Should I become a stripper?

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Hey Everyone I’m 26, I have a 2 year old son, my parents sadly aren’t involved (my baby’s father is also a lost cause, he has his son twice a month overnight), I’ve been toying with the idea for about a year to become a stripper as I have a family member who also is - ultimately I feel like I’m going to massively regret it if I don’t, I’d like to be smart save as much of the money as I can while’s at uni… mostly I’d like the money to be able to have a nice car & go on holidays (the usual really) I feel like my sons at a good age it can’t come back to haunt him much, my only issue is the limited child care I have a couple of friends that may sacrifice the odd Saturday night.

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Is there nothing else you can think of to do? When your 2 year old grows up and finds his mum took her clothes off for money, will he not be embarrassed?!

It is a shameful thing to make your son feel sick and ashamed about this thing you’ve done in the past all for the sake of a holiday or a designer bag. There is something deeper going on OP - you either want this for your own self worth or identity (which stripping won’t give you) or you need to readjust your greed for possessions and things because they also won’t make you happy.

Is it well paid? I might give it a go to supplement my pension.

You might meet some dodgy people. But apart from that I can't see the harm. But depends on the pay. And you might feel ashamed in years to come. On second thoughts no don't.

FFS, whatever you decide to do, don't waste your money on a nice car. An old cheap car will get you from a to z just as well. Invest the money for something better and more long lasting.

Also, if you want yo become a sex worker it's your choice but be prepared for people to judge you for it and the effect that could have on the rest of your life.

I think childcare will be an issue. Your friends won’t want to babysit every weekend and a babysitter will just eat into your profits. Doing it once or twice a month won’t give you much money, certainly not enough to save anything.

Much better to get a 9-5 job whilst childcare is subsidised, you’ll be able to work more hours and save some money. What do you do for work currently, or what did you do for work 2yrs ago?

Sorry just seen you’re at uni. What are you studying? Can you get some part time work? I don’t think weekend evening work is going to be possible without regular free childcare. I think you might just have to struggle a bit until you’ve finished your degree, are you doing it OU as a mature student?

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Good luck.

I actually think there is a big market for pensioner sexy shenanigans!

Would online not be better? Then you don't have the childcare issue?

Why face to face as an option is it paid more?

It will at some point affect your son!
Also, any future employment you seek!
Also, could potentially affect any relationship that maybe on the cards.

On one hand it's probably better for privacy to be a stripper in a club as AFAIK you're not allowed to film / take pictures so you won't find yourself online. The only way this would come out when your DC is older would be if one of the parents from their school had visited which would be outing for them!

But if childcare is the issue then online (OF and the likes) are probably more flexible

It depends. I don't agree that it's somehow empowering for women and it's pretty grubby. The men surrounding this line of work from the management to clientele will not show you any respect.

It's considered a gateway to further sex work. You've got no idea what your relative is doing on the side. There's also the safety aspect, men hanging around for you, handsy bouncers and management.

Don't do this OP. You'll manage and hard graft is far more rewarding than gyrating for drooling men for pound coins.

My friend did this for a few years. The money really isn't that good. At 26 you'll be old for a newbie. Dancers pay a house fee to the club, and often a cut of the dance as well. There is no guarantee you will break even on any given night. You need to be gym fit and a saleswoman, always working the room to close a deal. You will need overnight childcare. A club will want you to work more than one night a week, so that's 2-3 overnights. Even if you get 2-3 overnights worth of free childcare, you'd get more take-home pay just working in a pub. Even if you are 100% OK with the stripping/psychological side of it, it's a job for very extrovert childless students.

I was a stripper for years(decades).
It can be lucrative, but it depends a lot on personality. You can be stunning but if you're not a great salesperson with no shame you may struggle. I'll answer any questions you may have.

Definitely don't need to be gym fit! I've seen women of all shapes and sizes make good cash. You're right about the salesperson. A lot of clubs don't mind you working just whenever you want. I still dip my toe in a couple of times a year, they don't all need a commitment to more than one night a week.

Have you thought about shelf stacking?

I worked as a stripper in my 20’s with a young child. I have good memories of the club I worked at, it was very well run and I made really good friends. There was no contact between me and any of the men and I’m not shy about nudity so it really didn’t feel like a huge deal, and the money was very good. I once made a grand in one day. it definitely hasn’t ruined my life, I did it for 2 years, nobody knows who I haven’t told myself and I now have a professional job. I don’t regret it.

i will say that the club you work at is vital, you hear horror stories of girls getting pressured into more, mine was very strict about the no touching rule and any dancer caught doing drugs or soliciting would have been fired instantly. It’s also not a job with a long lifespan so you need a clear plan about what to do later. It’s hard if you have no qualifications.

To me it wasn’t empowering, nor was it grubby. It was just a job that worked around my child. Most of the dancers were students or trying to get into acting or music, it was a way to make the maximum money in minimal hours.

With or without nipple tassels?

Well that's something! Mind you if I got up a pole these days the only way I'd be coming back down is landing on my head.

Honestly that took me a minute 🤣🤣

Through my previous job I met quite a few women who at the time had no quals and limited options for work who did stripping. They weren't by any means making a fortune but they were earning more than they would in a min wage job that would fit around their children. They were open about it and no one they mentioned it to had any judgement. Most were looking it as a means to an end with a view to an end date. This was before the advent of only fans etc and I am not sure now how the potential earnings would compare.

I wouldn't fancy it but if you've got the personality for it and if it really does pay really really well ( I don't know if it does) and you want to do it, go for it. In my mind there's better ways to earn some cash and you really don't need a fancy car. You'd be better stashing money away for you and your sons future e.g housing etc. I'm not sure how you'd fit it in too working at night with a young son.

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Either I suppose