What grief stage are you at with the pandemic?

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It's been a rough couple of years for most of us.

Where are you in the pandemic stages of grief?

Boredom

Fucking done?

Ah OK thank you.
I'm past acceptance and moved on.

Acceptance pretty much all the way through. I had covid very early on and it was awful and has really messed things up for me, but I also have chronic health problems which have done the same so after a spell of bargaining I have pretty much accepted the situation for what it is.

Acceptance. Been there for quite a while now.

I'm not a big fan of that five stages concept. It gets trotted out a lot, but it was originally generated from research with terminally ill patients and the acceptance final stage is about accepting they were going to die. Fatalism in the literal sense. Not, as in this example, 'what can we do to minimise harm' but 'this is it, this is going to kill me, game over.' Arguably minimising harms is still the bargaining stage. Acceptance would be accepting that covid was going to kill us/our families and there's nothing we could do about it. I don't think many people are at that stage (not least because the odds are it probably won't).

Why do you keep posting this OP? Everyone knows what your views are. Maybe a new years resolution to understand that not everyone has the same view as you.

I ain't got any grief.
I'm not grieving

“Barely interested”

I seem to remember there is a newer framework for looking at grief these days.
Pandemic-wise, I'm between acceptance and pissed off with it all. Willing to continue to obey restrictions, but worn out with the tedium and emotionally fatigued.

Bargaining and depression simultaneously.

Depression

None of them. As for "shock and denial" well that part is shown as just denial so is a ridiculous "stage".

@MrPickles73

Boredom

That does beg the question about why you are looking at the coronavirus board.

Is mildly irritated one of the stages of grief?

Or slightly annoyed with wild hyperbole?

Acceptance

Depression
Plus a dose of anger

Where I imagine a lot of my Nhs colleagues are at present

I'm at the end in one way but I still think public health us a shambles.

I didn't have any of those. More like frustration (at late lockdown) Anger at about 100 other government poor decisions that have cost life's and money and at the dickheads that voted the tossers in. Sadness at losing my family member and 2 friends to covid and at the PTSD DH is suffering from working front line and getting long covid. Worry about the larger agenda of whoever is behind the antivaxx cult.

I think I’m doing them backwards 😂 this time last year I was pretty accepting. Right now I’m on anger given the absolutely ridiculously high case numbers and the fact that it’s fucking up so many people’s arrangements because everyone is testing positive all the time.

I’m trying to move to bargaining, which specifically will involve promising to tolerate the next couple of months of utter shitheadedness if we can get back to some kind of normality and I can have a foreign holiday in the autumn. PLEASE GOD PLEASE …

Between depression and acceptance. Sick of people saying "when we get back to normal" and "when will it end?". Short answer "not in our lifetimes unless you are extremely young". Infectious respiratory diseases have been part of being human for a very long time.

I'm not a fan of that model for grieving loved ones

But I do find it fits Covid really well

I'm at acceptance but I wish I had reached that earlier. I feel like there's a lot of stuff I should have been getting on with but I didn't. I seem to have just been stuck in "waiting" mode and I don't really know what for!

I can’t relate to the framework in relation to the pandemic at all.
At many times over the last couple of years life has felt relatively normal.
The principle of doing as much as we’re allowed to do at the time has served me well I think as then when we have had to have lock downs it’s not felt as bad because of having been out, done stuff, been on holiday etc.

I have covid now and have had it quite badly, but then I haven’t had any other flu or viruses for ages so would expect some sort of illness like that every couple of years anyway.

I fluctuate between 4 and 5.

Tbh I've had enough shit going on in my life aside from the pandemic to not have time to dwell on it and I'm too busy/stressed about other things.