Anyone struggling mentally?

[AlandAnna]

I am.

@Whattochoosenow

I’m feeling angry a lot. It comes from the frustration of not seeing an end to this.

Covid has affected friendships too. I’m seeing people I’ve been friends with a long time turn into frightened rabbits , so cautious, but also a lot of really inconsistent behaviour when it comes to risk. I’ve tried my best to accommodate, allowing and trying to understand peoples fears, but this week I’d had enough. I’ve got one friend who won’t even go to a cafe, and hasn’t done for two years. And now we can’t go into each other’s houses if there’s 3 or 4 of us because of the worry of the risk.
I can’t do this anymore! I’m upset, frustrated and fed up.

I feel like this too. Also have a friend who hasn’t gone anywhere for two years to speak of. I just feel she isn’t a friend anymore because I never see her and she has nothing to talk about apart from Covid statistics.

I’m struggling but feeling quite nervous about posting this here. There was a similar thread a week ago but to do with the uncertainty around travel. People were slated and derided for leaving their home country and living abroad. So please be gentle and no ‘well you deserve it for being a foreigner’ comments

I was supposed to fly home to South Africa tomorrow to be with my family & friends for Christmas & New Year. It’s been years. Obviously cancelled the trip as soon as SA was put on the red list. Only for it to be taken off today. When I found out yesterday I just felt numb & defeated :(

@PickAndChooseMe I really feel for you..Being another person far from family. Mumsnetty hugs.

[quote JanisMoplin]@PickAndChooseMe I really feel for you..Being another person far from family. Mumsnetty hugs.[/quote]
Thank you and right back at you . Grudgingly I had come to terms with not going back this year. However for the government to change the rules the DAY BEFORE I was meant to leave just makes it so much harder to get my head around. If they changed it on January 2 I would have been ok. Ridiculous but it feels like a personal attack. I just want to scream.

@PickAndChooseMe I have started keeping a journal of my rage. I write in it about all the people that have wronged me:)

If I were you, I would use the money saved to buy myself something nice for Xmas. Hope you get to SA soon.

@PickAndChooseMe -
If you still want to go, I wonder if you could now get a ticket and still get there and go back to your original plan?

I am now

@Whattochoosenow

I’m feeling angry a lot. It comes from the frustration of not seeing an end to this.

Covid has affected friendships too. I’m seeing people I’ve been friends with a long time turn into frightened rabbits , so cautious, but also a lot of really inconsistent behaviour when it comes to risk. I’ve tried my best to accommodate, allowing and trying to understand peoples fears, but this week I’d had enough. I’ve got one friend who won’t even go to a cafe, and hasn’t done for two years. And now we can’t go into each other’s houses if there’s 3 or 4 of us because of the worry of the risk.
I can’t do this anymore! I’m upset, frustrated and fed up.

I relate to this so much. A few of my friends have moved away recently, and of the three who are left, one hasn’t been out of the house for anything more than a walk since the pandemic began. I’ve gone along with everything to try and make them comfortable, but they cancel every plan at the last minute so I miss out on seeing them and the other person in our group. I then made plans this week to see the other member of the group and they cancelled on me as well. So basically now I have one friend in my city who is willing to see me 🤦🏻‍♀️ And it feels so lonely.

I usually really enjoy the run up to Christmas and seeing people, and now I have no plans to leave the house for the next ten days, or see anyone but my partner or immediate family. Having to WFH has made things worse, at least I would have seen my colleagues if I was still in the office. In a way it seems worse than last year, when we were under actual restrictions, now people are enforcing their own lockdowns! I understand not wanting to go drinking in busy bars or spending time in busy shopping centres, but I’d be happy with a takeaway coffee and a walk outside, doing a LFT beforehand, and I’ll be fully vaccinated with my booster appointment on Saturday. How can we move forward in life when something that simple isn’t even an option?

Yep 😔

Yes. I alternate between times of going into trance like states where my mind just shuts down, to reality hitting me like a bolt of lightning causing a panic attack.
It's at night when the children are sleeping that I cry.
Not because of covid (although that doesn't help the situation), but because my 22 year old son is very ill and having medical investigations (which could be hindered by covid).
He is also severely disabled and non verbal, so doesn't understand the hospital procedures.
I can't eat or sleep. It's just heartbreaking.
I'm just hoping they don't put restrictions on Care Home visits (we couldn't see him last Christmas) as he is in supported living (requires constant supervision).

@PickAndChooseMe I really understand how you feel. My family are all in NZ and I haven't seen them for more than two years. We are booked to go in March but I'm pretty sure Omicron will cause NZ to pull up the drawbridge again, so feel like we've all gotten our hopes up only to have them dashed. Is there any way you could book a new ticket now that SA is off the red list?

I'm really shocked to read some people's experiences on here how their friends just aren't living anymore, just existing.
I'm 37, and I don't know anyone at all who isn't just cracking on as normal. Haven't wore masks or met outdoors for a very long time now. I just keep thinking we can't get this time back, especially for our kids, so have got to make the best of it.

I’m sorry @IceandIndigo

I thought about it but decided against it. I don’t trust the government! If I had went I would be on constantly on edge waiting for Boris to drop the next last minute bombshell announcement. They change rules overnight. I have commitments here and the threat of an extra 10 days quarantining in a hotel or getting stuck in SA is too much of a risk.

My sister tested positive Tuesday, been sent to hospital this evening

Stormbraver99

I know a couple in heir thirties who have been living completely in a bubble since lockdown began. No socialising, not seeing their parents. Just terrified of Covid to the point that they won’t let anyone, even family, in their house .
They just live in a bubble. The two of them.

Don't know what to do about Christmas day See elderly parents (but practically self isolate week before). Don't see them, feel guilty, have no Christmas dinner food in.

Feel overwhelmed

Yes - I'm a headteacher and everyone expects me to have all the answers.

Staff are anxious. Parents are anxious and worst of all pupils are anxious so it's important I appear calm, smiley and relaxed

I don't want to close my school and if we have to I will have to deal with the wrath of parents, the despair of staff and the knowledge that pupils are losing out again.