Similar story here- parents have been together for 45 years or something crazy- second marriage for both of them. My dad was always the breadwinner and my mum had a very 1950s role- does all the housework, always made his lunch for work, gets his clothes out for him ach day. I remember as a kid she would complain about it because if she forgot to do one of these things he would go to work with no lunch, or wear clothes from the day before, and I always wondered why you'd totally mother a grown man.
The in my marriage, I started doing the stuff round the house. I appreciated a tidy home and thought this was a way of showing love- comes home to a nice clean home, laundry done, dinner sorted. Unlike my mum though, I always worked full time and was the breadwinner. I wondered when asking for a divorce whether it's all my doing from going too much, but I realise it's not me, it's him. He's perfectly content to do nothing. I still don't really get why my parents got together, two very different people with very different views, and no real love to see. I want more for my children than that, and more for me too.
@WinkyTinky - I would say maybe we have the same STBXH but that would require effort on his part...and effort isn't really his thing haha.