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Unescorted · 03/01/2019 23:21

Hoping all your new year wishes come true.

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AutumnLeaves12 · 05/01/2019 16:42

Unescorted. You're absolutely right. "Structured frog swallowing" is exactly the thing. (Although it does also sound quite revolting).

I think that maybe the problem is that I'm inclined to go straight for the frog when I'm being assertive and I need to try smaller things first. Amoeba swallowing maybe.

I just read that Guardian article and it's very good, and kind of inspirational to read. I'm doing a very similar thing with my clarinet playing as I've felt for years that I am not good at speaking up for myself and I feel that having stronger lungs and a louder voice would help.

As a matter of fact, I can now project my voice about 20 feet, though it's only happened once, and I'm not sure how to make it happen again. It was an accident, so to speak. A good one though.

AutumnLeaves12 · 05/01/2019 16:45

Meadow she sounds a lot like my ds. I used to walk 4.5 hours a day to keep him asleep. It was -6 outside that winter. Man how I earned those naps. Big issue sellers still greet me like family.

Unescorted · 05/01/2019 16:53

wolf it is always the case!

Autumn it does sound gross. It is why I did the stand up... to prove to myself that the sky does not fall in when I push my comfort zone.

Meadow that is so hard. I wish I had a silver bullet for you. DS was a bugger to get to sleep but got over that quite quickly (although at the time it seemed never ending). I can only suggest the dirty t-shirt trick. Other than that could you get a friend/ relative to take her for 24 hoursjust so you get a break? What part of the country are you in?

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Girliefriendlikesflowers · 05/01/2019 16:58

Dd is a size 5 but if no one else wants to boots I'll have them as her feet do keep growing!

Have been cooking this arvo, used up a load of spuds by peeling and par boiling will now freeze and use for roasties when I want them. Have also made a big pan of bolagnaise to portion up and freeze some.

Dd has been a misery today, she pulled some muscles at the trampoline park and has been moping around like her legs hanging off all day 😕 the words 'get a grip' have been uttered more than once.

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 05/01/2019 17:02

meadow when dd was a baby that would have been a normal day for us. She cried a lot, any transition (going from outside to in, getting dressed/undressed, moving from one activity to another.....) she would cry. Having a strict (ish) routine helped as I think she needed to know what to expect next iyswim. She has sensory processing difficulties which I didn't know about at the time but looking back makes sense.

AutumnLeaves12 · 05/01/2019 17:02

Unescorted your standup sounds great. I can hear from the change in your writing style how much you and enjoy it, and how it gives you confidence. It makes me feel good to hear you enjoying it so much.

Cagliostro · 05/01/2019 17:28

Aah sod it can I add myself to the 2 cake tin list please? I really need to try and do some damn baking (how many times have I said that?) and if it’s a shaped cake at least I don’t have to do some amazing icing/sugarcraft to fancy up a boring circle. I’d need it late November. 💐

Still not caught up! Having a nice slow day though, am seriously loving having DH home all the time (everyone always said last time, how do you not kill him 😂 but it makes us happy being together, we are soppy bastards though) and I’m so much more relaxed that I’m pottering about tidying more etc and not stressing as much about managing everything :)

Thanks so much for all the kind words about DH. With a broken tooth (dentist on Monday) he’s in a right sorry state bless him. His core strength is generally incredible (DD inherited it too) but actually it is probably slipping a lot due to him doing less exercise now, so I will suggest that, thanks - there will be stuff he can do at home, and actually I’m trying to set up a family exercise thing each morning (using cards to pick at random probably or maybe YouTube) as part of our home ed routine too.

MeadowHay · 05/01/2019 17:29

Girlie Yes, I'm acutely aware of the possibility of things like that as I'm on the spectrum and have various sensory processing difficulties myself and I think some of that stuff is/can be genetic, but obviously she can't tell me and I don't want to overdiagnose/medicalise her when it might not be that at all. For example she's generally fine and happy getting washed in the bath now, and often ok getting showered at home, and is generally happy getting her nappy changed, it's only recently she's got bad with that because she wants to roll around when you try and put the nappy on. Has always screamed when getting clothes changed though but I figure if it was tactile sensory stuff she would also hate having her nappy done and stuff too which she doesn't really. But who knows, it is so hard when they can't tell you what is wrong!!

Unescorted Nope, DM will have her for a couple of hours if I have a healthcare appt or beautician (I get threaded every few weeks) and she has kindly offered to have her for a couple of hours tomorrow so DH and I can crack on with the million jobs we planned to do this weekend that haven't got done due to her being so awful, but she won't have her for longer than that and nobody else will have her at all, I don't blame them though! She has bad stranger anxiety so would be hysterical with anyone else anyway really, the only person she sees regularly enough not to be anxious of is DM. I know this stage will pass at some point though...and I try my best to really savour the moments when she is smiling or giggling etc because they do happen, just lots of screaming in-between!

We are just having cheese and onion quiche, with chips, and some sort of veg. DH is sorting it which is rare but he's had the brunt of her screaming today as I had brunch out with a friend this morning which was fab so he is sorting tea to get some space from DD while I sit with her. Honestly for us making dinner and cleaning becomes a break because it is far less difficult/stressful/tiring than a constantly crying baby. When I go back to work I will be bare chillin cos my job is sooooo easy compared to looking after DD!

LonelyOversharer · 05/01/2019 17:29

I think I might have actually managed a nsd! These have been very thin on the ground of late.

I freezer audited until my hands were hurting from the cold. By eck we have a lot of frozen food.

One more day off and then back to work and school. I have told the kids to sort their stuff out tomorrow, and I will not be tolerating lost books/shoes etc on monday morning.

Wolfcub · 05/01/2019 17:42

Lonely I had exactly that conversation with ds this morning.

The ice cubes have refrozen again so I’ve knocked fast freeze off and will keep an eye on it with a view to running it right down to empty and defrosting as Unescorted suggests. It’s not supposed to need it but it is a bit frosty in places

Fluffycloudland77 · 05/01/2019 17:48

Mine needs regular de-frosting. Otherwise th3 drawers stop it closing properly.

£6 big peace lily. She’s called Margot after princess Margaret (dh is a huge princess margaret fan, feisty brunettes in general) I think it needs repotting, it’s roots are coming out the bottom. I’m sure our bedroom air smells fresher already. You can split them into two.
£2.75 in Tesco.

AdoraBell · 05/01/2019 17:50

😁 DH paid for ☕️ & 🍫 I had to dash to the loo. Will try to catch up tomorrow.

lifelongfrugaleer · 05/01/2019 17:55

Wolf is the back dusty where the elements are?
Or is it stored not in the house?
They can both affect performance

lifelongfrugaleer · 05/01/2019 17:56

Nice tactic there Adora

Unescorted · 05/01/2019 18:00

girlie pm your address and I will post them on.... Just checked and they are a 5.5. Are you ok with My Hermes or parcel farce? Sorry em

Autumn that sucks.

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Cagliostro · 05/01/2019 18:24

Em please tell me more about this cheesy beany wrap. How does it work without the sauce seeping out? Is there a particular folding method? I had beans on wholemeal with cheese today. Then a pie made by DH for dinner, le yum!

Wolfcub · 05/01/2019 18:33

Life it probably is dusty but it is too big for me to move (two delivery men really struggled) and well wedged into its spot. It’s also probably at least 8 years old if not 10. I remember buying it, I was in a hell of a loss with h for leaving me to shop for a new fridge freezer and clean up the old broken defrosted one and deposit all the food with other people with a grumpy uncooperative toddler in tow whilst he played with his mates In the attic! Angry

Em like Cag I need to know, did you need a sandwich toaster?

Justanothermile · 05/01/2019 18:40

That was a normal day for us too with DS - he just cried and whinged and wouldn't settle ever. Literally you could sit him in his rocker and he'd be screaming within seconds. Never figured it out. He changed massively when he got moving, and thankfully that was very very early at 9 months, but still was a much grumpier baby and toddler than Dd ever way - they are so different. He doesn't have any diagnosed issues but is very much a routine person.

How's your MIL today life?

The sky does I indeed not fall in when you get outside your comfort zone and I think it's A Very Good Thing to do so, you discover many good things about yourself when you do. And you only get one chance at life anyway.

Came back a little earlier than anticipated to a house of sleeping teenagers and remnants of party 😂. No matter - it was all quickly cleared up and they had all had fun. We would never have been allowed a party when we were kids.

Been on the go since as I'm determined not to sit on social media and had lots to do anyway. Three more drawers and stuff cleared out, party tidied, chickens done, run, tea prepped, suitcase sorted, three washes done.

Quite a spendy day but needed to be.
£68 Boots (including seriously reduced gift sets). Pisses me off there's Vat on sanitary products. Years supply of razor blades in that and medical cupboard re stocked.
£46 Matalan on gym kit and a Contigo bottle.
£43 Fat Face on two pairs of pyjamas in the sale, mine and DD's were threadbare and I love their sleep stuff.
£50 eBay on some trainers.

Cross country race tomorrow so up early. Hoping to get to the gym too and visit parents.

Unescorted · 05/01/2019 18:41

That sounds like an euphemism - the tosser.

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Justanothermile · 05/01/2019 18:48

Girlie it matters not how fast or slow you went - you went out there and did it! That's the point. Bet you weren't last anyway. 👍👍❤️

Justanothermile · 05/01/2019 18:50

Tayto post your exercise, I think it's inspiring and not boring at all.

Right - I've some running club messages and memberships to sort.

SneakyGremlins · 05/01/2019 19:24

Someone has a thread in AIBU - is £100 a week each for me and DP enough for treats?

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 05/01/2019 19:35

Sneaky Grin nah nowhere near enough Wink

I wasn't last Jam I was 388 out of 405 Grin but hey ho I feel pleased I did it, my first run since my neck/arm were so bad last summer, feel more confident in going for another run now as well.

Unescorted if em wants them I really don't mind, she replied first.

I am on the laptop so will start pming a few of you re coins!!

SneakyGremlins · 05/01/2019 19:37

Speaking of, I have a single euro. What can I do with it?

LonelyOversharer · 05/01/2019 19:49

Use it as a trolley coin?

Slightly wobbly table?