Smoking weed

[sunshineandrainbowsparkles]

Ok..... I smoke marijuana, never around my kids but when they are in bed. I've been invited to stay at families house before with my 2 children (4 and 5 now) and it's always been a bit of a military operation if I want to smoke on an evening. My family drink and I don't, so whilst they unwind with a few drinks I like to have a smoke. Do you think they would understand this considering I don't drink, one family member used to smoke weed, and they all know why I can't drink. Am I being out of order expecting my 30 something family members will understand.... or do I just keep hiding it with e tea string mints and bad Avon perfume??

No one beats their wife after too many splifs, no one brawls outside a nightclub because they are stoned. It is far and away safer and far less socially damaging than alcohol.
For the uninformed muppets saying it's addictive, it isn't. It is socially addictive and the tobacco you are smoking it with is addictive, but if you only smoke the odd J of an evening that is unlikely to get you hooked on fags.
All of our family and friends are aware that DH smokes as do my adult sons. I used to but haven't in ages as I am a recovering fag addict and don't want it to encourage me to take up smoking! I do nibble the odd bit of solid now and then.
I would just tell them OP or just stroll to the bottom of the garden on your own and have one there.

No one beats their wife after too many splifs, no one brawls outside a nightclub because they are stoned.

What a stupid comment.

DH has had a few too many drinks and never hit me or had a fight. So what is the point of your statement?

I shall tell my cousin that the day her boyfriend knocked her off every wall in their flat cannot possibly have been because she refused to give him the rent money to buy more weed as stoners just dont do that apparently

I don't get my knickers in a twist about weed OP but I think if you really can't imagine going a few days without it, you might want to have a think about your relationship with it.

Cosmic...
Perhaps you haven't been round people who have smoked skunk, developed psychotic issues and hospitalized their partner? This was a significant issue with our neighbour and we suffered a lot due to passive inhalation.
OP, not suggesting that anything you smoke is like this but the smell is really, really awful and I'm not sure how it couldn't be obvious at a family gathering?

I shall tell my cousin that the day her boyfriend knocked her off every wall in their flat cannot possibly have been because she refused to give him the rent money to buy more weed as stoners just dont do that apparently

If he needed more weed then he clearly wasnt stoned at the time, so is it more likely that his psychological addiction to the weed is what was causing his violence? Correlation does not prove causality

Erm why is that directed at me? My last post states that I have been around somebody who smokes weed and behaves badly.

Just he was always stoned. He had spent all of his money already and knew what he had left weed wise would not last until benefit day.

But hey you stick up for the violent drug addled scumbag just as long as you can justify the use of illegal frugs

I wish people would give up on the old idea that weed if not addictive. Of course it's addictive

OP I would be utterly gobsmacked if one of my 30 something relatives sparked up a joint, seriously. I am dead against any kind of drug use though, I just don't understand what the point is

I would try eating it, or seeing if you can get hold of it in capsule form for when you stay with other people and need to be discreet. Harder to gauge how much you need though or at what point of the evening to take it, which can be a pain

But hey you stick up for the violent drug addled scumbag just as long as you can justify the use of illegal frugs

Them frugs will get you

How is saying his addiction probably fuelled his aggression and not the weed sticking up for him? Please explain, its confused me, how you've come to that conclusion?

I recommend you check out vapourisers, look on Amazon. No smell or smoke. I agree, I will never understand how a bottle of prosecco is socially acceptable when a spliff isn't. Oh yes, I remember, tax!

Yes funny typo Just how hilarious you are to point it out.

The fact is he is a druggie and his need for that drug led him to be violent towards another person. So I was highlighting to zeeboo that stoners can be violent and her statment was stupid.

How is saying his addiction probably fuelled his aggression and not the weed sticking up for him?

Because if it was not for the weed he would not be addicted. So the drug has fuelled his aggression has it not?

Because if it was not for the weed he would not be addicted. So the drug has fuelled his aggression has it not?

Nope, the addiction has fuelled his aggression, the substance itself isnt the problem in that situation I feel, I doubt hed have asked reasonably whether he wanted a bottle of whisky or a wrap of speed

So your saying weed is does not make people violent but you can get addicted to it and the addiction does?
I am not disagreeing. See my earlier response to zeeboo that not every drunk hits their wife or has fights.

What i am saying is that if he did not smoke it then he would not be addicted then he would not have become violent when he could not get it. So the weed does lead to the aggression. How can you say it does not?
I would say the same about an alcoholic.

Perhaps you haven't been round people who have smoked skunk, developed psychotic issues and hospitalized their partner?

The report that proved a 'link' between psychosis incidents in cannabis smokers was discredited, while cannabis use in the UK has risen psychotic incidents involving ONLY cannabis has not. The term 'skunk' is used on cannabis with over a 15-20% THC, so if the market was legal and regulated the sale of such strong strains would be more restricted. The same way during the prohibition era, it wasnt cost effective to be shipping and selling beer (low - med grade cannabis) so they all shifted to whisky (skunk)

I would say the same about an alcoholic.

So its the alcohol that would have made him aggressive not the addiction to the alcohol? What if he was sober but wanted the money to go out drinking that night, was it still the alcohol doing it?

The alcohol is the cause of the addiction and if their need for booze causes them to be violent then booze is the reason. I really don't get what you are not understanding Just
I don't think there is a compound in weed that turned him in to a violent wanker the second he inhaled. Same as i do not think there is an ingrediant in booze that makes people violent after 1 drink. I never said there was. I was going against zeeboos comment that stoners are not violent.

I think we agree but from either end of an argument cosmic

OP, I would be seriously unimpressed if I invited someone to my house and they took illegal drugs. It's irrelevant whether you think it's just the same as drinking - it's about how your hosts feel about it and respecting their wishes while you're in their home.

Not sure if we do Just as i am confused as to what your point to me was?

I don't have problem with people smoking weed. My DH smokes at weekends when the kids are in bed but I think you are out of order to smoke it in secret at other people's houses. Just grow up and respect their house rules. Surely you can manage to go a couple of days without it. If I'm visiting people who don't drink I d

Don't secretly neck vodka in the bathroom I just accept they have different rules.

I have friends who don't drink or like anyone drinking in their house. I like a pint but wouldn't sneak some in and drink it in secret. Their house their rules. I don't mind people smoking cannabis and if they want a spliff at my house they can do outside after children are in bed, but I would respect the rules of whoever's house I'm in.

I can imagine they already know that you're going out for a smoke, if you smoke it daily you probably don't realise how much it smells and how much it lingers.

TBH they would probably actually be fine with it, they're pretty chilled out people. I think it's just my issue why I don't say anything.... maybe I've smoked too much weed and it's made me all paranoid!
As it happens I have gone without many times and the thought doesn't fill me with dread, I think I'll just casually drop it into conversation rather than trying to hide it from now on, it is a bit pathetic.