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Potentially ruined Christmas.

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FrenchyQ · 17/12/2021 08:25

Dd22 phoned last night to tell us her boss tested positive for covid yesterday ( they even went into work after doing the PCR test). She's supposed to be coming home for Christmas on Tuesday (, she's at uni 100 miles away). She's being hesitant about getting a PCR herself as she knows if it's positive she's gonna have to self isolate.Weve booked her one for this afternoon anyway.
I just feel panicky now about her coming home,myself DH and ds all had covid a month ago and I really don't want it in the house again (as it may be Omicron so we could get it again ).
Leaving her to self isolate down there will be worrysome anyway as she has history of self harming/suicide attempts and if she's alone over Christmas that'll heighten her feelings for that.
I know alot of this is what ifs until she tests positive/negative but it's sending my anxiety through the roof!

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JesusInTheCabbageVan · 17/12/2021 08:59

Hope you get her OP.

yikesanotherbooboo · 17/12/2021 08:59

Could you take 2 cars to where she is so that she can drive home alone if she is going to have to isolate? Alternatively drive to her place and leave the car there and you get public transport home?
As things stand she can still use public transport herself as she is symptom free.

Delatron · 17/12/2021 09:00

I do worry what Covid has done to us when people think this is logical. Recent Covid infection, double jabbed yet still so fearful they’d leave self-harming daughter alone over Christmas.

FindingMeno · 17/12/2021 09:00

And op, bring her home and try to let her know you're not worried and you could pick up covid anywhere, so she doesn't feel like a ticking time bomb.
I feel for you. Anxiety is a struggle.

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:01

Why is everyone talking as if this girl can’t go on a train?
She is only a contact. She does not have to isolate.

NotSorry · 17/12/2021 09:02

@PurpleDaisies

Why is everyone talking as if this girl can’t go on a train? She is only a contact. She does not have to isolate.
Because she might have a shed load of stuff to bring home?
Wondering5952 · 17/12/2021 09:02

You're getting a battering here OP but you have my sympathy. It sounds like you might be struggling somewhat with your mental health too if you're feeling panicky about this. Your mental health also matters.

In this scenario I would personally go pick her up. Have a long chat with her about what she wants to do and how she's feeling about everything. I hope everything works out ok for your family.

Delatron · 17/12/2021 09:02

She might be getting the train. OP doesn’t say. This is about her coming home for Christmas.

Dragongirl10 · 17/12/2021 09:03

Her mental health is the most important thing here not the very slight chance you may get Covid again. She may not even have it. Of course she can’t spend Christmas alone.

This^^

Theunamedcat · 17/12/2021 09:03

@PurpleDaisies

Why is everyone talking as if this girl can’t go on a train? She is only a contact. She does not have to isolate.
I suppose its the just in case she is positive what's the bigger risk public transport where your in contact with hundreds of people or a car masked up with the windows down in contact with a couple of people who you know have antibodies
PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:03

Because she might have a shed load of stuff to bring home?
I went home on the train every Christmas as a student. So did most of my friends. Most people manage a couple of week’s holiday without needing to take a car load of stuff.

underneaththeash · 17/12/2021 09:05

You've just had it! You're not going to get it again so soon.

FreeBritnee · 17/12/2021 09:05

So with a history of bad mental health and accident attempts you think that’s the safer option than otmicron? Come on. Go get her.

FreeBritnee · 17/12/2021 09:06

*suicide

milkysmum · 17/12/2021 09:06

What has happened to people!?
The government and the media really has a lot to answer for- I work in mental health and cannot believe people would now risk leaving vulnerable people and isolating and alone because they are frightened of covid.
Go and get your daughter please.

NotSorry · 17/12/2021 09:06

@PurpleDaisies - we picked up 2 ds's yesterday, they both brought their computers (along with their clothes etc.) as they have studying to do at Christmas - times have changed

NinaProudman2022 · 17/12/2021 09:06

I am CEV, fully vaccinated, lost a parent to
Covid, scared shitless of getting covid but I would get your DD and get her home now in a heartbeat (where masks in the car and go get her) regardless of the result.

MrsSkylerWhite · 17/12/2021 09:07

PurpleDaisies

Because she might have a shed load of stuff to bring home?
I went home on the train every Christmas as a student. So did most of my friends. Most people manage a couple of week’s holiday without needing to take a car load of stuff.“

Did you potentially have a very contagious illness?

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:07

I suppose its the just in case she is positive what's the bigger risk public transport where your in contact with hundreds of people or a car masked up with the windows down in contact with a couple of people who you know have antibodies

Contacts are doing the every single day in England. That is the rule now. The op doesn’t have a duty to adhere to some sort of higher standard because some posters don’t agree with the current covid guidance.

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FrenchyQ · 17/12/2021 09:07

She won't go on the train...apparently as her parents we have to go get her(even tho she will travel on the train to see her boyfriend etc). She is refusing to come home as she has work tonight and tomorrow night and is more interested in the money than the well being of her family.
I'm not drip feeding on purpose here but we have history of violence against myself when she doesn't get her own way (we got thrown off a flight and escorted out of an airport due to her punching me as she wasn't getting her own way), so if we try and force the situation of her coming home earlier than she wants it will probably not end well for me.

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PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:07

[quote NotSorry]@PurpleDaisies - we picked up 2 ds's yesterday, they both brought their computers (along with their clothes etc.) as they have studying to do at Christmas - times have changed[/quote]
Most students have laptops. Far easier than taking a pc home.

GrandDuchessRomanov · 17/12/2021 09:08

I can't believe I've just read that!

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:08

Did you potentially have a very contagious illness?

I have followed guidance on when I am allowed tk leave the house as a contact.

It would be a totally different situation if she had symptoms.

PurpleDaisies · 17/12/2021 09:11

[quote NotSorry]@PurpleDaisies - we picked up 2 ds's yesterday, they both brought their computers (along with their clothes etc.) as they have studying to do at Christmas - times have changed[/quote]
Having reread, are you seriously suggesting students didn’t need to study over Christmas twenty years ago? It was harder then. I took folders of past papers and textbooks which are online now.

Some students needed to totally empty their rooms so obviously that needed to be done by car but plenty of us just took a big suitcase with clothes, textbooks and a laptop,

Sally872 · 17/12/2021 09:14

Due to self harm and suicide I would prioritise dd over risk of covid.

Furious that boss went to work while waiting for pcr but that doesn't help. Hopefully pcr is negative. If positive Hopefully the rest of you don't catch. Flowers

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