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#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome! Thread #6

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kwick · 24/02/2017 13:13

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome!  Thread #6
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pickle162 · 22/03/2017 18:28

Thank you my lovely kwick xx I'm hoping it will ease off a bit once hormones settle so will give myself a week. I hate phoning for appointments and then I worry about whether they'll charge me for it.... I wonder what it's like not to over analyse things.
I'll try and have a quick chat with my manager tomorrow if possible so she can Keep an eye on the signs

Pez82 · 22/03/2017 18:33

Caution, yay 😊 a massive ✅ on your journey! In no time you'll be joining the fun stuff 😁

Pickle, I don't want you to go to the dark place either - talk to us and rant as much as you need to! you're so responsible and have taken real ownership to prevent this from happening. It WILL be all worth it, one step at a time.

Kwick, these anniversaries must be so hard, I'm sorry. Treat yourself to something yummy in Paris tonight!!

Bear1980 · 22/03/2017 18:51

Yay caution now that you have answers you can plough ahead, hopefully that makes any pain from today worth it Smile

pickle no shame in talking to a counsellor, sometimes it helps to talk to someone slightly removed from you day to day life. Getting your feelings out in the open will hopefully help you to stop fixating.

kwick anniversaries of important things can be difficult, hope you are doing ok today Flowers

I am happy today because I got a positive opk. Was a bit worried because I didn't get one last month when I first started using digital tests. In reality I think I missed it because I had an unusually short cycle last month but there is always the worry that I wasn't ovulating. A mix of cheap tests and digital worked for me this month Grin. Got Hycosy on Friday so hopefully that's all clear and I can focus on the next steps

pickle162 · 22/03/2017 19:13

Yah for positive bear 🐻😊such a fab feeling isn't it
Thanks pez & bear

Latenightreader · 22/03/2017 19:38

Pickle I had a few weeks of counselling last summer and it was incredible what a difference it made. I learned a lot of techniques for positive thinking and for not getting angry with myself about things. I had mine via the local Healthy Minds service so it was free, and amazingly the waiting list wasn't long at all. The hardest part was making the appointment (took me months), and then from there it flowed.

pickle162 · 22/03/2017 19:50

I've had counselling on and off for years individually and in group sessions and ultimately hate the "and how did that make you feel" I did cbt etc. I wouldn't want to see a generic counsellor but happy to see the clinic one because they will be used to the hormonal Ramblings of people on this journey rather than trying to drag some deep and dark feelings out of me. I've only been on mycrogynon for 6 days so hoping things will just even themselves out and I can stop wingeing (if I stopped waking at 4am I think it would help)

Pez82 · 22/03/2017 20:29

It took me 20min to do the Cetrotide injection! Not the injection in itself (this was fine) but the whole faff about dissolving the powder and drawing all the solution into the syringe.
I have to say though that this brings a lot of satisfaction when it's done!

Late, are you triggering tonight??

pickle162 · 22/03/2017 20:35

Exciting times pez 🙂 I'm really looking forward to the injection stage (apart from the I'm likely to turn into psycho 😂) wishing u lots of good luck sweetie, u deserve this to go well

INeedNewShoes · 22/03/2017 20:35

Caution - so pleased to hear you're still with us Grin (not that I ever thought you wouldn't be). It sounds as though what was found is manageable, so that's good news. I hope you're resting well now and being looked after Smile

Latenightreader · 22/03/2017 20:46

I am Pez - 11pm. I've set two alarms on my phone and am terrified I'm going to miss it... I was up at 5:30 to get to the clinic for the scan at 7:15 (missed all but the start of rush hour, arrived at 6:40 before all the staff) so I am almost dozing off now!

Cetrotide took me ages too, but I got into a bit of routine where I left the stuff dissolving in the bottle while I prepared the other and injected that. I also discovered that by squirting the mixer (sterile solution?) into the vial slowly I didn't get the froth I managed the first time.

Greeneyes5 · 22/03/2017 20:58

anyone else watching the back up plan tonight on itv2?

Pez82 · 22/03/2017 21:01

You won't miss it late!

Ah ah I remember seeing it years ago greeneyes. I'm too tired to watch it tonight but might do so on catch up this weekend when I'm too bloated to do anything!

pickle162 · 22/03/2017 21:10

Greys anatomy night for me. Just looked it up would like to see- have set up for itv+1. Hope they do it well tho, shame there has to be a man that rides in on his little white horse tho rather than just being about AI... I don't expect that to happen to me but I would still go ahead with what I'm doing-what happens if u didn't try and then it all fell apart and you've gone back a step. Let us know whether it's good before I watch. Thanks x

pickle162 · 22/03/2017 21:11

Ooh late is that ur last injection before EC?

Greeneyes5 · 22/03/2017 21:16

The best part for me is when she's had the insemination and she has her legs in the air talking to the magic potion to please please work that would be me! A few words of encouragement! A defo romcom :-)

pickle162 · 22/03/2017 21:37

Lol me too....altho I'll prob be too focused on what's being shoved where...at least I have 3scans before the iui so should get me more used to people doing stuff down there.... I will need to go to unicorn 🦄 land for a little while & separate myself and then I can resume talking to my little millions of sperms inside me and telling them to go find an egg and make me a baby 👶🏻
Night peeps, I'm pooped xx

Latenightreader · 22/03/2017 21:42

YEs pickle , final gonal f and cetrotide at about5pm this afternoon, and now clock watching with the gonasi and buserelin on the table next to the sofa! EC on Friday morning... I have an amazing friend who is driving me there and returning to collect me after.

CautionHormone · 22/03/2017 22:00

Hey lovely ladies, thank you!!
I'm too tired to do a massive update, but I'm with my mum and dad and they're looking after me great. I think tomorrow warrants a day in bed (as I doubt I'll be able to move very far with the way I feel now - sitting still stiffens me after five mins so laying for 8+hrs is gonna do me no good!) watching Prison Break.

Thank you for your support today ladies, it's really appreciated. My little fertility family Grin love you all ❤️

witchmountain · 22/03/2017 22:20

Bed for me too, been looking forward to this since my alarm went off this morning!

So, you've just made me wonder, with IUI, is it weird having the sperm inside you - like the thought of it I mean? Although actually now I'm wondering if you get bits dribbling out like after sex? Eww. This is weird, I have had my fair share of enthusiastic sex, but I seem to have become squeamish now I'm out of practice!

Well done for being alive Caution! Actually sounds like the whole thing might have been a positive? Rather than turning up for your first scan and finding things weren't right?Hope your recovery goes well. My top tip for GA is not to fall asleep under your friend's washing line only for the sun to move and for you to wake up burnt. Bit late for that though and I don't know about everyone else but it pissed down on my cycle to work this morning.

Pickle hugs 💪 (can't find hugging emoticon so take that as a hugging arm!). I am absolutely certain you won't let anything stop you. You've been so single minded the whole way through so far. Leaving the pill aside, I thing it would be normal to be reacting now because it's all getting a lot more real! The fact they have counsellors on site tells you everything about how emotional the process is.

Bear yay for positive!

Kwick I hope you've made it through the day and coped with the anniversary FlowersFlowersFlowers how are you feeling about Friday? It's a big week.

Karen you scan is Friday too? Actually i think I already asked that, ignore me. I'm thinking of you anyway.

Loving all the songs. We'll have our own playlist at this rate!

Phoenix after you get the solid face it just stays for 2 days (regardless if you test it not, it's just stuck there). To find out what was going on I had multiple sticks going on so I could try later and the next day with another one. I found after I got my peak (solid face) the next test always went straight to low without stopping at the flashing face. But these things seem to depend from person to person. Loving the cat on heat comment. I worked with this guy once and I could tell when I was ovulating because I'd become obsessed with his hands, there was just something about them that really turned me on! And thanks for the comment about my previous rambling thoughts. And for others' comments.

Pez I think I displace my crying, so I'll cry all day about stuff on the radio but not directly about life stuff! Cheering on yours and Late's follicles. And your embryos Stork.

Shoes glad you parents are on hand. My dad made a six hour round trip to get me from my first egg collection Smile I think they like to be involved!

TTC3 I am a terrible procrastinator. It sounds like you have some insight into what's holding you back. So here's your gentle kick up the arse: get yourself on the list and then get on with dealing with the feelings that it brings - sadness, disappointment etc. You're going to have to deal with them anyway at some point FlowersFlowers and they are nagging away in the background anyway. When would you like us to check in with you to see if you've done it? Wink

witchcat is trying to climb onto to my head into an attempt to make me cuddle him, so it's time for sleep! Night all xxx

pickle162 · 23/03/2017 06:15

Witch hope you had nice sleep with witchcat 🐱** (that's so cute-when I used to stay round my friends (a lot-before I lived 5 mins walk away) her cats always used to come sleep on my bed and one of them if it was cold would always try to come under the cuddles and then stretch out like a bean pole 😄

So the sperm thing, my consultant told me that if it's put in correctly then it shouldn't dribble out as it's gone in much further than would the normal way and directly to the cervix so it doesn't have to swim as far....so no headstands required (a friend use to do this after sex when trying to get preg(so she told me, in no way was I there to witness 😱))

kwick · 23/03/2017 07:26

Yep never have had any dribbling from an IUI.

Tomorrow is indeed a big day - meeting in the morning with my boss re an interim 12 month role - which will probably mean a pay cut and losing my redundancy rights but that I will apply for anyway as it will mean less travel and hopefully less shit. And then early afternoon I am meeting consultant for test results.

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TTC3years · 23/03/2017 08:59

Witch I am off work today and have absolutely no excuse not to get it done. I've just negotiated a 5 year old into a classroom done the school run, once I've walked the dog and been to Asda I am home for the day with my to do list and piles of stuff I need to sort which I've just dumped unceremoniously on my bed!

INeedNewShoes · 23/03/2017 09:15

Ooh does our thread have its very own sockpuppet in the making? Wink
That's been a good brain workout for my daft pregnancy brain working out who the name-changer is Grin

Kwick - good luck today, for both meetings.

I can also say that none of my four IUIs involved any dribbling.

TTC3years · 23/03/2017 09:18

Haha I have 3 usernames depending on what I am posting! I've reported it but hoped everyone was busy this morning and no one would notice Blush

PhoenixMama · 23/03/2017 09:29

Morning ladies! Just checking in. Loving all the updates. You guys are the best.

Laughing about the Back Up Plan - haven't seen it in ages. My friends are convinced that I'm going to meet the love of my life when I'm pregnant Hmm

That said I've had a disproportionate amount of men suddenly show interest in me - its like they can smell it on me! Not changing my plans but seriously!!!

Hope you all have a great day!