What grief stage are you at with the pandemic?

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It's been a rough couple of years for most of us.

Where are you in the pandemic stages of grief?

Have only haver had 'This is weird' and then 'Shrug'.

What grief stage is given up caring about the pandemic and can't be arsed anymore?

Largely acceptance now, but on a bad day sometimes flit about with 3 and 4 as well.

@ImprobablePuffin

What grief stage is given up caring about the pandemic and can't be arsed anymore?

this but i never bought into the scaremongering anyway

I work with covid everyday. When I finally get home i don't think about work at all I just play with my cats and do my winter hobbies. Its denial I guess but if I thought about it I'd go insane.

It's affected my life a lot, but I don't think this will be forever.

When the paxlovid medication becomes more available, I think life will become a lot more like it used to be for some formerly shielding people.

Meanwhile I am trying to get fit and looking at ways of getting back t work.

I do wish there could be a bit more clarity about the pills though, before the kids go back to school. As that is our big risk as a family.

The ho hum stage. Bored but not particularly worried or depressed. Same old same old.

Acceptance - but I didn't do all of them. Just 2 and 5.

Bored and totally disinterested.

I'm certainly not grieving.

Maybe people who are don't identify with the OP have not lost friends, jobs, mental health, or the possibility of seeing their families overseas more than once a year?

I’m fine. Really not too bothered. Definitely not grieving.

I’m sorry others are struggling though. I don’t mean to sound uncaring.

To be clear I just saw the attached graphic to the OP. I am not depressed about getting Covid. I am depressed about the fallout of Covid restrictions and the economic impact.

Acceptance. But I've never been anywhere else really. I've been able to take it all in my stride and had minimal emotional reaction to the whole thing.

@JanisMoplin

Maybe people who are don't identify with the OP have not lost friends, jobs, mental health, or the possibility of seeing their families overseas more than once a year?

Or just cope differently.

It's not wrong or right to feel like the past 2 years have been he'll. It's not wrong or right to feel the past 2 years have actually been ok, if a little unusual. It's not right or wrong to feel any particular way about something, people react differently to different things.

I find it a bit odd to look at 5 m dead ( or whatever figure it is now) across the world and think these years have been "ok", tbh, even if you are not personally affected.

Depression.

Acceptance from almost the beginning really, none of the other descriptions fit with my experience or feelings - I have felt angry but not because of the reasons listed. I had a baby at the beginning of the first lockdown so I never felt like it was within my control to solve anything. I have had to just roll with the punches.

Where are you in that list, OP?

@JanisMoplin

I find it a bit odd to look at 5 m dead ( or whatever figure it is now) across the world and think these years have been "ok", tbh, even if you are not personally affected.

Could say that about any deaths or sad world events 🤷🏼‍♀️

@JanisMoplin

I find it a bit odd to look at 5 m dead ( or whatever figure it is now) across the world and think these years have been "ok", tbh, even if you are not personally affected.

But it is what it is. Me crying/ being depressed/ lamenting it won't change it. And I try not to waste energy and emotion on things I can't change. I can say that I did absolutely everything I possibly could to help during this pandemic.

1. Over it

@JanisMoplin

I find it a bit odd to look at 5 m dead ( or whatever figure it is now) across the world and think these years have been "ok", tbh, even if you are not personally affected.

I don’t think the last two years have been ok, but the OP has only listed a limited number of feelings - most of us are far more complicated than that.

@JanisMoplin

Maybe people who are don't identify with the OP have not lost friends, jobs, mental health, or the possibility of seeing their families overseas more than once a year?

I have lost a parent, my job, not seen my sibling who lives abroad since they were last here in August 2018 (should have visited them in 2020 but y'know, covid), and my MH has dipped, still don't identify with the OP though.

Personally mild indifference. My job is secure (never been so happy to work in a pharmacy). I have escaped covid and am triple jabbed, so should I catch it now I'm hopeful it would be mild.

On the global scale, still scared and angry that many others without my privilege level have died and may die yet.

So I find the question hard to answer.

Stuck in anger.

I agree with pp that the op list doesn’t work for me as it’s more complex.

Also grief is used for something permanent. When I see signs of normality come back, eg a party yesterday I feel like a weight lifted. I think grief is much harder process than that.