I am still here! Fell a few days behind but have managed to catch up now, just. Love that advent calendar - I have a half made one for DS (not a kit /panel so it's taking a very long time appliqueing numbers etc!). I wish I had gone for a preprinted panel now, especially as I should do one for DD too.
There's a lot going on with DS and school transition stuff - that should stop now school has finished although I am still deep in wrangling with the LA over his education and healthcare plan. We have reached formal complaint stage. I need legal advice and have found a SEN rights specialist who seems really clued up but is a lot cheaper than a solicitor. Still going to be £££, I am hoping it stays under 4 figures but I fear we may end up taking them to tribunal which will be even more expensive and painful 
. It's just appalling that LA's get away with blatantly flouting the law, but so many people don't have the knowledge or energy or means to fight them. We are very lucky that PILs recently gave us some money so we can afford to take them on, although there are dozens of things I'd rather be spending our money on!
That dwarfs our other spends, but we are generally spending more now with formula, 2 kids in nappies and buying more convenience food because DD's witching hours are throughout the evening so we struggle to do bedtime for DS and then cook and eat at a sensible time. I expect evenings will settle down soon though and we will get into more of a rhythm.
I also realised this week that we had no home insurance in place 
. It was due to renew around my due date. I asked DH to look at options but he didn't and I had no time with work deadlines so i decided to let it roll over. I hadn't realised that it hadn't though, because the credit card I used last year had expired so the payment didn't go through. Anyway, I suppose we saved a month's premium and no harm done! All sorted now, though it was quite expensive. We ended up with the same insurer as they were still the cheapest. We live in quite a nice area but burglary rates have been rising (along with car theft) and I can really see the impact on insurance. We have a burglar alarm but it's not monitored, I am wondering about the cost of upgrading. Some people locally have installed cctv too.
On other matters, Cag, I saw a smaller alternative to a skip mentioned somewhere on mumsnet. They are like huge disposal bags (delivered and collected like a skip, smaller but still huge) - does anyone know what they are called? It might be worth finding out how costs compare - even starting a thread to find out what they are called if necessary- because the advantage would be that you could do one soon for the stuff you don't need at all, and then maybe another near moving time for oven etc. Rather than doing it all in one go.
On the subject of clutter, DD is already out of her newborn clothes and will be out of the 0-3 before you have your DD. Would you have a use for any of it? I'd like it to go to a good home.