Why are wonen greedy........

[CoparentingDad]

......excuse the provocative title, the correct term is 'I'm entitled to xyz'?

I'm genuinely interested to know.

I built up assets - a pension, ISA, a seven figure house, a successful business for 19 years before I even met my exDW.

She did not have anything to do with any of this or contribute in any way.

My exDw brought debt into our relationship which I paid off, she got fired 9 months into our relationship and could never find a job that suited her, so I transferred £2k a month to her bank account (BIG mistake - that sets precedent apparently, so for being generous, you get fucked more on divorce)

We got married in our 30's (me 38, her 34), it’s not like she didn’t have a chance to do these things.

She’d never paid into a pension, bought a house, put into an ISA.

Yes, I know it’s my fault as I’m the mug that married her.

BUT, what makes you feel entitled to things that a man has built up 20 years leading up to meeting him?

Thanks

Why can't men spell women????

I shouldn't laugh... but I have noticed stbxh has been watching more yeti searching and monster fishing programmes since getting the divorce papers 😂

millymollymoomoo · Today 20:45
I agree with you op

but I would say the gender is not important

if you’re the financially stronger party don’t ever get married !

Or have the wit to protect your pre marriage assets, and know that you will certainly need to support any children of the marriage.

I note you are carefully avoiding answering any questions about the length of the marriage and how many children you have.

I suspect the answers might cast a rather different light on why your ex pursued her share of the marital assets, ie to ensure that her children had a roof over their heads and access to a reasonable lifestyle.

Op, you haven’t answered the question about whether or not you have children with this woman. Which leads me to believe that you have? In that case, I’m not sure what the point of this thread is? You, as a decent and reasonable man, who takes exception to “greed” along with your lovely and far more suitable 2nd wife, would of course want to provide the best for your offspring? Want your own children to benefit from the financially savvy decisions you have made in your life? And of course you’ll be doing at least 50/50 childcare and making sure your children want for nothing, since you are so well off? With the support of fabulous wife no 2 of course…..

Oh my god, my brother got divorced and it's all he watches. That and stuff about blokes building sheds or whatnot. It's another world.

I agree but there’s another side.

As the financially strain get partner don’t expect to have kids and the financially weaker person make sacrifices to have those children.

I say that as someone who is the financially stronger person. I would be a piece of shit if I said to do let’s have a baby, you stay at home but I won’t give you any stability and I could just walk away at anytime leaving you in the shit.

i get Op says his ex wife didn’t give up work for kids. But I bet she has a different version. But even if his version is true, when discussing kids and marriage both sides should be taken into account.

@CoparentingDad
Ermmmm, not all women are greedy....
Most of us are reasonable, we actually want to share household, childcare and financial responsibilities... You made an error- sorry. Lots of people make errors and end up with people who fuck them over....It's crap. Many many women are royally fucked over by crap husbands, they are left financially buggered and with all the childcare and child-related costs. The patriarchy is truly shit for all reasonable men and women. Making the whole thing a 'them and us' (male/female) power and control thing is not a good look.
I suggest you reflect....

I'm financially stronger. I've always been the higher earner and I'm the only earner now. I know the situation, and am in a very happy marriage, almost 32 years now..

Maybe I should start a thread with the title "Why are all men moaning, whiners who blame women for everything?" 🤔

I agree with your thoughts. A spouse should not automatically be able to raid assets their partner has built up through hard work or inheritance.. This should apply equally to men and women.

I'm wondering what you even think marriage is. It is no secret that it is a legal contract that financially ties you to another person. Clearly it will benefit the poorer partner in the relationship if there is a big wealth discrepancy. But marriage is still a choice. You made that choice that you now regret. Yet you've done it again. Did you do anything to protect your wealth this time or are you just going to blame other people again if this marriage ends and you're expected to pay out to sever the contract?

Oooh is it school holidays already?

pistonheads will probably be much more likely to tell you you're right OP

Why did you marry another greedy person (your current wife), and does she know that you’re slagging her off on a forum?

You mean, "Why are all nen moaning ...?"

I don't know why any self respecting man wouldn't want the mother of his children to have enough money to support herself when she's more than likely sacrificed a career or promotion to bring up his kids.

#decency.

Why did you marry her, she was already showing issues incompatible with you before marrying?

This

Do better OP.

Why do ugly men with boring personalities think good looking younger women marry them without getting something out of it?

No-one is "raiding assets". Most people fully understand what marriage entails, for goodness sake. This bloke is clueless, most of us aren't.

Makes you wonder how he made millions.

Why aren't you answering whether you have kids with your ex or not?

Give him time to think up an answer.

Indeed. I suspect one of those gamer shops or a comic book store.

Don't exist in British law