#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome! Thread #6

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Ps munro, how are you feeling after a few days away from work? Hope it's helping your mind settle a bit x

Hi poppy welcome
Everyone is totally fab on here for support and information!!
Agree with what someone else said if your not freaking out a little bit then it's not normal.
I go through cycles of so excited,to omg what am I doing this will be so hard,can I afford it etc etc!!!to yay can't wait to start etc etc it is definitely a rollercoaster! I'm single and going alone but have lots of good friends and everyone here for support.
So I've had my first consultation and AMH tests, brought my donor sperm x 6straws, nurses appointment for total overload of information is on 1week 5 days, I have one more proper AF left then starting on microgynon on CD of April AF so can be more accurate with dates and booked in for all my scans in may leading up to iui which should be on 15th May....currently in the very excited mood with a hint of how the fek will I cope if it's a bfn with a huge hint of eek how will I deal with something shoved up there 😳

Pickle hahaha love your honest response!
Snork things are getting better slowly since being off work since wed. I had my hycosy on Tues and I think that pushed me over the edge. I've been focusing on being healthy in body and mind. My first iui at the end of March So need to be less stressed by then.
This group helps loads x

Snork, folic acid and vit D are the most important. Then I also take maca, CoQ10, royal jelly and cod liver oil (but I stop these during the TWW). I've read about a lot of women taking vitex but I'm worried this would create some unbalance to my very regular cycles. I get all the other vit B, C etc. from eating cleverly. I tried Pregnacare conception for a few weeks until I realised it was stopping me from ovulating (due to high level of B6)

Colourful vegs are key: red pepper, asparagus, broccoli, leafy greens and then avocados, salmon, mussels, and nuts especially Brazil nuts and pistachios for selenium, and pumpkin seeds and sunflower seeds

I still drink a cup of tea in the morning and a coffee when I'm not in the TWW and really fancy one. The rest of the time I stick to peppermint tea (which also helps with my IBS so it's a win win situation) and fresh ginger and lemon (fresh ginger is good for blood circulation so I also add it to stir fries, rice noodles etc)

I did also have a mojito last weekend to cheer me up - first spirit I had in nearly 5months, it was delicious!!! And made me tipsy too

I LOVE MOJITOs 😍

Welcome @Poppy2210!

Not doing so good but at least I slept well. Have to be at work tomorrow at 7am and I am already dreading week ahead.

I have a whole pack of info on what to eat - happy to share by email, just PM me. This came from FC.
Also would strongly recommend this book for advice on supplements.

I gave up alcohol and caffeine after my first IUI back in September 2015. I allow myself one normal tea a day.

pez why do you stop co-enzyme q10 in 2ww - I continued right through until most recent MC... am now wracked with guilt.

Sorry your feeling apprehensive about coming week and down kwick
You know where I am if you want to have a big sweary pm rant lovely xx

Another vote for mojitos here!

Thanks Pez! I eat a lot of those things anyway (I genuinely love and crave vegetables of all kinds), also excited about having a good reason to eat mussels which I never think to buy for myself! Seafood spaghetti here we come....

Thanks kwick, I sent you a pm. Sorry you've got the Sunday dread, it's horrible :( Hope your week gets off to a reasonably OK start x

munro, that all sounds positive, glad things are looking a little brighter. I'm trying to do the same with body and mind, it gives me something to focus on and makes me feel like I'm doing something proactive so it's doubly beneficial. I think when times are tough going back to focus on the basics like sleep and eating well is a good place to start, like putting in good foundations :)

kwick, don't worry I'm sure staying on CoQ10 wouldn't have caused your MC. I read a few weeks back (can't remember where) that some chinese herbs and other supplements (e.g. fish liver oil) should be avoided during TWW but I can't remember anything specific about CoQ10. I only take 100mg of it every day anyway so I don't even think it does anything...

I'll try and see if I can find my source

I can't seem to find the info I read a couple of weeks back but the following links might help - there seems to be a lot of conflicting information on supplements to avoid! I still take a bit of maca every other day during www as I remember reading that stopping chinese herbs too abruptly can be damaging too.

kwick I think you would need to take a serious amount of CoQ10 for it to cause an issue - the stuff is so expensive too that it;s nice not to have to take it for a couple of weeks

natural-fertility-info.com/supplements-during-pregnancy.html

www.fertilityafter40.com/9-fertility-wonder-foods-separating-myth-from-fact-to-get-pregnant-faster-naturally.html

And I meant TWW of course!

kwick I don't think that there are any worries about q10. You should be able to stay on it right through your pregnancy. I'm sorry you are feeling so apprehensive about work. I hope things go better than you think. X

What us q10 and what are the benefits?
I'm only taking vitD and folic acid.
I have a pretty healthy diet. Don't drink alcohol hardly ever and I don't like tea or coffee. I do drink the odd diet coke tho.
I have at least 2or3 vegetarian days per week and eat mostly fish and chicken for meats. Do I need to take some more supplements?
Sometimes feels like a minefield trying to get things right!

pez thanks. I found a really cheap supplier for the q10 - which is said to aid egg quality - but that may mean I am taking a dud.
Same for my DHEA...

munro you should read the book It starts with the egg - different supplements advised for different issues.

For anyone starting out, if all tests came back in the normal range I would personally start with unmedicated IUI. After all, if your hormones are balanced, why meddle with them and pay for the privilege of doing so?

There have been at least two ladies on this thread who after BFNs on IVF or medicated cycles have gone on to get a BFP on unmedicated IUI.

I can't keep up any more. You lot are too talkative

Kwick - sorry that the thought of a new working week is so ugh. Just try to get the day done tomorrow and get home to a relaxing evening if you can

@kwick-didn't know how to copy the link for this on the app but thought you might find this chat thread relevant xx

Thanks pickle

Anyone mind if I join the gang?

More the merrier grinandtonic

@GrinAndTonic welcome!!! What's your story?

Yes Grin tell all! And welcome!

Off for CD9 scan to see how my follies are doing.....

Welcome Grin 😀

Hi everyone
Well first all I am Australian living in Australia but lived in England for many years so I'll be the last one to know all the goss.
DH and I fall into the fun 'unexplained" category so nothing works for us. After three rounds of clomid, a few exploratory surgeries and procedures and three full IVF/ICSI rounds (every one with total failed fertilisation) we are going down the donor embryo route. We have found the embryos ourselves through a website and they are sitting in the freezer at our clinic waiting for me to find the time and money to have them transferred.

Welcome Grin! You bring so much more diversity to our group, a whole new continent and also I believe you're the first one of the group to use donor embryo.
Sorry to hear the journey has been really bumpy so far but great news about having the next step just round the corner. This group is so supportive, you've come to the right place

Stork, let us know re follies growth

Hoping, nearly half way though the TWOT for you! How are you coping?

Cherry, when's your beta?? Hope those lines got darker over the weekend

I'm much more relaxed this time round. The clinic emailed me the cost for the meds based on my future ivf protocol and I should be ready to go as soon as I find out the outcome of this cycle. I prefer to think it hasn't worked and focus on the next step, hopefully that will make this TWW easier to go through!