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[Imafreeelf]

Hi everyone,

I've nc and new shiny thread to help me get through this divorce.

For those that didn't see my last one (it's been removed for my protection) I'm at the start of a divorce because my 'd'h couldn't stand up to his bullying and threatening parents.

Please let me know that you have found me!

Purely vomit inducing

Who the fuck does he think he is?

Definitely ask your mum to butt out (nicely of course). But her going behind your back is not helping.

I hope you are better now elf.
how is it going?

Thank you all for continuing to support me. Mum has gone home now, we discussed it and think it's for the best. He kept interrogating her! (Of course in a lovely manner )
Not seen him so tonight will be the first night on our own. Can't say I'm looking forward to it

Just keep occupied. Nose in a book or eyes on laptop or tablet is best, I think. It requires you to keep your eyes down (away from him and what he's doing), it requires concentration, and it's not something you 'share', like watching and commenting on TV.

Oh, and put in earbuds. You don't have to actually be listening to anything, just stick them in and bob your head to an imaginary beat every so often.

If you decide to do a laptop or tablet, find a good 'rabbit hole' to go down. Conspiracy theories, strange disappearances, crypto-zoology, UFOs. I don't believe in any of that stuff, but it can be fascinating to read and usually puts me in a 'zone' and makes the time fly. I think I spent 3 hours once in a rabbit hole about the 'Mothman'.

I agree with Across. You can also browse the Mumsnet Classic here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics

I'm recently hooked by Ask A Manager - it's a blog in which a former manager answers questions about, well, work (mostly US-based), but I find it fascinating and addictive. People are really, really weird!

www.askamanager.org/

I hope tonight goes easy Elf.
Those websites are very good Distance and you gave very good advices Across.

Thanks for the advice everyone. It's been ok, I've kept busy packing!

You are all going to love this one - had a night out last night and of course he asks who with, where etc. But the golden question was this : you're not going to bring someone back here are you?!

I mean, really?! I'm not like that anyway but what a stupid idea. Can you imagine the morning scenario if I did have no morals. Stbxh this is my ons, ons this is my stbxh. Now I'm just nipping to the loo so you can compare notes!

What was he thinking?! I'm quite offended

Judging you by his standards!!!

That's just him playing mind games @Imafreeelf. Don't give it head space. Wishing you as happy a Christmas it can be under the circumstances x

Oooooooh, he's starting to realise that you're not going to be a cloistered nun for the rest of your life AND HE'S NOT LIKING IT ONE BIT!

To be honest, I don't think that bringing someone home overnight would mean that you had no morals. Your marriage is over. You're a free woman. (Not that I'm advising it, because it would be awkward. But immoral? No).

I did wonder if he wants to have something to blame the ending of the marriage on "I wanted it to work but she was sleeping around"

Who cares he's an arse!!!

Oh for Heaven's sake!! And I suppose he asked it with either tears in his eyes or that stupid mock fear and horror tone.

Best to just ignore (remember; shrug and eyeroll) but I probably would have said "Thanks for the idea!".

I so wish I'd said 'thanks for the idea!!' That's brilliant! I just said that I was better than that and wouldn't want him spoiling it being in the next room! I then said but if I get an opportunity out, I won't say no! Ha, the look of horror on his face! It felt so good.

Thank you for continuing to support me everyone and I wish all of you a very merry Christmas!

Hello I'mafreeelf I hope everything is okay tomorrow and you're move Tuesday goes smoothly

but if I get an opportunity out, I won't say no!

Brilliant @Imafreeelf

Brilliant!!!

Nice one!

Hi Elf just wanted to say Happy Christmas.
I hope you manage to get through the next couple of days without too much aggravation for stbxh.
I have been where you are now and trust me it does get better.

Merry Christmas, Elf!!!!

Brilliant response!

Merry Christmas Elf x

Merry Christmas @Imafreeelf x

How are things going Elf?

Hope your OK OP.... x

Happy new year everyone!
I’ve moved out and things are better thank you.
I’ve even been on a date! Wasn’t meant to be this time but feels like a big step forward. Seen stbxh on same dating site so he’s doing the same!

I hope this progress continues. I’m a bit scared about going backwards

AAwww Elf this is fantastic news.. just wonderful .. well done to you lovely... and a very Happy New Year