What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Totally agree with OneWithTheForce re help to avoid abusive relationships.

for you OP

It used to be that on a reception visit a visitor could take a wider range of things in than was normally allowed and some of those things were fairly essential things prisoners relied on visitors for (plastic or enamel plate, bowl and cup I remember for example). But the window for a reception visit was quite small so you'll need to get organised quickly if they have them. Family of women prisoners often have to travel quite a way.

I know exactly how you feel regarding being judged . I've been through some really rough patches with my DD too. I am a good mum and you are too, try not to let the holier than thou brigade get to you , unless they've walked in your shoes they have no right to an opinion.

I hope you and your DD get through this and come out the other end in a better place , she's young and has to cope with epilepsy bless her. It can't be easy.

So she was arrested for kicking the cop? Or fighting back against a violent partner? If the latter, I hope the partner was also arrested otherwise what kind of message does this send? Let people hit you or go to prison? Where is the protection in our society?

I'm sorry you're both going through this.

Honestly drinkswineoutofamug those that judge the hardest are usually the one's that have lots of they're own shit going on and they use them judging as a way of deferring they're own problems and issues.

It sounds like you've had a bloody awful time with it all.

Like other posters have said this could be the making of her,encourage her to get all the help and support that she can whilst she's inside and to study as well and encourage her to talk to someone about the drinking and what she's been taking,they can offer help with that on the inside as well.

She could turn around this one part of her life that's negavtive and turn it into a positive future for herself when she gets out.

Please don't blame yourself,a child could have the best parents in the world and still end up in trouble.

Your being an amazing Mum by standing by your DD you really are

She's been arrested again. I fucking give up

Tonight?

You poor thing

Yes.

Broke her bail meeting up with fuck wit gf . They were for some stupid reason going to the police station via the pub to drop charges so she didn't have to go to court but bail conditions were then broke. She got nicked by a copper that saw them together. Absolute idiot.

:( Is she taking something now that has changed her behaviour?

you must feel at your wits end. So sorry I cant offer any advice, sending massive hugs x

Oh I see she is determined then! she will have explaining to do in court.
I guess you don't need to say anything much to her OP, the consequences speak for themselves. Sorry this is so hard for you right now. Sending big hugs for better times for you and DD xo

It's not up to the ex to drop charges. What's wrong with the pair of them?

Is she in custody?

Do you think you'll be able to get some sleep?

Right police have just phoned me. They have to come here to pick her meds up. Beautiful charge list. Breach of bail, spitting at a officer and she had some cannabis on her. So going to have to wait up.

That's all going to go down well at court tomorrow.

Hope they're round soon. Don't imagine you'll sleep much tonight though.

Thinking of you

Wht will people think?

There but for the grace of god.....

(im not religious but I don't know what a non-religious version would be)

Listen OP, no matter what everything must change. There is nothing permanent in the universe except change. You and DD will get through this. DD is behaving like a cornered animal behaves, instinctively lashing out, spitting police, and so on DD is letting herself down, behaving defensively , without thinking first Not to mention horrible for the poor police (don't envy their job),

Despite this all being a real low point for DD, all is not lost Never give up, she can learn from her stupid mistakes- she always has a choice in what she makes of this.

Oh God OP you poor thing

I think a lot of people are going to be a lot less judgmental than you think. I think every family has a story to tell. My cousin has been in and out of prison; his two siblings are successful and drug free members of society - so it is not down to parenting.

again.

Just want to say I'm thinking of you. You're really brave coming on here and putting yourself out there and I'm so glad your responses have been so kind and constructive. On the surface I'm a 'normal' woman doing reasonably well for herself but I've done some daft things and had my fair share of trouble. I have a mum like you who has shown me such love (unconditional if tough at times) and I want you to know that at the age of 19, she has so much good ahead of her, especially with a mum like you x

Ah, crap.
Agree with pp, no-one will think badly of you.
DD is behaving like a cornered animal behaves, instinctively lashing out. This. I had involvement with the police for MH reasons, it is terrifying. Your DD sounds vulnerable, not bad - as are many women in the criminal justice system.
I hope this is a real turning point for her.
Make sure you get support for you, otherwise you won't be able to be there for her, oxygen mask etc.
Hope they're round before too long, have or

There are also support groups that you can join, they give advice about what to send etc.

They can write a lot of letters in prison so plenty of postage stamps.

Police have just been for her meds. I've been up since 5.30 am yesterday so time for bed.