Rights of OW. Not married to my father. My parents not divorced.

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Last year, my grandmother died leaving her house to my father. He already owns the farm as his father signed it over to him before he died.

I had reason to need to stay at my grandmother's house last year for a few weeks. My father was happy with this.

Anyway, I invited my own mother to visit me and the OW (who has been with my father 20 years) went apeshit.

Anyway, facebook was involved later that day. Consequently OW drove out to the farm/house to tell me with outstretched arms that 'I OWN ALL THIS'.

I told her that she was as thick as shit and my father is still married to my mother. She owns nothing.

My parents are legally separated but not divorced. Am I correct in thinking OW owns nothing but the shit on her boots?

Good enough for her, she was the OW, she should know well that she wouldn't be the last!

Probably another reason why he never married the second one haha

I think you're anger is misdirected and the OW is deluded.

You Father, however, could sort all this out if he wanted to.

My father is quite a goodlooking man. If a cunt of a philanderer. He looks very like the actor who plays Magnum PI or the commissioner on Blue Bloods. Similar age too. I actually love him despite his faults but how he treated my mother is inexcusable.

I'm angry with my father but hate the OW. I have no loyalty to her. I have loyalty and love for my father though.

Tom Selleck is the actor.
Your anger should be directed at your father ( as well as that woman).

So much anger, have you tried getting yourself counselling at all?

years of counselling and this never came up incidentally.

just looked up the price per acre and added that to the house value and one million is accurate. Then you have the livestock, machinery, sheds etc. It's definitely worth a clean 1 million.

The amount of times I stood in the gap! waaaaaaaaaahhhhh

Mumof56 Why the condescension about anger? Please don't take it upon yourself to tell me when I need counselling. I'm quite well able to decide such things myself.

As I have said at least twice on this thread, I am not angry. I'm curious. I want to know that the cunt is talking through her hole.

None of it is ever going to be mine so there is no selfish interest in an inheritance. My curiosity relates to whether the cunt has any hold on it.

"I am not angry. I'm curious. I want to know that the cunt is talking through her hole. "

Do you really not see the anger in still feeling so venomous towards someone over something that happened 20 years ago? You've even said your mum has gotten over it but you havent. You're happy that your father might be now cheating on her? Every single thing you post screams anger and hate at this woman. You say you're angry at your father but you seem to be able to refer to him without calling him a cunt.

Why do you want me to be 'angry'?

The 'I own all this' was a year ago.

Latent hatred? Yes. Anger? Not really. Haven't the energy.

That said, people TELLING me I'm angry is pretty fucking annoying.

I do not need counselling for someone being a cunt. That just is. No amount of counselling is going to change it.

Do you really not see the anger in still feeling so venomous towards someone over something that happened 20 years ago?

Do you really not see what is wrong with you telling someone else how they feel, as well as how you think they should feel? Who are you to tell OP if she is angry or not, or whether she needs counselling?

Op can feel however she feels, she doesn't have to justify it to anyone here!

OP your mother needs legal advice. You need to stay out of it.

OP your mother needs legal advice. You need to stay out of it.

I agree

Why does the mother need legal advice? She has no need for it at the present time.

'hate' this and 'cunt' that, if you're not angry maybe you should widen your vocabulary? And your use of caps and being overly invested in your father's 20 year relationship

The OW is a lone parent (which you seem to have issues with) yet so was your mother.

She has a job but can "rot" on the dole

She was moving in with your dad, but has never lived with him

You have no selfish interest in the land, but one of your first posts says you expect it should be split between you and your siblings

You stayed in your grandmother's house, but your grandmother signed it to your dad, it is now your dad's house, not your grandmother's

Check out what "legal seperation" means

And Facebook wars, how petty and childish, what age are you 14??

Counselling is condescending...Your posts make you sound like a spoilt child.

This is MN OP, where the preference is to pathologise and call her a Narc rather than a common or garden Cunt.

Fascinating thread really. If you wanted to psycho-analyse the average mumsnetter..
Question? Has this woman any right to this property?
Answer: Have you had counselling?

Mad auld bints.

Mumof56 - you've pissed me off enough to reply.

1. Leave my vocabulary out of this. This is craicnet. I am not over-invested in my father's relationship. SHE (ALLCAPS) took it upon herself to drive out and tell me that she owned it all. Over-invested much?

1. She has spent most of her time on the dole. She has a job now but will probably go back on the dole soon.

1. I'm not sure whether the presence of two houses has confused you. Can you count to two? They live in a house. One house. My grandmother's house is a second house.

1. Where did I say that?

1. My grandmother died.

1. I know what legal separation means. Care to educate me further? ;)

1. Facebook. When I'm at war, I'm at war. I will use any and all means at my disposal. Including washing my dirty linen in public. Especially when I come out of the wash - clean.

MUMof56, you have misunderstood so much that you look incredibly foolish giving OP any kind of advice or admonishment.

Dione - she is more of the common or garden cunt variety to be honest.

I could tell OP.

I'm another one bagsying a seat on a night out on the lash with the OP. Go girl and ignore the mad auld bints giving you a hard time on your thread. You sound like somebody I could definitely be pals with 😃