Frugalleers Spending September Safeguarding our Shiny Shillings

[Wolfcub]

Welcome to mid September frugal folk

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em good luck with the cake. I have never made my DSs a homemade one .

north hope your ankle is better soon.

Tayto, it is miserable here, rainy, windy and bloody cold. Yes the jumper is very reasonable, think I will try it on and see.

Just got some bad news, my dad has been taken into hospital with another suspected heart attack ( he had one a few years ago and promised he would look after himself better, stop drinking and smoking, he hasn't done either). He had a major op when he had the first heart attack were they put a wire in a vein from his groin, sorry I can't remember the proper terms.
He is an alcoholic and smokes too much, we don't really get along and he has asked for my sister to go, she is down as his next of kin anyway. Will try to get down later, when dp gets in from work

Sorry to hear that Curvy. That sounds like a hard situation. Take care there

We went to bed an hour early last night and it was good. I think ds still needs the early nights. I definitely do

My last post makes me sound like a heartless bitch about my dad. I'm not really, but I've come to the conclusion that while I always knew it was important to have a good relationship with him, there was only so much I was willing to put up with. Being ignored by your dad constantly takes it toll and I wasn't willing to let my dc face the same fate, so we only see each other occasionally

Thank you Daize.

Curvy it's a tricky situation. I would feel the same. I have a friend who went through similar when her NC sister died and she realised that she wasn't mourning her death but morning the loss of friendship they had when growing up. I know your dad is still alive so sorry if that's an inappropriate comparison.

No Wreck, its fine. When my mum and dad divorced I was 10 and wanted to live with my dad! That didn't happen, which is probably a good thing. Being the eldest I always felt a responsibility to my dad and made sure we would all go and see him, my mum was always very supportive of us having a good relationship ( she has called me this morning to see how I am, love that woman!)
I just wish it was better, he just started to drink more and more and I couldn't bear to be around him for long, and didn't want the dc to think it was normal behaviour.
Yes, I think that is what I would want above all else, a good relationship with him
Will just wait and see what my dsis says

That really sounds hard Curvy. I think your post shows common sense and compassion. You're doing a good job there.

I'm having a quiet day here, saving up vim for the week.

God selling on fb is more hassle than it's worth. 'Where are you?' Says in the description. 'Oh where is that?' Google it you idiot. 'Can you send me some photos?' Photos on the post. Can I come tomorrow lunch time? No you div I'll be at work. 'Oh I live thirty miles away so would need to come then' F off then and stop wasting my time. Argh.

wreck I know. It’s crazy. I tried to sell a dvd the other day. said to the person I could meet them in town.

They asked could I meet them at 10am? On a work day. No i said because Work. I could do 845. Fine. All agreed.

On the day I’m in the place (opposite my work) at 845. No person.

I text them to tell them I’m only hanging around until 9 because Work.

They said that they couldn’t be there until 10. So I’d have to wait. I said sorry. I couldn’t. They left rude comments on my fb.

Ah well. No loss.

Cake is baked. Just need to let it cool and do the frosting.

Have also made 8 jars of apple and blackberry jam. (Dparents went out - there’s no way I’d have been allowed to jam up dm’s kitchen otherwise!)

Welcome duds.

Curvy you sound like someone who has tried really hard but also needs some self preservation and protection for her own DC.

Footy done. Dh called out so threw all of my plans into disarray. Skate park this afternoon. Some celeb scooter boy

Curvy I wouldn't rush down in that case.

NSD.

That wilko own brand candle for kitchen/cooking odours is really good, much better that the prices one that was about £6 and did fuck all.

www.hotukdeals.com/deals/delonghi-caffe-corso-esam2800sb-bean-to-cup-23999-amazon-3057265

NoFilter Bean to cup coffee machine.

@NoFilter

Thanks everyone.
Well update from dsis, it was not a heart attack, which is a relief.
Dad lost his balance so the Dr thinks it could be vertigo, waiting on a head scan and meds.
Dsis said that he was drinking, no surprise there, he was wobbly but didn't hit any part of his body, she isn't sure if they will let him home as he cannot stand on his own.

Fluffy I was looking at those candles the other day and didn't get it as I thought they wouldn't be any better, so good to know they work, will get one when I'm next in there

Curvy that sounds like a very difficult situation, look after yourself

Wreck how frustrating. I hate Facebook selling.

Pitch side was blooming freezing the day although I expect I will still have sunburn in places. Three hours door to door

I got home to discover ds had shoved a couple of dirty and Unscraped plates into a clean dishwasher so that has had to go back on

Sofa and movie this afternoon. May do takeaway this evening

Wreck and em that would drive me batty, some people are just stupid, my dp sells things on fb sometimes and it can be frustrating.
I would like to sell things on ebay, but lack motivation.
Wolf enjoy your movie.

Ds’ very blue birthday cake.

Tomorrow I’m going to finish it off with sugar paste dinosaurs and candles which spell out ds’ name. I’d put them on now but Dm has suggested they may disintegrate overnight. Or the colour may run. Don’t want to risk it.

I used blue icing colouring paste. Never used this sort of food dye before. Amazed at how little I needed. To get that blue I used literally two drops on a toothpick.

Em, the cake looks great, I'm sure it will look fantastic when it is decorated.

Right must get on with things

Fluffy you always make me want to go to Wilko. The one nearest to me is about 15 mile away so will need to compile a list of things to get when I make the trip 😜

Em that looks great

curvy sounds like a complicated relationship and you're handling it very sensibly. My dad and I get on okay now but had a very tricky patch for about 6 years after he left my mum.

em great cake, perfect size!

I love wilkos as well 😆 I could do with some more candles now the evenings are drawing in. I normally get the dun elm ones for 99p which smell nice and I keep the glass jar for a drinking glass when the candles finished!

Been to a friends for a cuppa and now chilling back home.

Oh and I've been there re fb selling! The worst one was a very random lady who bought a globe off me, arranged to meet at a supermarket and she kept asking me when I was likely to be going back to that supermarket 😕 I was like ummm yep I'm not telling you that!! She was so strange, she messaged me at one point to tell me she was getting in the shower 😮😂 so not worth it for a fiver!!!