Happier that is one amazing bargain 
Wolf I don't know if this is even possible or a good idea, it's just a thought. Depending on how much the debt is and how much extra STBXH is screwing you over for, would it be a better option to say No, you'll stick to the original plans, but then also offer to pay off his debts as an additional gesture? So he still gets some extra money but it goes somewhere that's actually helpful to you. Maybe it's too late for that now you've already agreed to whatever-it-is the other day, but I thought I'd mention just in case. It all sounds like a massive nightmare and I don't envy you one bit.
NSD. I started a new project today. I'm going to be taking photos of the positive, the pretty and the unusual, then when I've got enough I'll print them off and make a scrapbook of my hometown.