Should I become a stripper?

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Hey Everyone I’m 26, I have a 2 year old son, my parents sadly aren’t involved (my baby’s father is also a lost cause, he has his son twice a month overnight), I’ve been toying with the idea for about a year to become a stripper as I have a family member who also is - ultimately I feel like I’m going to massively regret it if I don’t, I’d like to be smart save as much of the money as I can while’s at uni… mostly I’d like the money to be able to have a nice car & go on holidays (the usual really) I feel like my sons at a good age it can’t come back to haunt him much, my only issue is the limited child care I have a couple of friends that may sacrifice the odd Saturday night.

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Why not the only fans site it will keep more control your way. Without having to involve others.

It was in my area yes but I live in London so more anonymous than other towns. I never saw anyone I knew in there, although one dancer once had her old teacher come in which was horrible for her!

@RedPandaLove I didn't say there was a problem it's not my business but it's obviously sex work.

Amazing response I think I just want to gage a well rounded view of response really, you don’t hear about many people’s single mum strip club experiences unless you know somebody within it, thanks again

You could try if you think you have the temperment and it ends up being lucrative enough over a normal job. Will it make the difference between you going to school or not? I wouldn't blow it on trips, I'd use the money wisely if I were to do so.

If you can't stay away from drugs or drinking while doing this it would be a huge mistake to take this on.

Hello - I was a stripper for 9 years from mid 20s - mid 30s. It's not for everyone but it can be a useful way to earn a decent amount of money to allow you to pursue other life interests at the same time. It's quite variable in terms of income level - you can have terrible shifts and also amazing ones. The Friday night before Christmas is the best! The punters are a mixed bag - some of the regulars are lonely blokes who can be really sweet, but packs of men on a night out can be real arseholes. It certainly toughens you up! The hardest thing can be deciding to stop - you get used to having a certain level of income, and your life can expand accordingly. A lot of the women I worked with were from other countries and saved like crazy so they could eventually go home and have a great standard of living, they bought property, etc. One of the most popular English strippers I knew used her earnings to buy lots of properties up North, to set herself up for life! But quite a few also ended up becoming career strippers who carried on way after they wanted to because they needed the cash to maintain a lifestyle. If you decide to try it, don't do it for the material possessions - save some cash and put it away for the future. And I agree with another poster about it being a bit weird with future partners and friends - some people really can't handle women doing a job like that and will judge you quite negatively. So it becomes a weird secret, unless you're happy to deal with the fallout. I've now left it far behind me, and I'm currently single, but I'm not sure I'd tell a future partner - it just feels irrelevant now.

No as you will regret it one day

The one thing I loved about it was the free time. Two nights of work got me a fulltime wage. I was highly qualified but had struggled to find work in my field. It meant that Ihad a lot of time to do things I wanted to do, relax, have fun and pursue other interests. I wasn't a parent however-for the OP it may mean more time with her child than were she to get a 'regular' job.

Me too!🤣

Noooo, don't become a stripper for goodness sake 😳 get a cleaning job or something if you need extra money. Don't degrade yourself to just be a sexual object for horny men to perve over 🤢. Have some self respect. You will limit partners in the future and your son will no doubt find out and may be bullied at school etc in the future. The other mums at the school won't like you when they find out you're a stripper.

I guess it depends on what sort of circles you move in. Your son is 2 now but in 2 years’ time he’s going to be at school and, for the next 14 years, will be part of a large school network. Seems pretty likely that the stripping is going to leak during that time. How will you feel when your son is laughed at in school for having a mother who is a stripper? My guess is that the fact you’re even contemplating it suggests that perhaps you don’t care about such things and that you are a part of society where perhaps these things are accepted. Your choice. I think it’s pretty hideous and it’s teaching your son very wrong ways to treat women and it sets a pretty horrible example for him but your call. He’s always going to be someone whose mother was a stripper and obviously people equate that with being a prostitute (even if that’s not the case). He’s going to get lots of your mother is a wh*re etc and it’s not going to be far from the truth. I can’t believe you’re even contemplating it. It’s sad the circumstances that some children are born into. And all for a “nice car and nice holidays”. Not even so I can save for his future or buy him entrance to a great school for amazing education or pay this tertiary education. No, a nice car. Jesu.

My stripping never 'leaked', FWIW. Almost two decades of it. I don't have children, but I had a lot of 'circles' and nobody ever knew until I told them.

Good for you. Key difference is you don’t have children, this person does. It’s the child that would be adversely impacted in this.

Society has changed in the last 20 years. Much more organised crime and money laundering. A posh strip club catering for the top 1% in London is a world away from the dives in most of the country.

You are inviting danger into your life. Your child does not deserve that.

Yes, I did mention that. I'd say at least 50% of the dancers I worked with did have children however. It says something about society. I'm currently penning a theses on the whole experience (I'm a Sociologist) and that is one thing I'm mentioning. The lack of choices for women meaning stripping is a viable choice. Child at dad's/grandparents one weekend-work at a supermarket? Poor pay, boring, tiring...Or strip-lucrative, fun, bit of a night out... it makes sense.

But what I will say is it is relatively easy to keep secret with a bit of care taken. Use a different name. Don't do it in your hometown. Wear a wig and keep an eye on groups that come in and what your peers are doing that weekend. Not 100% of course but IME it isn't difficult to keep undr wraps.

That's not even a real job anymore

Chances are she's not going to be doing it for 10 years?! doubt her son will find out come in be realistic

Seems a shame to me that it has to exist at all. I feel that there are loads of viable careers for women. Obviously a supermarket is just a rubbish job but there are loads of other opportunities. I guess it depends on the skills, experience and qualifications of that person but there has to be better options. Sorry, I hate the whole industry and would be glad if there was a way to entirely eliminate it (that and sox work more generally). But I don’t expect that time will ever come.

No don’t do it. Despite all the comments suggesting everyone on mumsnet had a happy lucrative part time job as a stripper before becoming a doctor, the reality is that it’s miserable and soul destroying. You might start off drug free but soon you’ll be on drugs just to cope with the misery and then whatever you earn will end up spent on drugs anyway.

No don’t do that.

Only fans and wear a mask to provide privacy and no come back

Not true. I've never done drugs in my life and have been a stripper for almost half of it. Sure it may be the case for some women who do it, but it isn't a rule or a given.

There wasn't any 'misery' for me to cope with either.

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Having known people who’ve done it, it will completely affect how you feel about men forever. I don’t think it’s worth it.

The applauding ‘sex work is work’ brigade are usually middle class women living comfortably with a husband in a completely safe world. They’ll happily encourage you to enter an underworld of late night work with competitive women and dodgy club managers that often involves the women using drugs and alcohol to relax, whilst never dreaming of entering it themselves.

You would be ashamed of your mum going to work earning money to support you? Really?