realise that your work was not nice. Are you not going back?

Great advice ladies
I had dinner last night with a close friend who is the yin to my yang and she told me what works for her and how I need to find what works for me.
First off I am going to track my weight and BMI - check! ✅
Second I need to get more active - but still need to take it a bit easy due to my gammy leg.
I work better with shorter goals (in general) so maybe should just try and stick to 1-2 lbs a week (although using metric to track height and weight!).
I am not going to tell family about this - my mum will just turn into a control freak and I will then push back which is counter productive.

Thanks for parking thread shoes

pez this is awful. How can they miss a delivery?
Everyone else has provided very good advice, which is not my best trait.
What I will say is that I am in admiration of your strength and soundness of mind. I am all fired up by your fighting spirit - would you like me to come with you to the clinic today?
I get the crying headaches too - drink lots of water and eat something salty. You are dehydrated.

Some "good" news: AF arrived last night

The odds are not against you Pez!!!! The clinic just has sloppy processes and needs to up their game in caring and trying solve problems they have created!

My logic with the timed service is that late = later that day, whereas with a next day service late = the following day.

Kwick good news on your period, this really is the only time in our lives that we look forward to them! I'm now imagining a delegation of us arriving with Pez at her clinic. We need some kind of battle outfit.

I agree short term goals help - more immediate and more achievable. Can you swim with your leg? Or go on a cross trainer? I had a knee injury for a while and couldn't run but the motion of a cross trainer was ok.

Pickle sounds like you were having fun last night! Will be nice that you are Bear are going together

witch a battle outfit... I LOVE it!!! I do not own any camoflauge or army gear...

I think my leg will be fine for me to start swimming and light yoga (which I dreamed about last night) but exercise efforts are severely hampered until I reduce my travelling... not sure how quick that change will come, they haven't even posted the job yet.

Ladies as I feel this thread may move fast before I have the chance to be by a computer again I am going to start a new thread... hope that is ok?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7

That's good new re AF kwick, funny how sometimes our bodies need a gentle push to react - yours was probably on hold until you saw your consultant re blood results

That's so kind of you to offer to come to the clinic - I would love this but I'm scared of being in tears the whole time! My appointment is in 50min so if you're around maybe we could grab a decaf drink? Honestly, don't worry if not!!!! This is so late minute!!! It's such a lovely sunny day too. Witch, are you around?

You ladies know more about the issue and understand it better that any of my close friends who basically don't know what to say...

sorry in my haste I did not explain that well..

Ladies - here is a new thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7

I am going to close this one down with my usual technique!

oops did not see your post Pez
I am still in my jimjams - but am just about to get up. Don't worry about the tears. Where is your clinic?

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I'll respond on the other thread kwick

Ladies - here is a new thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7

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