What grief stage are you at with the pandemic?

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It's been a rough couple of years for most of us.

Where are you in the pandemic stages of grief?

The 'stages of grief' aren't linear. They aren't in an order. They can chop and change and be more than one at any one stage so this is very difficult to answer.
My anger isn't defined by your chart definition OP. My acceptance is also different.

It’s like I’ve spent the last two years gazing at the smashed bits of my life on the floor. Around November I started sweeping them up ready to go in the bin but I keep pausing and saying HOW IN THE NAME OF BLUE FUCK DID THIS HAPPEN.

Nail on the head there!

Fingers crossed they'll be a bit more positive forward movement for us both this year 🤞

@NewYearNewMinty

It’s like I’ve spent the last two years gazing at the smashed bits of my life on the floor. Around November I started sweeping them up ready to go in the bin but I keep pausing and saying HOW IN THE NAME OF BLUE FUCK DID THIS HAPPEN.

Nail on the head there!

Fingers crossed they'll be a bit more positive forward movement for us both this year 🤞

Nail on the head for me too. I have begun piecing together the smashed bits but there are cracks in my life that will never, ever be as good as new again.

@CaliforniaDrumming

I've bought myself a bullet journal. Set out categories of work, home, self-care etc and listed everything I want to achieve this year.

I'm allocating a few to each week/month depending on priority and finances.

I've found the Dr Phil podcasts really encouraging although appreciate he's not everyone's cup of tea.

Acceptance. I am feeling a lot better about life this January compared to last January, despite all the current chaos.

Sorry people can relate to my rant but also at least I feel less puzzled at the happy people.

I am binning all the smashed bits, they are irrepairable. Perhaps that's why I kept pausing to look - in case they could be pieced back together, but no, they are smithereens.

I look older than my older sister. She's another who coped well, and also didn't have friends to start with. Sensing a common theme here....!

@ElectraBlue

The 'I don't give a damn' stage...

I have had quite a few traumatic events in my life and still have difficult issues to deal with and the pandemic barely registered on that scale.

Had my vaccines, I am careful with hand washing and so on. Nothing more I can do so I just get on with my life.

And this is me. The pandemic barely registers as anything like trauma. I have not even found it difficult. I’ve been in two hotel quarantines too. But I’m just happy with it all really. So sorry that people are struggling though. That must be horrendous because it’s been two years. I’m willing to accept it’s probably a mixture of my not having many friends. Not really any social life. (When I go out I normally go alone). And also the fact that I have been through extremely traumatic life events so this pandemic does not seem very significant in my life.

I feel like it's depression at the mo with acceptance peeking through!

I think I hit the existential crisis/nihilism stage long ago of life is meaningless and we are floating on a rock in an infinite void and who gives a fuck anymore. Usually manifests as me just lying on the couch playing video games because why not?

This misses out the panic and worry stage at the beginning of the pandemic

Think I'm still in the panic and worry stage from the beginning. I've never been able to get past the fear. I was suffering with pnd and a rocky marriage as it hit and its like those feelings haven't moved on. Two years of feeling like an utterly anxious mess.

@TitoMojito

I think I hit the existential crisis/nihilism stage long ago of life is meaningless and we are floating on a rock in an infinite void and who gives a fuck anymore. Usually manifests as me just lying on the couch playing video games because why not?

I thought I had hit that stage ages ago - in life, I mean.

I have had stuff, health and bereavement, which I think "most people" would consider to be traumatic. I used to get cross about people telling me I'd been through trauma because I thought of it as something that happened to soldiers etc; I only recently found out how much the definitions and parameters have changed.

But it just happens that this situation has been worse for me. I suppose it all depends what matters to you.

I should probably take this thread off my watchlist! 😂

Depression.

Crawl into a cave forever stage? Although I dom think that's just pandemic related.

I’ve only ever been at ‘acceptance’ since a brief period of shock at the start of the pandemic.

The stages of grief, linear or not, have never really rang true with me anyway. You can feel deeply sad about things without being depressed, and shocked without being in denial.

The restrictions and impact of lockdowns on me due to the pandemic compounded the effects of trauma I had experienced pre-pandemic.