Should I become a stripper?

[sheapards]

Hey Everyone I’m 26, I have a 2 year old son, my parents sadly aren’t involved (my baby’s father is also a lost cause, he has his son twice a month overnight), I’ve been toying with the idea for about a year to become a stripper as I have a family member who also is - ultimately I feel like I’m going to massively regret it if I don’t, I’d like to be smart save as much of the money as I can while’s at uni… mostly I’d like the money to be able to have a nice car & go on holidays (the usual really) I feel like my sons at a good age it can’t come back to haunt him much, my only issue is the limited child care I have a couple of friends that may sacrifice the odd Saturday night.

@sheapards truthfully, if you have the body and mental strength then you should go for it BUT the reality is you will need to have skills and resilience. The competition will be fierce and if you go in not knowing what you are doing then you wont get hired.

Take some pole dancing classes and maybe visit a club or two in advance to see what the standard is and how things operate so that when when you audition, you will have a better chance of getting the gig.

The stigma around lap dancers is ridiculous. Nowadays, you don't even have to be naked. If it's okay to run around a beach in a bikini then it shouldn't be shameful to shake your arse in lingerie and get paid for it.

Do you and remember to say no to the drugs, sex work and off club invites. You're a mum first and those things lead to a slippery slop you don't want to fall down.

You should consider your personal safety. Some of the johns might get obsessed with you. If you offer private dances the men will grab you and try to do more with you. You will need to be escorted to your car by security at the end of the night.

Love this idea x

Such a lovely response, thank you x

This is so true. I find a lot of people saying what about when your child finds out but the only way they were is from someone that admits to visiting the club as filming is not allowed? Also I wouldn’t of disowned my mum if she was a stripper with no evidence when I was 2 🤣

Really informative answer, thank you x

Thank you that’s so informative, I want to do it on the side whilst at uni - I definitely have the personality for i, i’m really struggling with having no car not a lot left at the end of the month, when my sister and a lot of her friends seem to be doing really well financially with things like holidays nice cars new outfits for every night out I know I shouldn’t let green envy get the best of me, but when I know that I’m on the same looks wise and very outgoing it’s really tempting.

This is very interesting that you can dip in and out, out of interest do you do your hometown?

Very informative answer, thanks so much - would you work in your hometown? As you’ve said nobody knew

I am not sure about your comment that it will not come back to haunt your son. If you consider people with second families and some who are just unpleasant, I can forsee the possibility that say in ten years time a man who is now late teens/early twenties let's it slip that you were seen as a stripper.

Honestly, if you would be confident in doing it then yes. Just find somewhere reputable that looks after you, treats you well and doesn't take all your tips. It's just as legitimate as any other job and I would hope that if your son finds out when he's older he'll be proud of you for making that decision for both of you. You'll find judgemental older ladies on here that may be a little jealous that you have the body to do it so take the snarky comments with a pinch of salt x

You keep talking about him being only 2 but he’s not going to stay 2 forever is he? Once you get into that line of work it will be quite hard to leave it because you have got used to a certain salary etc. And the older your son gets the more chance he will realise what you are doing. If it’s online there’s a risk that he will be teased at school if anyone finds out about it. Do you think you will get taken on at any of the clubs where you live? I would have thought it’s fairly competitive.

Maybe try pole fit as a hobby and a way to build up fitness and your mental health. If you want to do sex work I'd not advise anything physical if you really must maybe look at webcam

A friend of mine went jnto sex work and ended up been ferried in a taxi to mens homes before long she was addicted to coke had a mental breakdown lost her 50k a year job her 15 year old dd doesn't like her anymore and lives with her dad. She now works in a supermarket at the coast as she had to move to get away (she was 40 and just shagging around prior to sex work and needed extra money so went into escorting)

@Chuchoter 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

my only issue is the limited child care I have a couple of friends that may sacrifice the odd Saturday night.

I would say having no childcare is going to be a massive problem!

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Apparently someone found out their nan was on only fans and even had someone who helped manage their account as their not tech savvy;the nan was clearing up on there too,granny snatch obviously has a good market

You say you love the idea of online , surely you've already thought about that though? If you want to go down this route there's lots of ways to make money these days, why is being a stripper your first thought?

Blimey. Might check it out then

If you are going ahead I'd say NOT online is better.
It can't follow you around for the rest of your life, and I imagine there's a lot more competition online (from people willing to do more than strip).

You’re so lucky your life has worked out the way you want it to or that you’re so holy you’ve never done anything out of the norm but I hope you know your attitude is what is shameful.

people are losing jobs left right and centre so it isn’t quite as simple as just ‘get a job’. And isn’t it society’s issue that people earn ten times more for being a stripper than they do for working at a different job? And just because YOU find something shameful doesn’t mean other people have to.

OP it depends on your sensibility -
so some women will turn up, do their job, have little interaction with the other women, take their money and go. Literally clock in clock out. Do it for a set period of time to save their money then start a business or get a normal job but already have their mortgage well knocked down, car paid for etc.

But if you have any propensity for bad behaviour (drinking, drugs, etc) or attract bad people, it is not the job for you.

you also need to be very self protective.

it will also make you very hateful of men because of the bad ones who frequent strip clubs (especially nowadays when the good ones rarely do) so you need to bare that in mind.

You will also limit your potential partners in the future by doing it because even if you stop, you’ll have many men who will be jealous and annoyed you were a stripper - which in my opinion is a good thing because you’ll quickly see which ones are bad and which one are fully grown, well adjusted men.

if your family member is already a stripper you’ll know all this anyway. The question is why you’re looking for permission. Is it because you want to but you’re worried about society’s view of you or is it because you’re not sure you could do it or really want to?

Hello OP, you're the same age as one of my children and I'd say please don't do this. It's not empowering, it's bullshit that anyone ever tries to persuade women that it is. It's demeaning and cheap and exploitative and I'd be really sad for my daughter if she did it or if she thought it was a good way of making money. I bet your mum, dad and siblings wouldn't want you to do it either.

You say you're a student, what are you studying and what routes will you have for making money once you graduate? Or what else could you do now to make money that isn't taking your clothes off for predatory men? There must be something.

It's much better to concentrate on what will make you a decent living as a career in the future than going down this route now. I suspect you'll regret it. Good luck.

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I think its ridiculously naive to think that because your child is currently only 2 you being a stripper wont at some point haunt him negatively. Also at what point do you decide he is old enough for it to be a problem? Maybe when he starts school and his teachers ask him to draw a picture of mummy at her work. Sounds ideal!

Selling your body for the enjoyment of others is never a wise option I dont think. Someone will always end up hurting (including you). However stuck you are for money, find another way.