What grief stage are you at with the pandemic?

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It's been a rough couple of years for most of us.

Where are you in the pandemic stages of grief?

@JanisMoplin

I find it a bit odd to look at 5 m dead ( or whatever figure it is now) across the world and think these years have been "ok", tbh, even if you are not personally affected.

With or Of A fundamental question Don't buy into the scaremongering

Acceptance for me.

Where did the list come from? Is it a meme? Is it from a YouGov poll?

I take your point @Thepineapplemystery and hope I too will reach the stage of acceptance soon! Not saying you should be doing anything; not even sure what most of us can do.

Acceptance though I wish more people would realise that they have some agency in the outcome. Get vaccinated, wear a fucking mask, keep your distance, ventilate indoor spaces and wash your bloody hands.

Honestly none of those. I can absolutely empathise with people who’ve lost loved ones, jobs, had their lives turned upside down and frontline workers having the most stressful time of their lives, don’t get me wrong. It’s been a shock and devastating for many people but personally for me, it really hasn’t affected me mentally beyond being bored. It certainly hasn’t been traumatic for me, I’ve had much worse times when I have been actively depressed.

Past acceptance and well into bored.

Acceptance all the way through for me.

Boredom with the odd bit of fury.

I don't think it's comparable to actual grief though. Have had plenty of that. It's different.

@BettyfromBristol

That chart does not relate to my personal experience of the pandemic.

Same here

I have been actively depressed (PND caused/exacerbated by restrictions, no treatment available) but the OP’s list still doesn’t reflect any of my feelings.

Depression

I am a mix of depression and acceptance.

There is a really good chance I will never see my parents again (they live in NZ and are ill). There is a very good chance that if my disabled immuno supressed DS gets it he will be very severely affected.

i am resigned.

But the pandemic has meant permanent loss of something's for some people. Not deaths of loved ones necessarily, but loss of opportunity,.jobs, time etc. I don't feel it's inappropriate for some people to be grieving.

Acceptance.

For a very li h time to be honest.
With a hint of anger when i read about the (non) measure of the government. But then maybe that’s anger towards to government altogether rather than something to do with the pandemic

No grief here. I have found the whole thing fascinating to be honest. Just really, really interesting. Getting bored with it now though. We have to travel a lot and the Covid admin is getting v old and tiresome.

Those stages do not relate to anything I've felt.

I'd say I started and have stayed at "slightly on my radar, but not particularly following what's going on regularly".

Depression.
I am grieving our old way of life. Even when there was the bare minimum of restrictions, there was still the constant reminders of the pandemic. And people going on about the "new normal", like our old normal is never going to come back.
Also, the division being caused over masks and vaccines. It is horrible, and I hate the world now.

I have always been at acceptance from first lockdown but it’s mixed with depression now as one by one myself and family have caught the virus, all separately and all within the last month after managing to avoid it for the last 2 years. I’d looked forward to Christmas and New Year after being apart last year and it just hasn’t happened for us. I am dreading returning to work as we will be extremely busy and customers don’t seem to particularly care that we are struggling with staff illness and doing our best under difficult circumstances. So yes definitely in depression now as I really should not be crying at the thought of it all

@Thepineapplemystery

But the pandemic has meant permanent loss of something's for some people. Not deaths of loved ones necessarily, but loss of opportunity,.jobs, time etc. I don't feel it's inappropriate for some people to be grieving.

Exactly, that's why I've been grieving. I should have given up hope and wandered into acceptance much earlier than I did.

Maybe a useful lesson for the future for me.

Double digit miscarriages since March 2020, no baby. I’m on immune suppressants for ivf and shielding for ages. Couldn’t give a toss about covid - a minor inconvenience tbh. Staying home and wearing masks is the least of my worries.

I am at the trying to understand what just happened to all of us stage and how we are all so connected by this pandemic across different countries and races and how most people have a pandemic story of their own. So I think I am at the what does this mean historically stage- is that acceptance?

Okay, my brain clearly doesn't work today, sorry.

I'd say I'm at acceptance but looking at the OP picture, I can't agree with "this will end" though it depends what that means.

I guess the moral of the story is don't answer philosophical questions! 😂

For me, acceptance is accepting the situation as it is and not trying to figure out when or if it will end. Things always morph into other things of course but when you read about America building test centres that won't be complete till 2025, then I think, okay, that is a longer than I was expecting, so now all bets are off for me.

Those stages do not relate to anything I've felt.

Same here. Unsurprisingly as the OP and I don't really see eye to eye on this topic.

Done ✔