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Hoping all your new year wishes come true.

seacow I know you werent generalising, its terrible there are nurseries out there that aren't doing what they are paid to do, be compassionate, nurture and support the child and family. It must have been very hard without the full support from the nursery. unfortunately in large companies they are there to make money and aren't so fussed about keeping the staffs training up to date or ensuring each childs needs are met. I work in a lovely small preschool and we are like a little family despite there being over 40 children we all know them very well but I know we are not the majority which makes me sad.

Welcome frazzled I've got lots of intolerances so am gluten, dairy, beef, fish/seafood free. And I have to be careful with garlic/onions/eggs I can't have too much or I'm unwell. My advice would be to eat more naturally gluten free products such as rice, porridge oats, egg based meals such as omelettes, potatoes. If you aren't celiac normal porridge oats/rice cakes etc should be fine. The alternatives are v expensive and often arent great, i prefer Warburtons for bread/sandwich thins but I buy when reduced and freeze. It can be quite a cheap diet just harder for the can t be bothered freezer dive meals! Tesco finest sausages are mostly gluten free, the butcher's near me does burgers/sausages, quorn sausages/mince, Linda McCartney rosemary/red onion or chorizo/red pepper but not the plain ones.

Nsd day today, just finished work so going to write my meal plan as food shopping tomorrow! I know how to spend my day off 😂

Good lord, labelling a baby with ADHD 😂 that’s hilarious. He sounds totally normal for a new toddler, TBH a baby who wasn’t curious and into eeeeeverything would be far more unusual.

Yup thanks to my resting bitch face people often think I’m unhappy, I am always thought to be terrified when I go in for blood tests and stuff too even though I’m really not at all. I think it’s common in ASD, I don’t have a very expressive voice either. And when I had my assessment, the specialist said after that I don’t use gestures at all. Like my hands were totally still in my lap the whole time and I wasn’t using my hands to emphasise anything like people usually do. I’d never noticed at all! And I was surprised at DS’ initial assessment when she said about his tone of voice, as I’d not noticed that it was unusual either. This is why autism can be missed down several generations I guess, it’s just your normal so you don’t pick up unusual quirks if you have them too.

I didn’t even know that my grandma has myasthenia gravis until a couple of years ago. I’d literally never noticed she didn’t smile. 😳 Her eyes smile though :)

Oh to add dd1 we waited till she was ready for potty training which was around 3 and half. She had speech delay but was dry day and night within 2 weeks.

Dd2 was about 3 she was dry in the day fairly quickly but nightime wasn't until about 6 months ago at 6. We stopped her having blackcurrant squash or any red/purple squash and upped her drink consumption. Since then she has been dry. I had read about the blackcurrant online and a friend who was having similar problems said it worked for her.

£15 down from £30 and I have 8 weeks to pay it off

Cag I remember copping on about gestures and facial expressions at about 7. I think I get them slightly wrong still, possibly by doing them too much.

£25 to get battery for phone. So that’s the first stop.

I can get a refurbed phone (iPhone 7 128gb as opposed to my current iPhone 6 64gb) for £348 on amazon. With prime deductions (assume the vat off) comes to £290. Plus 5% customs charge on the £348 £17.40.

But new battery is the first step.

Spends today!

nocuts mine can't have any cordials at all or they're peeing with no control even by day. It was to do with the sweeteners which are in even most non sugar free cordials oddly enough. I used to buy dd one blackcurrant that had no sweeteners and then stopped completely.

When they go to a birthday party I've to be hyper vigilant. They know themselves now and they manage the extra toilet trips.

I have diagnosed DD (18m) with being exceptionally feisty and talkative. I know it’s early days but I’m quite confident

That wok looks much fancier than mine Sneaky - enjoy!

Nocuts that’s the kind of nursery dd is in now. It’s like night and day. I have to say the girls in DS’s old preschool room were lovely and if they hadn’t have been I’d have moved him... but the Sen side was woeful to say the least. The nursery was all about crowd control and shiny marketing stuff. All fur coat and no knickers, as they say.

I’ve just dropped minestrone soup down my black dress . It’s quite nice being in the office and feeling like a grown up (apart from the dropped soup) but my to-do list is massive and it’s going to be a busy few months. First job: recruit a permanent team to help me!

girlie that sounds like a fabulous way to get doggy time without the commitment.

I never knew that about cordials. DS doesn’t drink them anyway, only water (sometimes bring inflexible is quite helpful!)

Thanks for the comments on Night dryness. I’m not at all worried about it, just not much looking forward to the process of trying it. If he’s not ready though we’ll just stop and wait a few months before trying again.

Girlie I bought ds2 an iPhone 7 for £230 in October from Amazon. It’s not reconditioned but unlocked and it came with a 12 month warranty and was an amazon prime item so I’m confident that if anything goes wrong they will cover it. It was only classed as good condition but was immaculate. I bought has last phone from there (a reconditioned iPhone 6) and the battery stopped working after about 6 months and I just had to send it back and they refunded me immediately. I think for 2nd hand phones the cover you get from Amazon is very good.

Only spent £3.90 today on teas as it was my friends turn to buy lunch. Oh and £3 something in Greggs on sausage rolls for snacks for DSs.

£7 sunblock. I used a £10 amazon voucher.

Girlie I used to walk a neighbour's dog through Borrow My Doggy a few years ago. I say 'neighbour' they lived a few streets away. A lovely black lab. The family were lovely too. I really enjoyed it, we lived right by a huge park so I would take her there once or twice a week and sometimes DH would come too. I really missed it when we first moved away.

Cag Maybe it is an ASD thing, the face, as I have the same problem! I'm not arsed about needles either. I do use my hands when I talk sometimes though. And I flap them about when I'm happy, and hand flapping is apparently quite common amongst autistic people. I get embarrassed though because it's an instinct and then I can feel when people don't know me very well they are looking at me like . Eek.

DD just woke up and crying now so will have to try and pop back later...

DS stirs a lot generally, is never still,, but has only ever actually flapped in excitement once (when we saw a lifesize Optimus prime truck) it was adorable :o

Just remembered what you said seacow about the Senco wanting DS to cure himself with supplements or somesuch 🙄🙄🙄 fucksake.

I was absolutely livid Cag. She said she had ‘cured’ her own son of some difficulties (developmental delay-type things) with dietary supplements and I should dothe same. Then he would be ‘absolutely fine and normal’ 🙄🙄😡😡. They actually removed her from that post and redeployed her - they never said it was as a result of my complaint but I am sure it was. And a good thing too.

The next Senco wasn’t as stupid but still had no training, knowledge of SEN or experience whatsoever. 😬

I’ve just remembered - that motorway story Happier . Appalling behaviour!

I just had a phone appointment with an NHS pediatric dietician for ds and she was wonderful, and helpful and understood completely.

It's so nice when somebody understand and helps isn't it?

Em DD2 watched dh having a wee the other day. She was fascinated. Then she reached out to touch the stream of wee! Toddlers! presumably boys learn sitting down first anyway? I assumed they wouldn't stand up until they were much older.

I think with boys it depends a lot on whether they consider it an art form or an embarrassment.

ITNG usually works, but not always. She watches quite a lot of it. She watches quite a lot of TV full stop tbh, she enjoys it and it's also one way we get her to fall asleep by putting her in front of something she likes to watch and bouncing her v. vigorously in the bouncy chair lol. I'm all for making my life as easy as possible too btw. Especially with a baby like DD .

Just Sorry, I know, don't worry, I didn't mean it to come accross as though I thought you were talking about me, I know you weren't I was just chiming in.

Today was ok tbh. She slept for about 45 mins on me this morning I just resigned myself to it and messed about on my phone/watched TV. We went into town for the cinema screening that you can take your under-1s to, saw The Favourite, wasn't a fan, it's too quirky/artsy for me I guess I am not cultured enough to appreciate that type of film. DD was mostly ok, she slept on the way there, but I had to lift her out of the pushchair when I got into the screen so that woke her up which was annoying, she was a bit whingy and cry-y on and off but not too bad and lots of the other babies were this time too. I've been quite a few times before and I always find it stressful as the other babies never bloody cry and DD is always whinging and cry-ing and I'm always thinking, how are all these other babies just these little angels??? But this week, I think with it being a new 'term' so to speak, there was loads of people who had never been before and lots of newborns and lots of crying. I know it sounds awful but that genuinely made me feel more comfortable . I did miss a big chunk though cos she did a massive poo all up her back...typical. And then she finally fell asleep after me working hard at it for ages and breaking my arms off in the process, approximately 7 minutes before the film ended...also typical! But I managed to get her in her pramsuit and strapped into the puschair etc without waking her, and then I got a coffee and a doughnut from Greggs and sat in the sun and made impromptu friends with a Slokavian fella I bought The Big Issue from (I was sitting on a bench eating a doughnut and a latte and the poor sod was standing really close by silently with this magazine, I just couldn't sit there and eat my doughnut and not buy it!). So it was a spendy day...
£8.40 cinema (rip-off, they take such advantage of it being a special screening, it's a Wednesday morning, nobody else would be going if this weren't on!)
£2.20ish? Coffee and doughnut
£2.70 Big Issue as he didn't have the extra 20p change. But then I've spent over a tenner on enjoying myself I feel like I should also spend the extra few quid to help someone else iyswim.

Can one of you good cooks make a vegan/vegetarian brand of baby puree foods?! Because there are hardly any savoury baby puree foods that are vegetarian, it's really annoying. I am so time poor and stuff so DD eats pouches and stuff more than I would like and it's almost always fruit which I also don't like as want her to eat savoury things too.

Meadow unfortunately even the savoury baby pouches are mainly fruit. One of the Annabelle karmel pouches has 128% of a baby's recommended daily allowance of free sugar. Can you give her your left overs from the night before?

I am really struggling to cook anything half-decent though with her being so difficult. I used to cook properly most nights before she was born but since she's been born I barely cooked naything properly for months and have tried to start again since we've been weaning her but still don't manage it a lot. I need some help with that I think though, what I need is some good, easy, quick recipes that DD can also easily join in with, and then I need to do a food shop each week online or something to make sure I have the ingredients for even just three of them in a week would be good. We usually eat at my parents once or twice a week too and have proper food there as well. Any reccomendations for good, easy, quick veggie recipes/cookbooks? I had a look in the library the other day but didn't see anything much.

I sort of had an idea that she was still getting her nutrition from formula at that age and that they puree stuff was just for practise for when she was older. Is that right?

I thought it didn't need to be wildly nutritious yet.