Frugaleers - joyfully jumping into June

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New thread. Xx

Ah wreck sorry to hear that

That's annoying Wreck :(

Hmmm totally non frugal related dilemma, but I'm in a right awkward situation with the mum of the girl who's been so nasty to DD, because she wasn't invited last night (I do get it's hard to be left out of anything - believe me I get that, I have had that my whole life - but it was just a little get together, hardly like the old 'whole class party except one kid' thing) and wants to know why. I mean what do I say, "Well actually yes nobody did want to invite you because of the shitty way you judge people, and the way you've treated them and their kids, and you never admit when your little angel does anything nasty and always blame it on the other kids instead."? Can't see that going down well. As the messenger I will be shot to pieces.

Sorry that was a totally irrelevant rant. Just ugh. It's so tiring and I feel stuck in the middle because unlike the others I took far too long to see what she is really like (controlling, possessive, manipulative... exactly like her DD). It's so sad, but no mater what is said she will never ever accept that the problem is with her. It will always be twisted, always.

Sorry for the second totally irrelevant rant. :o

I have spent £1.56 on two board game apps (of games I want to try IRL) on half price. Woohoo!

recipe I used & added spinach

Cag how about 'due to recent friction between your dd & mine I thought it would help to put a little distance between them for a while' it was dd's Birthday & having an atmosphere would overshadow the celebration. Hopefully we'll have many more group meet ups in the future not!

cag how much are you realistically going to see this woman going forward? I'd either reply with what you put in your post if the answer is never, or temper it as much as you need with how much you will see her, or simply ignore the message.

About to trawl all my earnings for tax credits, force dp to do the same, and then join the matched betting brigade. With ascot and the tennis on, I figure it's about as good a time as any.

Lonely well done on your weight loss!! New jeans will show off your figure far better than current ones with a belt

Need to get layers pellets so lifted back of rolled barley to judge if we'd enough turns out bottom of bag was all wet & it spilled everywhere, now I need to buy both & clean up floor of shed

Thank you. I just said I'm sorry she was upset by it (not the same as being sorry for going without her!) and that I have basically got used to not always being invited to things, because I can't speak for others and I can't control what other people do (subtle hint there :o).

Problem is as far as she is concerned the girls are still best friends. She has been asking about play dates etc. But that's because even on the holiday she was putting all the blame on J and she just expects it to go back to normal. It's not so much friction as my DD taking (metaphorical) punch after punch while the other girl gets away with everything, and any time I try and sort it DD gets the blame anyway. Enough.

They don't do most of the stuff we do but seeing them once a week or so is basically unavoidable.

£70 Aldi, £85 sainsbury. Still no idea what we are eating next week. Sigh.

Hmmm seeing her every week make it more tricky to duck her off. I think the message you sent was ok as a start but you might just have to get mean. Hard as it is she might not get it unless you are blunt.

Yeah I think I'm gonna have to TBH, when she asks me why I've not jumped at the chance to get the kids together I will be honest and say DD doesn't want to and why. She will never accept it but I will say it.

It's just not in my nature to get mean so this is really tough. But I realise that's why she likes me so much - because I am the most passive person and I never stand up to her. I am learning a lot about myself from all this!

cag I think you're going to have to.

Decision made. Next week will be my last riding lesson. Until after baby boy is here. 😩😭

Just got back and have made myself a cheese toastie with some of that lovely yum german smoked cheese.

No further spends today

€15.38 on hen food (must check size of last bags we bought because I think today's shop was more expensive - we were too late for the usual place)
€20.77 in Aldi - unplanned purchases - pizza base, cornflakes (requested by au pair) potato salad(requested by dh) pepper sauce & mushrooms as we're having steak tonight and mushrooms were used up, bag of jellies (casualty of having dc with me & my weekly sanity saver daily mail because of the magazine it comes with.

Good decision em you know when it's right for you & baby boy

Cag that's brilliant you're getting stronger as a result too

Oh I wouldn't say stronger just more self aware and depressed about my flaws 😂😂😂

I'm a lot more self aware these days too cag not that it helps me much but I recognise that I'm feeling anxious about things, and when I'm starting to panic now. Before I just thought that was normal!

Cag I know what you mean about being stronger than you actually are, I am the sort of person who goes out of her way to avoid confrontation but a few times with things I have had to go in and be dds advocate. I don't find it easy but it is good for me to be assertive!!

Have had a nice morning, dd has been riding and is doing very well - cantering and jumping!! Popped into Morrisons and threw some things into the trolley £27, hopefully will be enough to last the week and now we have my friends dog here.

Apparently I ant have a courtesy car until my car is with the approved garage which won't be until Monday or Tuesday. I am never using m&s car insurance again.

I agree girlie I think it will be good for me! I am just lucky that my friends understand (sadly because they've all had issues with this family too) and I know they have my back.

Lonely I totally get you on thinking it was normal. When I had my assessment for M.E. it involved psychological tests too. I was asked if I was ever worried about bad things happening. I said no, but since then I have come to realise I am anxious pretty much all the time. It's like my baseline, it is normal to me!

mammy it was a tough one. I knew I'd have to stop eventually but really don't want to. But had a conversation with my instructor today and she asked. And said she'd only let me ride for one more month max. Then when I got home I couldn't undo my jodhpurs.... so they sealed the deal really!

I'm spending the afternoon being ruthless. Have tried on everything in my wardrobe.

Anything that doesn't fit now and I don't really love has gone. Mostly casual stuff if I'm honest. I've kept the non fitting work clothes (skirts dresses etc) well the more formal ones anyway. My gym stuff is vaccum bagged up. My riding gear is mostly bagged up. Summer shorts bagged up and I've ditched the majority of my tights. Have kept 3 pairs.

I have a decent assortment of maternity clothes.

Feels very cathartic.

Let's hope I make some cash money dollar off eBay for the stuff I'm getting rid of. Baby boy needs more clothes! Haha!

Happy to report both bags of feed same size so only 18c dearer

Em sounds good, jodhpurs a sign!

Either we've had a burglar while I was out or dh has been home briefly and eaten ds's breakfast 2 sausages & 4 mini potato waffles - he has weetabix all week before I've health police on to me

Today is flying by & very little accomplished

£12 for BBQ
£24 in from match betting.

wreck Did you email yet? Compensation, compensation,compensation. Leaving a mum of two with no car during school term time in a rural area. Not good.

Yes I did fluffy. No response yet.

£39 Amazon on a new lunch bag for me, a lamp for dd, stickers for work and some new ice blocks as one of ours is leaking.

Meal plan for the week:

Tapas type stuff
Curry
Sticky lemon chicken with giant couscous
Pasta bolognese
Sausages with something
Chorizo pasta

Think it was almost £80 for the food shop but my friend picked it up for me yesterday so not entirely sure.

It'll be Monday or Tuesday.

Shattered after 4 hour dance rehearsal as a chaperone.
Dh got tea in sainsbury and it's looks about £20 worth.

Oh I'm sorry about the half Mammy, do you know what went wrong? Was it a mental thing, lack of fuel, going off too fast? Sport can be tough, racing harder. I absolutely promise that the tough races and training sessions make the good ones worth it. Teaches us grit and determination and to dig deeper than we thought we could. Xx

Well done Cag, I like the balance that maturity gives us. I like that it teaches us self awareness, that certain situations make us very uncomfortable, but also sometimes to challenge our fears and grow from that, when that feels right of course.

Had a spendy shopping day with DD, most of which will be covered by her birthday money. Her best bargain, which I will pay for was some Kurt Geiger shoes for prom which were originally £130 and were £30. I will be stealing them for sure.

She got 2 Mac lipsticks with her own money.

I bought one MAC lipstick with my own money

Returned 2 pairs for shoes for £130.

Also bought some bits from M&S, an orange pleated midi for me and and embroidered top, and DD 2 pairs of completely on trend jeans. When did M&S start getting it's act together? There was some seriously decent stuff in there. I normally close my eyes and run through

What's not to like for prom when you are 16 and think you've the bargain of the century?