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How many of you will comply?

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LifesTooShortYOLO · 21/10/2021 10:34

I am interested to know if people will comply or not if they bring in Restrictions again about not mixing households, not seeing family or lockdowns etc again.
So many people I've spoken to are pretty much all of the same mindset of 'Fu#k that I'm not not seeing my family again, enough is enough and we have to get on with our lives now'
I also read this a lot on comments of articles where people are saying no they won't do it again and not see their loved ones or be told what to do over Christmas etc.

What are everyone's overall feelings as things stand right now?

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Wellbythebloodyhell · 22/10/2021 14:37

Nope ! Kept away from family in lockdown one didn't comply after that and have no plans to do so ever again . Don't get me wrong there will be no huge house parties but If my DM decides she wants to pop round or my dc decide they want to spend the day with grandparents then it's happening without question.

Fetarabbit · 22/10/2021 14:41

Seriously, people, if your child is CEV and you believe covid poses a threat to their life, they shouldn't be in in-person school. If you know that and put them there anyway, that's on you for intentionally risking their life. And when the inevitable happens and they get covid from a classmate, it won't be the school's or the classmate's fault. It will be yours.

Wow, this is one of the most ignorant things I've ever read on here, and that is saying something.

Shanghaisprize · 22/10/2021 14:43

Seriously, people, if your child is CEV and you believe covid poses a threat to their life, they shouldn't be in in-person school

ODFOD. So who's offering to educate my child for free then or fund me so I don't have to work then. You?

Or would I be supposed to manage a household and 2 other children solely on carers allowance of around £67 a week (if I was lucky enough to get it).

Topseyt · 22/10/2021 14:47

@zombiedog21

I mean, it's very easy to dramatically state "I'm not complying!" anonymously on the internet like it's some great revolutionary statement. But I honestly think most people who are saying this will, if and when it comes to it, stay home this Christmas and follow the rules - because we're a nation who love to grumble but ultimately do as we're told. Me included!
I don't agree.

I complied a lot during the first lockdown, but then my Dad becoming ill (not Covid, but terminal anyway) taught me a lesson. It taught me that elderly relatives may have very little time left and that if I continued to be foolish and comply with such bollocks I would never see him alive again.

So I mean what I say. Never again will I comply so easily with the removal of my freedom to see my family. I shouldn't have swallowed it all so completely and I am glad I saw sense in time. I will never make that mistake again, especially as my elderly mother is the same age now as my Dad was, increasingly disabled and no longer in the best of health.

I do say this in real life too and I don't care who knows.

Shanghaisprize · 22/10/2021 14:47

you've inexplicably decided that protecting your child is my responsibility rather than your own

Decency. Integrity. Morals. Social responsibility. You don't appear to have even one of those qualities. You disgust me.

TheSunIsStillShining · 22/10/2021 14:57

[quote PerfectHotChocolate]@Thewiseoneincognito, the virus is no longer the threat it was, now we are all vaccinated. There is no need to not socially mix any longer. People will catch Covid and then recover, it's fine.[/quote]
we all=~67% of all ppl living in uk.

in my book that is not all. Even only 79% OF ELIGIBLE are vaccinated. again --- NOT ALL

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 22/10/2021 14:59

@Shanghaisprize

you've inexplicably decided that protecting your child is my responsibility rather than your own

Decency. Integrity. Morals. Social responsibility. You don't appear to have even one of those qualities. You disgust me.

My integrity, decency, morals, sense of responsibility…. Is firmly focused on my children, family, friends etc

When I’ve got a bit more time and energy, I’ll start thinking about those that are immune compromised (presumably prior to covid?), but until then…. Nah

HesterShaw1 · 22/10/2021 15:02

I complied a lot during the first lockdown, but then my Dad becoming ill (not Covid, but terminal anyway) taught me a lesson. It taught me that elderly relatives may have very little time left and that if I continued to be foolish and comply with such bollocks I would never see him alive again.

Absolutely this.

And while I was so earnestly protecting the NHS and other people, no one actually gave a shit about me, my health, my wellbeing. So I have to do that myself. That's another lesson learned.

Treblebass · 22/10/2021 15:07

@PurpleOkapi

Absolutely. If my child was CEV I would protect them in anyway that I could, and I most certainly would be home schooling right about now.
We haven’t got much money at all but I would find a way!!!

I wouldn’t expect other people to rearrange their life around my child. It’s a virus doing what a virus does. If your child attends school they WILL catch covid.

NCBlossom · 22/10/2021 15:12

@Reallyimeanreally2022 that’s a bit dark… we have to have compassion for more than ‘us’ - otherwise we are saying we would live in a society where others are worse off because of what we do and we don’t care.

Biancadelrioisback · 22/10/2021 15:16

I complied a lot during the first lockdown, but then my Dad becoming ill (not Covid, but terminal anyway) taught me a lesson. It taught me that elderly relatives may have very little time left and that if I continued to be foolish and comply with such bollocks I would never see him alive again.

Same, but my Grandad died before I was able to see him. He was in a care home and was only allowed one family member to visit him. We could wave through a window if we wanted to but he was furious that this was happening that he cut himself off from us. He died alone. Not surrounded by the several loving children he had, all their spouses, all the grandkids and great grandkids (not saying that he would have actually been surrounded by us all in his final moments, but at least we would have been around in the weeks/days leading up to it.

Even the funeral was heartbreaking. Watching my close family members break down and not being able to hug them or even hold their hand? We couldn't raise a glass for him or anything. Literally went in, came out and stood around the side of the crem for about 20 minutes talking before we were told to move on.

Like pps say, I won't be throwing any house parties, but I'll still see my parents if they're happy to see me. I will happily wear masks, happily keep getting jabbed, happily adhere to social distancing when out and about, happily not shake anyones hand ever again....but I won't happily isolate from my loved ones unless absolutely necessary.

Fetarabbit · 22/10/2021 15:17

[quote Treblebass]@PurpleOkapi

Absolutely. If my child was CEV I would protect them in anyway that I could, and I most certainly would be home schooling right about now.
We haven’t got much money at all but I would find a way!!!

I wouldn’t expect other people to rearrange their life around my child. It’s a virus doing what a virus does. If your child attends school they WILL catch covid.[/quote]
Can you not see how that is not feasible for many families? How one adult (let's be honest, probably the mother) leaving work to homeschool full time would plunge some into poverty? How some people aren't equipped to home school, or that some children thrive in a school environment; why should they be home schooled (the very thing you're against for even short periods) instead of schools being supported by the government and communities to implement the simple measures other countries have? But attitudes like yours make the government even more comfortable in their stance to also not give a fuck about vulnerable people (not just related to covid).

BeeDavis · 22/10/2021 15:19

I won’t be complying. I have a 4 week old baby, currently on maternity leave, my fiancé is back at work. The only thing that will keep me sane is seeing friends and family as and when I want/need to.

Topseyt · 22/10/2021 15:30

@Biancadelrioisback

I complied a lot during the first lockdown, but then my Dad becoming ill (not Covid, but terminal anyway) taught me a lesson. It taught me that elderly relatives may have very little time left and that if I continued to be foolish and comply with such bollocks I would never see him alive again.

Same, but my Grandad died before I was able to see him. He was in a care home and was only allowed one family member to visit him. We could wave through a window if we wanted to but he was furious that this was happening that he cut himself off from us. He died alone. Not surrounded by the several loving children he had, all their spouses, all the grandkids and great grandkids (not saying that he would have actually been surrounded by us all in his final moments, but at least we would have been around in the weeks/days leading up to it.

Even the funeral was heartbreaking. Watching my close family members break down and not being able to hug them or even hold their hand? We couldn't raise a glass for him or anything. Literally went in, came out and stood around the side of the crem for about 20 minutes talking before we were told to move on.

Like pps say, I won't be throwing any house parties, but I'll still see my parents if they're happy to see me. I will happily wear masks, happily keep getting jabbed, happily adhere to social distancing when out and about, happily not shake anyones hand ever again....but I won't happily isolate from my loved ones unless absolutely necessary.

At my Dad's funeral in early April we complied insofar as we really had to in that only 30 people were allowed in the crematorium. Others did gather outside it and/or watched the livestream link.

Afterwards though, we just ignored the rules. We went back to my mother's house and had a sizeable gathering with sandwich platters and wine. She wouldn't have coped with just being dropped off at home and everyone leaving. My Dad's death marked the end of a 63 year marriage. She needed her family and friends around her, so we were.

Biancadelrioisback · 22/10/2021 15:51

Topseyt I wish we could have done that. My family were all too worries to gather together indoors anywhere in case we were 'discovered'. Stickler for the 'rules' which just meant several different families were driving away from one another feeling so sad and lonely.

Treblebass · 22/10/2021 15:57

@Fetarabbit

The simple measures do nothing but extend the timeframe whereby people catch covid. Drip feeding the virus, it still stands CEV kids absolutely
will catch covid even with “simple” measures, particularly with the delta strain. Doesn’t matter how much people scream and shout about it all.

The government know they’ve lost the goodwill to comply now.

WitchyNameChange · 22/10/2021 16:00

@zombiedog21 I saw my family last Christmas and I'll do the same this Christmas. Believe what you like, I stopped letting the government dictate who I can't see in my own home last summer.

SisterBeaverhausen · 22/10/2021 16:07

I'll just do what I do currently. Lft before seeing vulnerable friends/family.

Don't see anyone if we're ill or they are (like normal people, that includes the awful cold we've all been getting)

And I wear a mask anyway. Mask wearing doesn't bother me, I have a heart condition and wear one during flu season and have done for as long as I can remember.

EffOrf · 22/10/2021 16:15

There will be many bubbles anyway, even our PM managed to find one last Christmas. Last year us and DS were in tier 2 so didn't need to use the Christmas bubble but had we been tier 4 then Christmas bubble it would have been.

PurpleDaisies · 22/10/2021 16:30

@EffOrf

There will be many bubbles anyway, even our PM managed to find one last Christmas. Last year us and DS were in tier 2 so didn't need to use the Christmas bubble but had we been tier 4 then Christmas bubble it would have been.
You couldn’t form Christmas bubbles in tier 4 areas.
XenoBitch · 22/10/2021 16:34

@EffOrf

There will be many bubbles anyway, even our PM managed to find one last Christmas. Last year us and DS were in tier 2 so didn't need to use the Christmas bubble but had we been tier 4 then Christmas bubble it would have been.
There was no Christmas bubbles in tier 4, although support bubbles were allowed as usual.

I hope we don't see a return to all this bubble talk. Bubbles belong in the bath.

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 22/10/2021 16:34

[quote NCBlossom]@Reallyimeanreally2022 that’s a bit dark… we have to have compassion for more than ‘us’ - otherwise we are saying we would live in a society where others are worse off because of what we do and we don’t care.[/quote]
Sure, If it’s dark to prioritise my children and family and friends over an immune compromised stranger that was presumably immune compromised before covid - then I’m as dark as the night!

EffOrf · 22/10/2021 16:34

DS lived on his own so we could have any bubble we wanted to call it

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 22/10/2021 16:36

@Fetarabbit

That single mother with the immune compromised child in your example

I wonder what she did before Covid?!