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Great news north! 🍾

Yeah, well done North

Great news on the money lonely.
Hope things have improved after work em.

£4 gym class today.

£8 window cleaner

meadow Its hard when they are little but sometimes going to baby groups makes you realise you aren't alone. Selfishly I went religiously every week with my DD's even if they weren't keen because without other adult interaction I would have gone insane. I made some great friends who I'm still close to 10 years on, we no longer rant about sleepless nights or being unable to have a wee without ww3 breaking out now it's all pre puberty hormones and attitude problems 😂

what I'm trying to say in a long winded way is sometimes we focus too much on what is best for dc and what makes them happy always doing stuff for them but actually we need to take care of ourselves too. We need to be selfish sometimes and if you want to go to groups go along, have a tea, chat with other parents and relax knowing you aren't alone. And this phase will pass bringing new challenges and new joys with it 😁

@MeadowHay my suggestion for constipation would be to make up a bottle with half the quantity of formula you usually use, and if DS is anything to go by, then don't leave the house for the day .

NSD today

NSD today.
It has been a long day, I'm heading for an early night.

Not much better this evening. Dhs issues are work. Basically he doesn’t want to. Everyone he works with is a twat. They lied to him. They told him xyz was done. And it’s not been. He’s having to do more than one thing at once and he doesn’t like it. Poor baby.

I’ve suggested he leave. Helpful. But he’s said in a few months things might get better. I’ve heard al this before.

I suggested (gently) that he be a sahp. At least for a bit. That did not go down well. I’ve now branded myself a workaholic. We’ve had a row about me and my job. Because I want to go back to it (selfish) because I don’t want to sahp (selfish) because I’m studying again and not spending time with ds (selfish (incidentally it’s an assignment I’m writing and I’m researching at work and am going to do the writing at home but take days off to do it)), because I’m obsessed with how I’m looking (I hate how my body is changing again. I just got it back to the way I liked it!). Self obsessed.

He’s sleeping in the spare room tonight. I’ve told him to stay away from me until he’s ready to apologise. Twat.

Oh I see em he's allowed to want to work more than sah but you're not. And he's allowed to care about his appearance/go to the gym but you can't do that and be a parent. Also you're not allowed to try to further your career because that's what he should be doing. Basically he's jealous because he's being shit at everything and you're not.

Signing on, thanks for new thread wolf

£12 on food, paninis for the DDs. I can’t face cooking today having messed up big time with a chicken last night.

Will try to catch up tomorrow. Girlie I’m still trying to locate my coins, if I do I’ll send them.

Basically wreck yep. I get it that he’s in a new role and wants to impress. I get it. I of all people get that this dc is bad timing. I get it. But it’s haopening. So if I have to deal with it. So does everyone else (dh). But hey ho. On we go.

I’ll be hassled again tomorrow morning for not getting up early (I already get up at 6 have a tea breakfast and mn. Maybe a bit of yoga). He doesn’t see this. And sees the fact that I’m heading to the shower while he’s giving ds breakfast so I can be dressed as soon as ds has finished breakfast so I can sort him out as me being lazy.

Ffs. Anyway.

Nsd. Yippee

He sounds immature em his views on you and your work are not dis-similar to his dad's sexist opinions?

meadow I agree with nocuts don't be ruled by dd, if she screams and it's awful then leave but give it a go as she might surprise you and it's important for you to chat to other mums going through similar stuff. I say this as a mum of a very high maintenance baby! I avoided afternoon groups as dd normally would sleep/be tired then but would aim to get out in the morning for a bit. I do remember how hard it is though, I left more than one group in tears as dd seemed to be the only one screaming her head off. However I did make a few friends and being at home all day was definitely worse for me!!

Good god Em has he listened to himself. Has your island suddenly fallen into a time warp and catapulted itself back to the 1950s?

I really hope today is better for you.

I’m really hoping my last day at work this week really is my last day at work this week and I don’t have to work tomorrow. City of Steel today Life although an abbreviated visit

Happy frugal Thursday people.

Good grief em. (((Hugs)))
Enjoy SoS wolf. I'm not travelling for ages yet. They are coming North to us.

Em dh has also moaned at me for having a shower first thing whilst he does the dc' breakfast! The thing is he leaves 45 mins earlier than us so it doesn't matter if we're not ready when he leaves but he wants to be a martyr and so gets pissed off that he's doing everything (that he doesn't have to do in the first place).

Should be a lsd today. I'm working near a big Tesco and I know they sell the deodorant I use. I've completely run out so need to pop in for that. Just that. Must be good.

Actually we need some fruit too. Luckily I still have £10 of the weeks food budget left (week starts again tomorrow but dd will need fruit for her lunchbox).

You are all lovely, thanks for your messages. wreck that's interesting about the practice nurse. I don't foresee anything like that for me, no pay rise either, but it gives me more security I think. There are less than 1000 physios in the country with the qualification at the moment so definitely another string to my bow & it gives me options for developing my role.

The concert last night was fab. A singer songwriter I hadn't heard much of before, but I would definitely go & see him again. £16 for the ticket, we had a couple of drinks & dh drove so not too expensive.

Dh has been hearing things about a court case regarding the civil service pension scheme which would also have implications for the NHS scheme. We both lost out big time when the 2015 changes came in, but this looks like the govt would be forced to make some more changes which would be a massive benefit to us. We would be able to go back to planning retirement at 60. Have any of the civil servants on here heard about it? unescorted wolf life?

Today I'm off work. Gym class booked. Hopefully will meet up with mum, take ds for bloods and get some more concert tickets booked (last night has given me the bug again). Tonight am taking ds to a degree apprenticeship open evening at a local BAe plant. They are a massive employer here and do an amazing project management degree apprenticeship. It's very competitive but you never know.

What sort of things would you prescribe in your role north? Would it be painkillers and such? This is the problem with the nhs and it's banding system there's often no room to manoeuvre because you don't fit the specifications of the next band up despite doing more than your current band job role entails

wreck antibiotics & steroids, inhaled meds. All respiratory stuff. It's a good speciality to be in as a lot of money is coming the way of COPD because it is the reason for so many admissions to hospital.

Oh that's interesting you'll really be able to take over their care and build up continuity with each patient.

I'd be interested in any info on the cs pension stuff, as I have some pension up until I left last year.

Phew Ocado has just turned up, wasn't sure if it would as I think our warehouse is the one on fire in Hampshire

That is really interesting north well done on passing the prescribing course, I'm too scared to do it! Will definitely help your career, all the colleagues I know who have done it have moved up to a new role.

Need to get out of bed!

Thanks everyone. Had a total breakdown yesterday evening, poor DH having to put up with me...I get soo overwhelmed sometimes with all the millions of things I'm meant to do and I feel like I just don't have enough time to do it all and then important stuff doesn't get done and argh it's all just so stressful. DH is great and I feel bad because he's so much better/more involved than most the partners of people I know by the sounds of it, but I still don't think he does enough. Especially because I go back to work soon and I will be doing less then so who is going to fill that gap? We can't afford a cleaner or anything I don't think. Not that I get tons done in the day with DD .

Em Idk how you are so calm, I'm not sure I'd even have DH at home if he was saying/behaving like yours atm. Totally unreasonable and inexcusable behaviour. for you.

Malteasers Oh, I hope nobody was hurt in the fire?!

Girlie Was your DD also constantly exhausted yet also fought sleep?! She seems tired almost all the time (crying and rubbing her eyes etc, sometimes even when she's been awake for less than an hour!) but then when I try to get her to sleep, she cries and fights that too!

Our morning routine atm is quite a shared effort but usually only DH gets showered and dressed as I just sort myself out later. But obviously when I go back to work that will need to change and I'm also going to have to drop her at nursery. Not sure if I need to give her sold breakfast before nursery as well as a bottle or not? Atm she has bottle when she wakes and then solid breakfast anywhere from 8.30 to 10.30am depending on when/how much she sleeps in the morning.

meadow we give ds something for breakfast like a banana or something (otherwise he wants ours...) and he has toast at nursery.

I am as calm as I can be right now. It’s really getting to me though. That and I have a sore throat and feel all achey. Sigh. I may see my gp tomorrow if I can get an appointment. Or on Monday.

We had words in the car this morning because dh’s Amex Bill is so high. And I’m spending frivolously on it. I’m not. I’ve used it only for joint things. Ie things for ds (nappies etc) or stuff for the house or for catface. This evening we’re going to sit down and go through the spending. Sigh. Dh needs my laptop for this. I’ve said no. Print the statements at work. And make a spreadsheet. Do not berate me for spending when I haven’t.

i Told him last night I’m scared he won’t spend his paternity leave with me and will spend it with mil instead. I’m willing dc2 to arrive early. I said to dh that the thing that’s stressing me out the most is the not knowing. The only way to know for sure is to have a csection. But I’d have to really push for it. And it’d come with its own set of problems (long recovery time etc...) so I don’t want to push for it just to I have certainty over arrival date.

Yes meadow tiredness was a massive issue as she got overwhelmed so easily. What helped her (and me) was having a set routine and also doing things in a certain order for example prior to a day time nap we would go upstairs, lights off, I would take some of her clothes off, cuddle, dummy in and then put down in her sleeping bag. I think she was happier when she knew what was coming next iyswim? It didn't always work mind 😂 she was also tired after an hour of waking up so first nap was about 9am for an hour and then I'd aim to go out and be back by 12ish for her next nap, either that or try and get her to sleep in the buggy or car seat.

I remember that feeling of being dominated by her sleep but if doesn't last forever and definitely gets easier as they get older.

em you're a more patient woman than me. I had a c section, it was pretty rubbish, very painful, no lifting or driving for a few weeks. Dh just needs to support you!!

Got quite a bit of work done but not enough 😕