Frugaleers - joyfully jumping into June

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New thread. Xx

Phwoar, nice baps!

Laska we were in Shoreham by Sea recently. Had a tour of the lifeboat station, it was brilliant!

Stressful evening here, I MAY have had a bit of a sobfest due to being knackered and feeling utterly useless and guilty about it. And DD had a rough bedtime again. She's been doing better, but when the worries about the bullying come back, it really affects her. I can only hope they continue to get further apart, and she's had some absolutely brilliant times recently with GOOD friends (e.g. the lifeboats! Fab time on the beach after too), but when she's dwelling on the bad stuff, the good stuff doesn't help IYSWIM. In 10 years (on Saturday!!!) of being a mum, this has honestly been the hardest bit of parenting by far, not being able to take her worries away :(

Sorry for rant! Just BLAH!!! We are all extra stressed due to heat anyway I think. Better day tomorrow though right? I have a hospital appt so with any luck I'll hear Cagletini's heartbeat again. And that can't fail to cheer me up. Been wriggling like mad lately, got a definite routine going (nothing all morning, a little wriggling in the afternoon, then kick the crap outta mummy the whole evening).

Wonder how soon babySeacow (Seacalf?) will appear :o

Cag I know what you mean about the difficulty of not being able to help little ones with worries. My ds has complicated dentistry needed and is afraid both of having it done awake and asleep. We've been to ask ask advice of an expert on soothing small children, and I have another appointment in a couple of weeks. Hopefully she will have magical insight.

It's a shame that your dd has this bullying problem to deal with. Have you heard of Red Balloon? They specialise in this problem and I only found out about them because I walked past their office one day. www.redballoonlearner.org/

sunny no it was Basic Skills tutoring.. I dont do that now.. But ill always remember one of the students I tutored ( a man in his 40s studying an English qualificationas part of an NVQ. Sadly he was fairly unlikely to get the level he needed as he could hardly read and write, but he taught me so much about hedging, coppicing, woods, hedgerows and wildlife.. Such a shame he was forced into having to 'prove' his english skills just to get a chainsaw qualification when he was a natural woodsman and knew more about handling tools than many people ever would .

Cag they used to have a very dishy doctor at Shoreham Lifeboat!! (well thye di dwhen DS was small and we all went on a school trip rtheer!) /..

Ok bed ..most is now done in house but I still havent packed my bag! (though i do have stuff sorted to go) , I have to get the bus down to ferry at 11 tomorrow..

Ironic really isn't it that I once tutored Basic Skills English , when my posts are so badly spelt and punctuated?!! .. (I just type badly, far too fast, dont always preview and press 'post too soon!' )

Wow, Auntie Em, what a big boy. I love the mug Fluffy.
Back home now and hope to stay home. Too hot to think. Or do anything else. Very hot in London today. It was too hot to take DGS out. Had to put the big fan on him while we played Lego. For about 8 hours.
Hope it rains. I have decided I love rain. It can rain for ages.

Morning. Gosh I'm tired. DC wouldn't sleep.

Cag, everyone is allowed a cry when it's needed.

Nice baps em.

Is seacow having her baby?

No rain forecast here but I much more manageable 24 degrees. Dd has swimming after school but I'm thinking it'll be a nsd. Depends if I can manage to put together some lunch with the food we have (shopping day tomorrow).

Cag poor dd. I wish there was more help out there for children with anxiety. My niece suffers terribly and my sister is considering paying privately because there is zero help available.

I hope your DD is ok cag

I was officially a very grumpy hot mess by the time I got home yesterday. Sat in a boiling room doing training all day which I had to pay attention to as there was a test and assessment at the end. Train was delayed too which did not improve things either.

Feeling cooler here today, is going to be a high of 25.

Lounging around as I have a child free day at home as I could not face my commute on my birthday. If I can be bothered I may go and spend my birthday gift vouchers I got

If anyone uses pampers nappies, topcashback has £2 back on any size of nappies/pants. I know they aren't the frugal nappy option though

Crikey, thats the hottest night so far. Phew. I had dd3 up six times sleep crying, and ds came in at 2, and took over the bed.

I recon so wreck re seacow. I do hope things go super straightforwardly.

Am on my own at the shop today, but I'm shutting early as I don't really care right now, and going to see my mum instead. I hope none of our riders come on whining about the decisions we had to make yesterday. Have spent almost nothing this week, but its all offset by the £300+ at the opticians.

Laska have the best holiday!!!!

Happy birthday! 🎉💐

love Happy Birthday!!!

Happy birthday Love!

I was hoping for news of baby Seacow!

My bras almost fit. I ordered loads for trying on so I'm sending them all back and exchanging 2 for a slightly different size. If those 2 work out ok I will get one more but I don't want to get them until I'm 100% sure they are right. Why are they so bloomin expensive??

Did anyone watch EWFL last night? It's opened my eyes to sugar. I didn't think I was that bad but yesterday I ate 3 fairy cakes and a Magnum without even noticing. I'm going to cut down starting with tonight's shopping.

I did snuggly I was surprised about some of the stuff, like the ready made porridge pots and the jelly, ds will eat 2 of those on the bounce. No added sugar from now on I know I don't always check

Poor family though, what a choice to make, to pay for the meds the mum needs. I hope she's doing well.

DD loves those jelly pots too. I usually let her choose one at the supermarket! I felt very sad for that family. I think the mum was amazing wanting to leave a legacy of healthy eating etc for her girls. It would be so easy to indulge them in treats in that situation.

Also shocked Heinz ketchup came bottom. It's one of the few brand loyalties I have. Will be trying own brand next time.

I generally stick to Heinz ketchup because we used Tesco for a while and the recipe changed, the new one was watery and yuck. But recently DH picked some co-op brand and it's good.

I was a heinz person, but now just grab any, both lidl and aldi ones are good. But I have to have heinz light salad cream, and only buy hellmans mayo (tried lots if others), I bulk buy when on good offers, and its only really me who eats it (bar making tuna mayo), so lasts ages anyway.

Other than that, fairy liquid (green apple), actimel and choc brioche for ds, and the pink surf laundry powder (you don't need fabric conditioner with it) are the only other big brand stuff I buy without compromise.

I used to be like the families at the start of the eat well programmes, now I check the price/100g to make sure offers are good offers!

Happy birthday love

Dh won't eat anything other than Heinz ketchup. He swears by it. Sadly for him I've been buying shop own brands for ages and decanting into the Heinz bottle for at least the last two years... but he swears he only eats Heinz....

seacow if you are in the throws of labour and have the time to read this (?!) good luck, and hope everything goes well for you and seacalf! Xxxx

Spends today - postage on gift to nz for dnephew. Aaaah!! We saw a picture of him this morning. He is enormous. But super cute. Huge dark eyes and tons of dark hair. theres a lovely pic of bil holding him and dn is just gazing at him I guess like "wtf just happened, who are you...???" So lovely. 😀💙

Dh did say that it's been a bit of a "one out one in" this week family wise (what with his aunts death and new baby...). Not very pc but... there's another family baby due in a month. So we're hoping no more people depart. If they do we're going to have to warn the family before ours arrives..... #morbidhumour

Cag I think that's good advice from Wreck about your dd's anxiety. Ds and I are both paying privately to get help with this and it's way better than waiting in the endless queue and being told we're crap over and over again by GPs and the school.

Speaking of which, I just took ds to the dentist and I got ticked off for holding back ds by being too negative. I gathered up my courage and pointed out that it wasn't very helpful of the dentist to carry on drilling when ds was repeatedly screaming STOP!. The dentist apologised and said he hadn't noticed that he'd done that. I'm now practising being positive in my head.

I went home and rang the NHS dental hospital to see if ds has got near to the top of the 5 week waiting list, since it's been a couple of months now, and it turns out that the referral letter was never sent. I feel like I should roll my eyes or something, and I would, if the problem with ds's tooth wasn't so serious and so likely to turn into a serious infection any-day-now.

This morning was also a bit tricky because we tried three different ways to get to the dentist and two were gridlocked and one the road was closed. The fourth way worked with a fairly length sprint at the end.

Sometimes there is really a lot of tenacity needed to get where we're going, isn't there? I am keeping plodding.

Blimey.

So this just arrived from DB and family.

I have champagne, truffles, posh tea, a little birthday cake and party poppers

Aw wow! Enjoy!

Sunny it's definitely worth thinking about. I'll see what happens at the next appt for DD - the diagnosis (or potentially lack of) could change a lot. And then there's the matter of an educational psychologist too .

Consultant appt didn't happen. Turns out they should've booked it for after my 20 week scan (because the main point is to discuss the results). Which is next week. Facepalm. However the MW still checked the heartbeat for me and it was super strong :o

Wow love what a great gift! Enjoy it!

Posted the gifts to bil and sil £4.57.

And got a refund on the girl outfit I bought £32. I've just thought though that I'm sure they've over refunded me.... not going to sweat it. Their mistake.

It's a big complex business isn't it Cag? I keep wondering how much this concept of anxiety is just a symptom of living in the south of England where confidence is considered to be a sort of holy grail. There are plenty of places where confidence is not so sought after and where timid people would just be accepted and cherished for what they are.

My dm and df are considering moving to be near us, and I keep wondering if they really ought to do that. They are very quiet people and very respected at home and I do worry that people would just run roughshod over them here.

Have you ever lived outside the SE?

Interesting thought! Nope I grew up in Greater London (or Kent according to the postcode. Never really understood that) and then moved to Sussex.

Happy birthday bacon