What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Hope it goes well today. Well, as well as it can.

I think i know of you from another forum. You have been through so much with you DD.
I think prison will be the best place for her and hopefully break her addiction to her violent partner. She has done this herself she has no respect for you or the police.

Hopefully she will get help on the inside and they can help her see how badly her partner treats her and how she is messing up her life.
As mums go you have been amazingly supportive of her and you have put up with so much.

Thinking of you

racoonbandit yes it's me.
I'm sat waiting for news.

I didnt want to out you as such just wanted you to know that I have followed your posts and I think you are a wonderful mum.

Thinking of you & your family.

All good raccoon , no problems .

I'm really sorry your going through this and I really hope it gets her away from her violent partner.

Doing bad things doesn't make someone a bad person.

Hope this afternoon goes as well as can be expected.

hope things are going as well as they can.

Solicitor just phoned. She's pleading guilty. So she may be going down today. If not am I happy for her to be bailed to this address with a tag. Reluctantly said yes. He will phone me back later.

Thinking of you OP, just read the full thread and really feel for you. You are being fantastic in being there for her and offering support.

I really hope that if she gets a prison sentence there is some form of help for her.

Drink you should have said no.

You know full well she won't stay at yours and she will break bail she has done it before. She has committed a crime again and she needs to see her actions have punishments. She has always got away with the violence/drugs/carrying weapons because of her age and it did not help her. She needs to go to prison.

I know what your saying raccoon , the solicitor thinks that the judges will say enough is enough today. The bail and tag are a attempt to try . I told him I don't expect it to work and I'm fully prepared now for her to go to the big house. Really I've been preparing myself for this for so long as you know. Half of me wants her to go, she needs to, but then the motherly love kicks in and it's your worst nightmare. But why should I be punished too? I'm not making myself ill again.

I know Drink . One of the lasts posts I read of yours was how much this has affected your health.
You will never stop being her mum but you do need to start letting her deal with the mess she creates otherwise she will never learn.
For years she has been bailed out by you SS the police and soft judges and yet here she is still behaving like she's untouchable. It has to stop now before she really hurts herself or worse an innocent person.

You may already be aware of them OP but Galop may be able to help your DD if she is in a violent relationship www.galop.org.uk/domesticabuse/

Just wanted to send op and say I'm thinking of you.

She's been remanded.

I really hope this is the lowest point and the climb back up starts tomorrow x

It sounds like she has tested the limits quite hard there. It's okay to feel relieved and angry as well as loving her.

I hope she can get some help while she's there.

I hope it's the respite and turnaround she needs. I know 4 women's prisons well and they're truly more like 'hospitals for the troubled' than prisons. Ignore the impression you get from the media- men's prisons are very different. I can hand on heart say if one of my DDs was sentenced I'd not worry for her safety. If she can accept it, she'll get the help she needs.

Going to styal

She will be okay. Styal had a good inspectorate report if that is any reassurance: www.justiceinspectorates.gov.uk/hmiprisons/media/press-releases/2015/03/hmp-yoi-styal-a-successful-womens-prison/

Thinking of you Drinks