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Potentially ruined Christmas.

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FrenchyQ · 17/12/2021 08:25

Dd22 phoned last night to tell us her boss tested positive for covid yesterday ( they even went into work after doing the PCR test). She's supposed to be coming home for Christmas on Tuesday (, she's at uni 100 miles away). She's being hesitant about getting a PCR herself as she knows if it's positive she's gonna have to self isolate.Weve booked her one for this afternoon anyway.
I just feel panicky now about her coming home,myself DH and ds all had covid a month ago and I really don't want it in the house again (as it may be Omicron so we could get it again ).
Leaving her to self isolate down there will be worrysome anyway as she has history of self harming/suicide attempts and if she's alone over Christmas that'll heighten her feelings for that.
I know alot of this is what ifs until she tests positive/negative but it's sending my anxiety through the roof!

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BlackCatz · 17/12/2021 09:14

I'm not drip feeding on purpose here

You definitely are.

NotSorry · 17/12/2021 09:15

@PurpleDaisies I meant times have changed regarding students and computers - neither of mine have laptops, they don’t need them or use them.

I think the purpose of this thread is being lost with this exchange, so I am leaving you to it.

ILookAtTheFloor · 17/12/2021 09:16

No brainer.

Go and get her.

BobLemon · 17/12/2021 09:17

Then your DH can go get her when she’s ready? I’d also sod the PCR.

AD80 · 17/12/2021 09:19

At this point I would be just going to get her. Hopefully she won't catch it and there a good chance she won't but if she does, having her at home safe sounds better than her staying on her own and her mental health suffering. You had it a month ago so your chances are lower, I'd risk catching it again anyway in your circumstances. She needs to be home.

MrsSkylerWhite · 17/12/2021 09:19

PurpleDaisies

Did you potentially have a very contagious illness?

I have followed guidance on when I am allowed tk leave the house as a contact.

It would be a totally different situation if she had symptoms.”

If I had been a close contact of a positive, I wouldn’t travel on public transport, symptoms or no symptoms. Most young people are asymptomatic.

stingofthebutterfly · 17/12/2021 09:19

Flipping hell, pick your daughter up.

BlackCatz · 17/12/2021 09:20

home, windows open, wear a mask, she can always isolate in her room and you can you deliver all her meals and do the day on zoom

Jesus, you really would do all of this if the whole household had had it recently?

Amberflames · 17/12/2021 09:20

If her boss did a PCR as a close contact and didn’t have symptoms, no lateral flow positive, etc then there was no requirement for them to isolate.

OP if I were you, even if she tests positive I would be bringing her home. I wouldn’t risk leaving her alone for Christmas given past MH issues.

Sally872 · 17/12/2021 09:22

Sorry just read the update. Priority for me

  1. your physical safety if she is likely to be violent for any reason and you are scared then fine to set boundary.

  2. her mental health

  3. your household catching omicron. I would expect you all to isolate unless she gets a negative pcr so if not taking test then I wouldn't be seeing other friends and family.

Derbee · 17/12/2021 09:23

You sound cold and heartless. But suddenly DD is demanding, unpredictable , violent and doesn’t care about her family. Sounds like you should make her spend Christmas on her own, guilt free OP. NOT

RedRobyn2021 · 17/12/2021 09:24

Just read your update op

What the hell

Tabbacus · 17/12/2021 09:24

@FrenchyQ

She won't go on the train...apparently as her parents we have to go get her(even tho she will travel on the train to see her boyfriend etc). She is refusing to come home as she has work tonight and tomorrow night and is more interested in the money than the well being of her family. I'm not drip feeding on purpose here but we have history of violence against myself when she doesn't get her own way (we got thrown off a flight and escorted out of an airport due to her punching me as she wasn't getting her own way), so if we try and force the situation of her coming home earlier than she wants it will probably not end well for me.
It sounds like she needs help and support to be honest rather than you chatting about her on a messageboard and expecting people to say what you want to hear.
Opal8 · 17/12/2021 09:25

@AnyFucker

Just go and get her, fgs
^ this!!
Couchbettato · 17/12/2021 09:29

I think I'd rather risk having covid again than risk my child's mental health spiralling and them not being any where close for me to help.

We're probably all going to get Omicron anyway, and while I agree with measures to slow the transmission, I'd accept it for what it is in this case.

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SprayedWithDettol · 17/12/2021 09:31

Her mental health trumps everything.

CoastalWave · 17/12/2021 09:32

Go and get her (repeated 100 times over with everyone else)

AlecTrevelyan006 · 17/12/2021 09:33

@Lex345

1)You may have had Omicron last month anyway 2) If your daughter is positive and doesn't come home, you are likely to come into contact with Omicron in the next 2 weeks and could still contract it 3) With your daughters history, there is no way I would leave her to self isolate alone 4) She may not even have it
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fruitbrewhaha · 17/12/2021 09:33

Oh god, what happened to her? Why is she violent with you?

She probably doesn't want to let work down by not going in. She probably does need to money and has already budgeted for it. She should test though as she shouldn't be going into work if she has it.

But if you were hoping for everyone to say leave her there I don't think anyone will think that way.

TuesdayRuby · 17/12/2021 09:33

If she’s booked in to work tonight and tomorrow night she can’t just up and leave and say she’s not turning up! I think she’s doing the right thing here - we’re ALL nervous about catching Covid before Christmas. If you’re lucky enough to be laptop based and can WFH that’s brilliant, but a hell of a lot of people have to turn up to their place of work still. Where does your DD work?

Porcupineintherough · 17/12/2021 09:35

Well I wouldnt have anyone over the age of 10 who was violent to me in my home, and that includes my own children. But maybe that's just me.

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FrenchyQ · 17/12/2021 09:37

@fruitbrewhaha

Oh god, what happened to her? Why is she violent with you?

She probably doesn't want to let work down by not going in. She probably does need to money and has already budgeted for it. She should test though as she shouldn't be going into work if she has it.

But if you were hoping for everyone to say leave her there I don't think anyone will think that way.

She's violent with me because she sees me as a push over . She still thinks getting a 3 month ban from an airline was hilarious.
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PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:40

This situation changed quickly.

actiongirl1978 · 17/12/2021 09:41

Last year when parents weren't allowed to bring students home if they tested positive, my DH and I agreed that we'd cut through the fencing outside the halls of residence to bring our child home if they wanted to come.

We have had covid in August/sept and I now have it again. But none of us is isolating in a room, we are being a family and supporting each other.

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