Are you friends with the man you divorced or absolutely no way?

[BirthdayRainbow]

I have a thread about my divorce but wanted a more tailored answer just for this question.

I have no intention or desire to have any contact with my STBEH once we are divorced and I have moved.

One of his relatives has already said we have to find a way to get on because of graduations, weddings etc.

My friend divorced her husband who treated her appallingly and it took two years but they get on fine now.

I do not want to be friends with him and my children do not expect me to spend any time with him. Them, my ex and I do not and will not ever have to be in the same place together.

Why do people think you would want to be mates with someone who has treated you so badly and hurt you so much that you want to divorce them?

Despite my exh being a cheating/lying bastard, who is still trying to screw me financially and cost me a lot in lawyers fees (and still no end in sight) I actually would be happy to be amicable with him, but he is intensely bitter and his insecure girlfriend has an interest in stirring the pot so not likley to happen. I am happier (single) than I have ever been which he (and she) really hates.