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ememem84 · 09/08/2017 07:24

I'm going to speak to hr first thing this morning and ask them him to mention it at the meeting today.

Trouble with being in a small office I suppose the directors all have dual roles. And we only have one hr person. He's nice but slow to respond to things. I've consulted our local advice places web site and I'm supposed to have been told re coming back to work within 28 days of them agreeing my leave date. I gave them about 3 months notice... and have stressed the childcare point. Time and time again.
but hey ho. It'll work out.

If I can't get childcare when they want me to go back I can't go back. It's as simple as that. Nannies while another option are a route we don't want to go down as we'd be employers and that'd affect us tax wise (also there's a load of legal employer/employee stuff we'd have to deal with) and childminders are just as expensive as nurseries.

Nsd so far too....!!

WreckTangled · 09/08/2017 07:49

I need to get flea spot on today and this afternoon we're meeting up with friends at the local farm park. They have soft play so even if it rains we will still have fun.

SunnyLikeThursday · 09/08/2017 08:55

Christmas If dd is still bf, it might be worth dropping wheat and dairy from your diet for, say, two days just to see if it makes a difference to her. There are no bowel symptoms in the two food intolerant babies I know about. They just behave as if they have the worst teething problems ever, and don't stop until the offending food is removed. I'm not quite sure how it's dealt with in formula feeding as my ds and his friend were both ebf.

With ds and myself, when we removed wheat and dairy, quite by accident, the symptoms vanished in both of exactly at the same time, 14 hours later.

Ds doesn't get on with added vitamins in food, so I think he might have been in real trouble if I'd given him formula. I've never actually tried it to find out. I don't think that can be very common though.

ChristmasSeacow · 09/08/2017 09:02

I'll check that out thanks Snuggly

DS is at nursery today so it's just me and DD (and dodging the cleaner later). I still have a fair bit of tidying up to do and DD is not being put down. She woke up every 2hours, so 3 hours sleep for me again 😫

Tonight I might skip dinner and sleep instead!

I am watching old Bake Off episodes and it is making me want to bake so much! We are going on a picnic with friends at the weekend, I might make bread (if DH holds the baby...)

ChristmasSeacow · 09/08/2017 09:04

I am filling online shopping baskets (too much enforced sitting around and feeling bored) but I am trying to resist checking out. I do need a few school bits for DS though.

It's very hard to stay disciplined!

LonelyOversharer · 09/08/2017 09:08

seacow yy to sunny, I'd see your gp or hv be prepared for no help though then try dairy free first. One of my old friends tore her hair out for months, then went dairy free by chance. Both her dc have a terrible lactose intolerance, but bowels were "normal" . I'd only try one at a time so you can know for sure what's what.

If it isn't an intolerance, would you see a cranial osteopath? The lying flat refusal and insistance on being carried around sounds familiar to me. Dd1 screamed when flat until just over 2, as I said she would sleep in the car seat or buggy, or on me, but not flat. I wish I'd known about them then, as I think it would have helped her.

Lost my post last night as the internet was patchy. It was on ok day.

LonelyOversharer · 09/08/2017 09:11

cag that fridge will need a small cold water line from your sink tap feed. Very easy to fit, a plumber could do it in under an hour. You just need to fit it above the line shut off, fit a t junction, and a flexible pipe to the back of the fridge. If a plumber stands there and sucks his teeth and says "It's a big job, it's gonna cost" then he's bullshitting you!

ChristmasSeacow · 09/08/2017 10:20

Thanks Lonely. DD will lie flat as happily as she will sleep in the buggy /car seat - not putting down at all is one issue (DD preference) and flat is a separate issue (reflux). she's okay at being put down flat at night when she is in a deep sleep - It's the vomiting that stops me putting her down too soon after a feed at night. During the day and evening she wants to be held all the time and isn't happy in any seat /bed.

Someone else mentioned a cranial osteopath to me - apparently babies who have been through a fast birth often have some residual issues (pain? Musculoskeletal-skeletal? Not sure) afterwards and this can help. I don't know much about it but there is a local chap that a lot of people recommend so I might try him. I will also ask the gp about intolerance. We are going tomorrow for our 6-week check up.

DS didn't like being put down either so we just held him night and day until he was 4 months and then we did controlled crying. That worked quite quickly and wasn't too traumatic but I couldn't do it with such a little baby and I am not sure there aren't other issues, colic, intolerance or whatever . Hey ho.

On a positive note I did get a lovely smile this morning. It's amazing how far a smile can go ❤️. She's so beautiful.

Cagliostro · 09/08/2017 10:28

Thanks lonely! We definitely wouldn't be allowed to do that here but not sure about the rules in council housing. I know we'd be allowed to decorate as we want (unlike here) but when it comes to bigger changes I'm not sure what the rules are. Worth finding out!

Have been online shopping myself too. Just finding out prices of other baby stuff. Moses baskets considerably cheaper and a basic play gym etc.

Going to order a body pillow too as hips are killing me at night. Although apparently they have them in some Lidls so will ask DH to check there first.

ememem84 · 09/08/2017 10:31

cag get a full "u" shape pillow. I have one (inherited from a friend) and it is the best thing. Super comfy. I think dh is jealous of it.

Cagliostro · 09/08/2017 10:40

I was tempted by that one TBH! Our bed is v narrow though so I'm not sure DH will be too impressed and losing his space 😂😂😂 although if I snore he ends up on the sofa anyway

LonelyOversharer · 09/08/2017 11:11

seacow sounds like good old fashioned colic then. Poor dd (and you!) It does pass I think

Oh, someone asked about beds... I always buy the best matresses I can from "matress man" online. The prices are great, and it's all proper branded stuff. We finally have our forever bed, king size oak sleigh. I bought a deep sprung matress with a 5cm memory foam top (built in). It is heaven, and very good for dp's back (which was broken/acute nerve damage), I think it's a sealy, but was just over £150.

I had a hook shaped pillow (a 'j' ?) would have loved a full 'u' ... dp nicked it.

ememem84 · 09/08/2017 11:51

ah. Yes bed size may be an issue. We have a king size bed so space isnt an issue and I share the middle of the bed with my pillow and catface now

People are meeting today to discuss various things (my return to work included). They've been in there for hours.

Laska5772 · 09/08/2017 11:53

Checking in.. ive fallen off the thread! But nothing to report.. will read back later

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SnugglySnerd · 09/08/2017 12:10

I'm sure you have, Seacow but have you tried Infacol. It worked well for the twins.

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Cagliostro · 09/08/2017 12:32

Thanks lonely 'twas I who asked about beds!
Em current bed is an IKEA double but we've agreed when we do get a new bed it will be a king :o

Probable pram purchase is going to take up more space than the previous favourite as it has a separate carrycot. Pricier one converts between chair and cot shape so no need for an extra bit of kit. BUT we would also have to buy a car seat as it's not included in the price, whereas the cheaper one does have a car seat. So overall I think the cheaper one will have to be the way to go - it'd end up a couple of hundred cheaper really. Plus it's pretty :o we would just have the carrycot to deal with for a while (the seat bit doesn't quite recline enough for newborns but I need to find out what age it can be used from) aaaargh decisions!!!

Cagliostro · 09/08/2017 12:33

How long do babies stay in the pram type things anyway? I have forgotten all this!

WreckTangled · 09/08/2017 12:41

About 4 months ime cag but the official line is six months.

WreckTangled · 09/08/2017 12:54

£12.50 charity shop on a top for dd and four marvel tips from next for ds
£4.50 in boots on toothpaste and tampons
£28 advocate

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SnugglySnerd · 09/08/2017 13:01

They're not in a pram for long. 12 weeks or so? My twin buggy lies flat so we just used that. They now sit up a bit but not all the way up although I don't think we're far off that. DD can almost sit up on her own. She's really strong!

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ChristmasSeacow · 09/08/2017 13:55

I'm not using my posh pram (with the proper flat pram thingy). It's a pain to get in and out of the car and is a bit bulky for pushing round small local shops. My zippy little hand-me-down icandy lies flat so is suitable from birth (though I have it on slight incline for the reflux) . Quite a few buggies are suitable from birth with a newborn insert - my friend swore by the Baby City Jogger Mini. No special fancy designs although you can get different colours, but suitable from birth and folds easily, so great if you haven't got room in the hallway or wherever to have a pram up all the time. Also they don't outgrow it too quickly - it seems to accommodate toddlers quite well. Most of us with naice prams ditched them after 6m and ended up buying a folding buggy anyway!

Snuggly we are indeed using infacol. I can't tell whether it helps it not as I dare not stop it - I think so though!

SunnyLikeThursday · 09/08/2017 16:25

Christmas Harvey Karp is great on this sort of stuff too:

Lonely it sounds as though you and I have had similar experiences with babies. It's nice to know that you have been there too.

I like the "High Need Baby" book. It doesn't have many solutions but at least it acknowledges that sometimes babies can be tricky.

We are having an exciting time here as my parents have put an offer on a house. The sellers are holding out for a better price and we are crossing our fingers.

WreckTangled · 09/08/2017 17:00

£8 in the soft play on biscuits and drinks. Oven food for dinner because it's miserable and I cba!

Cagliostro · 09/08/2017 17:08

Totally miserable here too. Buses up the creek and so we missed our connection to gym. So taxi fare. Yay.

Nausea back with a vengeance. At 25 weeks. Double yay.

Thanks re: buggy thoughts!

Taytocrisps · 09/08/2017 17:58

Met a retired colleague for lunch which set me back €22. They had a lunch deal for €14 for two courses but of course, when you add on a glass of wine and a tip..... It was lovely to catch up with her though. We only meet once a year. I had suppli for the starter and lasagne for the main. We didn't have time for dessert which is no harm as I'd probably have slept through the afternoon if I'd eaten any more .

SIL is calling in with her partner this evening, so I should probably pick up some nice biscuits as opposed to the cheap digestives we normally have.

Sorry to hear about the nausea Cag

Hope you hear re: return date soon em

Seacow sorry to hear about DD's colic/intolerance issues. DD was a colicky baby and it was tough going but thankfully she slept well at night. I tried Infacol and Colief drops but nothing really worked and she seemed to grow out of it at 4 months or so which probably co-incided with introducing solids. You have my sympathy - and a .