Frugalleers Spending September Safeguarding our Shiny Shillings

[Wolfcub]

Welcome to mid September frugal folk

Wolf will you see your parents over Christmas? I normally go to mums although have had a few Christmasses where we have woken up here and its just been dd and I. Dd is quite good at getting me a few little gifts, in the past i have given her a tenner and sent her into Primark to get me a few bits!!

I am also guilty of spending money because i have been good for ages. I wonder if i would be better if I tried to manage with just cash next month, so take out the cash I intend to spend on food, petrol and other bits and aim to not use my debit card at all. Will have a think.....

The boiler chap is here, he has had a look at my faulty heating and told me it is likely to cost £££ to get it fixed so am leaving it for now. He will do the boiler service and has done a few other bits and I can get the heating to work its just not working how its meant to be iyswim. I am going to try and see if the Housing Authority people will take any responsibility as well given its a shared ownership place, not holding my breath

Dd has a hospital appointment later (check up) might try and park a local supermarket rather than pay the extortionate hospital parking.

Happy Birthday em DS !🎉🎁
SWFL needs Alvin most definetely to stage an intervention and give them a stern talking too.
"You dont need treats for working,working is what people do"
"Pay yourself first"
Love Alvin 😍
No doubt the latest lit will be moaning about how its so unfair they cant retire as they have to keep working #tough shit

I just sold some books to webuybooks online. I'm back to my good old housework rota, and today was hall + lounge day, and I found some books that haven't been read since I got them for Christmas, so they are off in the post.

I'm pondering how to save up for a really beautiful sounding clarinet, which might realistically cost £1500 and wondering if I could just sell silly things like these unused books, and put the money in a jar to save.

That was £6, which is not a lot, but it's a start. The jar is a virtual one, and is actually a word document.

Love Alvin Hall, he was great. I heard him on a programme on radio 4 a few months back so he’s still here and working. Would love to see him back on tv!

Forgot earlier, happy birthday ems DS!

I think I’m either pms or low mood in general, need to keep an eye on myself. Not even Zumba has lifted my mood, which is concerning. I’m overthinking things, worrying I’ve upset someone even tho I’m almost certain I haven’t. Doing that stupid thing of remembering minor stuff that happened x years ago and still feeling bad about it, letting it upset me. Feeling teary for no real reason. Gah. Hoping it’s just a bad case of pms.

Curls That's my default state. Should I be doing more Zumba? I don't actually know what that is.

em, happy 1st birthday to your ds.

Just got told we have Ofsted tomorrow!

Yikes! Good luck with Ofsted Curvy

Summer I’m sorry to hear that. I’ve been through pnd and depression but have been off meds for a few years now. Just worrying me that those feelings are starting to creep back in. Zumbas just a dance class I go to that I usually leave feeling really good. Today I was just plastering a smile on my face and getting through it.

Curls im feeling like that but came off meds 3.5 weeks ago. I'm trying to push through and hoping it's just withdrawal.

Hugs wreck . Did you just not want to be on them anymore? Have you cut down gradually or just stopped? Hope you’re feeling better soon.

Sorry you are feeling down Curls. Are you affected by the seasons at all?

Yikes Wreck that does sound tight. You are great at budgeting so hopefully you will hang on in until things ease.

Happy birthday EmDS, I think first birthdays are a real milestone - especially for the parents! I felt s bit emotional at my childrens’.

Well, I’ve been contacted about a project in my industry (due to a previous colleague putting my name forward) and spoke in depth to someone about it today. It sounds as though it will be a go-er if I want it but I’d need to start next week. Yikes! My mum can do childcare for 2 days pw but dd doesn’t have a nursery place, hasn’t had any settling in anywhere and isn’t used to being away from me, the house still needs a lot of sorting (major decluttering and a few repairs) and I’m just not mentally in the zone!

But anyway. I’ve made an appointment to visit a couple of nurseries this week. Mum can start straight away. They don’t mind if I mostly work from home and understand I need to work school hours on some days. So it might be do-able. I have told them I won’t do it for less than my previous salary. I am waiting to hear about going to see them on Friday. Eek. Life will be very different. I have such massively mixed feelings about it all

Cross posted with you there Wreck. Hope you feel better soon too. Did you get any guidance on how long withdrawal might take?

I cut down in the way my GP said and felt fine for a couple of weeks after stopping. She did say to ring when I had stopped but you know how it is (funnily enough her room is opposite my office but as she's fairly new I haven't met her face to face yet so she doesn't know who I am!). I think I'll be ok as I know what these symptoms are and I know what I need to do if I find I can't cope. I'm not scared of the symptoms they're just possibly me off. I'm going to give it until the end of October and then if I'm still feeling like it I'll have to admit defeat.

It’s not defeat wreck if you go back on them 💐

Sorry not posting much trying get in gear with home ed and housework and argh!

Exciting about potential job seacow eeeek

Hugs curls

I am definitely affected by the seasons. I am a depression/PND veteran anyway but as autumn sets in things can get a bit scary. Will being in the new house (with better heating, space, lighting etc...) help avoid the worst of it... time will tell 🤔

Curls I know what you mean. I’ve been having trouble finding the light recently and getting on top of my emotions. I’m hoping it’s just a passing phase

Oooo my instant pot is seven stops away on the delivery route

That's interesting about the Zumba Curls.

I'm definitely normally the way that you say, but I was just walking up the hill to see a GP about a funny skin thing and I had a big stupid grin on my face which is possibly from going this new orchestra I've joined.

I was trying to get the stupid grin to go away and not really managing it, but maybe I'm just meant to leave it there?

It was a bit hilarious last night. I was 4th clarinet and I had 33 bars with no playing and I just had to count. And during that, the music changed from 4/4 time to 3/4 time and then changed speed. I lost count eventually, even though I tried hard. But then the person next to me who was 1st clarinet turned and said "Go!", and I did. I felt like a very cheerful horse.

Ta da!!! This is the first time I’ve baked and decorated a cake for a very long time. My icing skills need work. But I’m so proud of it. 😀

We had a lovely time at the zoo. Ds pointed at everything and went “deeeeh” and laughed and smiled. £32 for dh and I.

We wandered round the new museum at the zoo (about Gerald Durrell - for those of you who don’t know I’m in jersey, our zoo was his place) and saw the handwritten manuscript and hand illustrations of my family and other animals. My fave book. Must read it again.

I’m feeling a bit emosh today. Can’t quite get my head around the fact ds is 1. How’d that happen?!?!

We took a picnic and sat on the grass and had pasta, veggies, fruit and some cake. SS made a frightful mess but it’s his birthday we were outside etc.

Overheard another parent say “now I’ve told you about this before. What happens when you pick up a poo....?” That’ll be me in a couple of years with ds. I know it....

Will catch up in a bit but thank you for his birthday wishes. Xxxx 😘

curls I love a dance class. Sometimes I go to a Latin inspired hip hop class which completely exhausts me and the teacher encourages such things as “slut dropping” “booty shaking” and the like. I love it. Let my inner jlo free. Haha.

wreck hopefully it’s just withdrawal. I have no experience of it but hopefully it won’t last long. Take care of you xxx

sea yay re potential job. Fingers crossed.

I’m not sure who Alvin hall is but will look him up. I’m guilty of treating myself for working. Only on payday though. And the treats have wound down from a whole new wardrobe (when I first started working and had no expenses as was living at home) to an eyebrow pencil because mine had run out (this months treat)

Great cake em babies turning 1 is a big milestone, I can remember feeling emotional about it and sort of proud that I'd survived the first year!!

Hugs to all those struggling with their mental health, I sort of live with my anxiety now, it's like an annoying colleague who doesn't take the hint to do one 😑 things that help are all the usual things like exercise, cutting out caffeine, mindfulness, meeting up with friends even if I don't feel like it. A book called panicking about panic really helped changed the way I think. That said I still get bad days where my thoughts are really not helpful....

I've made a new thread, I'll link from the phone.

And catch up

have downloaded a book called “fucking getting shit done” or something like that. Apparently it’s meant to help with productivity.

Don't know how to link from my tablet, so if someone would, that's great, thank you.

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