Nearly November; Friendly Frugaleers Navigating (K)nitting, Nattering and Nuturing our Pennies

[WereWolfcub]

New thread. Happy end of October/Early November frugaleering. All welcome we are a friendly bunch

Total fail, forgot about a party DD was meant to be at today 😖 so angry at myself. My foggy brain often messes things up but that’s a huge fuck up even for me 😰

Frugal wins, found five Percy Jackson books for £8 for DD (had the first three but super tatty and Cagletini had managed to rip the pages of one) and also got an ex demo copy of a game I’ve been wanting for a fiver, instead of £35ish new, and it looks virtually untouched.

Boden items I bid on arrived, the dungarees are a bit stained though. I can see how it was missed and they were super cheap but I know it’s there now 🙄

girlie yes they are.

Cag I am soooooooo shit at remembering things. Reception have my number on speed dial because I keep forgetting I have meetings. They also ask why they are meeting me so I can pretend I am prepared. I owe them a huge box of chocolates for Christmas.

Em let him stay at the new place and you and miniem can move in when he finishes faffing with his pole.

I am still not feeling great... Dh sounds a bit pissed off that I don't want anything more than eggs on toast if that for dinner.

cag if you are bothered about the stains, honestly, go through the resolution center. You can simply tick the "not as described" or put "stained" in the box. You'll get your money back. I always list my stuff very honestly, if it's a used item I over photo, over describe and make sure there is no possibility of muddles. It takes two minutes more to be bothered, and makes such a difference as a seller. And the person you bought them from knew fine well they were stained.

The girls room is getting there. Still have to paint the floor and skirtings, make dd3's draws and sort one more box off assorted shite stuff. They are happy, but sort of tentative...I don't think either likes change much, even though it is a huge step towards a brilliant new room.

em I don't think any of us are a bit surprised re dh's faffing! Hang in there.

£4 no more nails, £20 fuel. Both totally needed!

Would I have to send back though? It was a bundle and I still want the other two items. I have taken photos that show the stain.

Hope you feel better soon unescorted - are you a strictly fan? Perfect excuse for staying in snuggled up xx

Girlie yes I think all tweens are designed to be either flakey or loyal and unfortunately opposites attract ☹️ (I still remember the days of waiting, pre-mobile, at the designated meeting place optimistically thinking 'il just give them 5 more minutes' ) ...but we all know the loyal ones make the best, best of friends - it might just take longer to find her people.

Oh gosh cag, we've all been there - horrible when it happens though. I'm sure the party-throwers will completely understand (^^ see above - we've all been there!) perhaps you could arrange a post-party play date so your dd can still celebrate with her friend?

I'm frugal news...will there ever be a month that I'm not counting down the hours until the start of the next month??!! I know we all know that we should 'pay ourselves first' but seriously, next month I'm not paying into savings until the month is done as I think I'm being far too optimistic with savings and just end up transferring it back out to cover the last week. I'm confident that I can save a little each month but would like to know a true figure

Does anyone want to take a vile child off my hands and/or come and give me a cuddle. I am having a really miserable day. Hopefully strictly will improve matters.

On the plus side I turned my mattress on my own (no small feat) and all the bedding is on the line. Hopefully a better nights sleep will be forthcoming

Em also not surprised to hear dh is faffing. If he wants to stay in the house on his own tonight let him. You go and snuggle with catface

cag there should be a text box where you can say what you want. I think you can haggle for a reduction in price. Either that or leave the seller bad feedback, just to warn others y'know.

this I am this season so will watch it later.

Girlie has that made you super obsessive with being punctual?...when I remember I am meeting someone I always give myself loads of time to get there.... except when I am going to Oldham for some reason. I am always late when I go to Oldham. I set off in what appears to be plenty of time and it never is.

wolf gladly.

I think lots of people of all ages can be flakey @Girliefriendlikesflowers, but I think those of us who are less flakey get better at managing our relationships with the flaky ones as we get older . I have a friend since I was that age, she was flaky then and is flaky now but I can manage her much better now . Hope your DD gets over her upset soon.

Updated spends from yesterday :
£46 supermarket delivery.

NSD today, nice day at home, doing Saturday chores and spending time with DC. Also made a good start at tidying/organising my bed linen, found a lovely set that I had forgotten about (a wedding present) that will be a lovely best set for the guest room.

That's a good idea to ask for a reduction in price Cag. It helps the other honest sellers if you tackle the ones who are not honest.

I'm a bit zonked tonight and just remembered that it's probably because I spent the week living in two rooms and a pretend "kitchen". I am trying to manage my own expectations.

Also I have ten days until my clarinet exam and am starting to fret stupidly about what will happen when I have switch to playing different tunes. I really like the grade 1 tunes. Maybe I should fail the exam.

wolf I’ll come for a cuddle.

Dh has decided tomorrow we’re going to move the rest of our things ourselves. No help from parents. He says they’re interfering. Ungrateful. They’ve done mor lifting shifting and unpacking than him.

I’ve said parents include fil. Who has a van.

And dh needs to work out how to move ds’ cot without said Van. As it won’t fit in our car. But will fit in said Van and dads car. But no interfering parents allowed.

wolf

Your DH em. I'd laugh if it wasn't so frustrating for you. Can he walk/carry the cot?

love hell work it out. It’s funny not funny.

I’ve decided new house. New start. No more picking up after dh. He’s on his own.

He’s being a bit of a toddler there isn’t he em - NO, ME DO IT! 😂

I actually only paid £7something for the three items including delivery 😳 and I looooove the other items (two pairs of Boden cord trousers 😍) but it’s annoying as I only noticed them because it was dungarees I wanted. I am also going to try giving them a really good wash with lots of Vanish - will try that pausing partway thing that autumn mentioned a few threads ago.

I’m trying my chilli later. CBA to cook rice for myself so I’ll have it with couscous.

Thank you for the nice comments BTW. I actually really don’t like flakiness which is one reason I’m so very very pissed off at myself. I have to cancel some things due to my health issues but when I can be somewhere I make a huge effort to never be late etc. I am also, TBH, really seriously struggling with brain fog ATM. It’s really getting to me and I think is the main reason depression is worsening lately because doing stupid things isn’t so good for the ol’ self esteem 🤔🙄 I felt so tearful earlier when I realised. I phoned them straight away and they said it was ok, I have also sent a message asking if I can pay for DD’s place.

Where is jam?

Pleased the girls like the room lonely. They will love it when finished and the upheaval has stopped. Did you finish your angel or not had time? Piccy?

Love to see how that one works out em? !

Wolf wish you lived closer so I could. I'm in Sheffield on Tuesday, with an open ticket if you are nearby.

Ah cag that's rubbish. But a play meet would be lovely too. We've all done it i have

Oh I hope you don't think I was referring to you in any way in my last post @Cagliostro. I honestly wouldn't consider that kind of complete memory fail flakiness at all; I think of flakiness more as people changing plans and canceling things last minute Just to suit themselves without thinking of others, or because they didn't plan properly in the first place.

thistime I remember doing that as well!! It's frustrating really as this is meant to be one of the nice new friends for dd. I have reminded myself of all the times I've been let down by mates though and that doesn't necessarily make them terrible friends. My mum always likened it to a bank, if they've paid enough in then sometimes they can take a bit out....

wolf hang on in there you're doing great 🍷

cag I've forgotten important stuff for dd before and haven't got fibro fog to contend with or two other children!!

We've had a nice evening watching Harry Potter, first time I've watched that one.

Aww no thats don’t worry I didn’t think that 💐 I know it’s different. Party mum may not though 😳 which is why I was so stressed out by it (would feel different if it was say a home ed mum who knows me well enough to know I’m not a flake IYSWIM?) anyway I will double check in case I can pay for her place - it was an activity so pretty sure it will have been pay per child. Nowt else I can do really.

Wolf I’d definitely hug you 💐 has DS adjusted to the news yet?

I haven’t had dinner yet 🙄 the problem with leftovers is that we have different things and it’s all too easy for me to think, I’ll have mine later... oops. But baby’s asleep finally. Last night she slept a good 10 hours straight, her longest ever so fingers crossed that’s now a Thing.

Strictly was cool. Love the Halloween special.

Just been trying to catch up after a week away.
Em frustrating but predictable from your dh. Hope you get sorted tomorrow.
Girlie it's a horrible age, I really hope she gets settled with a small group of good friends, it has made a huge difference with dd.
Cag I run a diary, a calendar and a wall planner in an attempt to counter my crap memory.
Lonely I'm in awe of your diy skills, fantastic.
Wolf sorry your plans for ds have fallen through.
We got back home late last night. We left the holiday rental at 11, travelled a couple of hours to visit friends for the afternoon/early evening & then drove 90 mins home. dfriend has an aggressive form of breast cancer but is dealing with it all amazingly well so far. Her partner, who is also a very close friend, is struggling more I think.
£100 this morning on a grocery shop with lots of fruit & veg as I feel a little jaded after a week of a lot of rich food and more alcohol than I would usually have. It was a great week overall though. Took my books with me and managed to get a few hours of study fitted in.
Dh & ds went to football today. I've managed to get lots of things done like topping up dd's dinner money account,paying the final installment for her German exchange trip, setting up a standing order for dd's drama lessons, adjusting the direct debit payment amount for our final outstanding credit card (it will be paid off before the end of the 0% period), so quite productive, all in all.

Heating has been on as it feels seriously cold today.

Wolf lots of cuddles from here xx

Girlie i don't think the opposites attract is necessarily a bad thing - I'm sure dds new friends are extremely lovely - just that people are so different and it can be really hurtful / good life lesson to be at the pointy end of it. (btw - I kind of guess we're from the same region - my teenage meeting place was the corner of Wimpeys - where was yours??!!)

Cag I have to put everything into my phone calendar,everything or my work calendar .
Otherwise nope its not happening !
I used to get what I call"unhelpful thoughts" about myself and end up spiralling down.
Stopping them was key .
Look at what you have achieved with the new house over the past few months

thistime haha outside Boots was our place! Had a chat with dd before bed, she is upset and disappointed but it turns out there had been a few other little red flags with this mate. I just keep hoping she will meet someone nice, kind and reliable! ! I worry more about the social stuff at this age than anything else.

Girlie is there any chance of your dd getting into a structured organisation? I never was any good at just hanging out with friends but the Guides was my saving grace. I know I said it before, but just wanted to mention again in case it might still be worth thinking about.

I've been looking at the clarinet grade 2 book to see what nice tunes I might be looking forward to. Dh and ds came and looked too as they quite enjoy my playing and wanted to put their orders in. I thought that was nice. and a far cry from the violin days when they used to hide behind closed doors

I'm also being very sensible and resting after my bonkers holiday. Cooking on two rings and a microwave with 2 feet of worktop is hard work.

That’s all we had in our first rental apartment autumn