Am I going to die :(

[Iwannabelikeyouohh]

My husband has just had a positive LFT.

I’m absolutely petrified. I’m extremely obese with a BMI of 40.

I am fully vaccinated but I have had two different vaccines. 1 AZ and 1 Pfizer.

I feel physically sick with worry. 😓

@Budapestdreams

I really mean this from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much for your kind words! ♥️

Yes he could it can take 3-4 days so it is possible he did. It is possible he did not.

Its all Delta though around at the moment - it has pretty much taken out every other variant so it is unlikely to be anything different.

With Delta, you can get symptoms quite early. Also, no way of knowing if his symptoms were actually Covid anyway. It's unlikely he has mutated a whole new strain by himself (aware that's not how it works). The UK only really has delta at the moment. More likely he caught it from your DH or from somewhere else he has been over the past week (shops, work, friends houses, the pub, the bus).

Concentrate on what you can control, not on what you can't.

I feel so drained this morning.

I’m trying to stay positive, especially for my son.

Im barely sleeping.

I have a session with my psychologist tomorrow night (online)

No you don't have to take more pcrs unless you have symptoms. In fact you could carry on as usual now. When are you next due at work?

It seems unlikely your dbro caught it at your house before your dh had symptoms. Not impossible but particularly given the precautions you took unlikely.

Hope your psychologist can support you with your anxiety.

@LIZS

I will be due back to work on Monday.

My DH tested positive Friday night on LFT.

Brother was here in the afternoon.

That's great you have your appointment tonight OP, I hope it goes well.

I think this is a great opportunity for you to take control of your anxiety so it doesn't rule your life.

And to reduce the factors that are in your control - for example I don't know (obviously) the reasons you are obese but I do know that it causes you additional health anxiety. Maybe you can try to channel that anxiety into a plan of action to get your BMI down through some fun exercise, new recipes etc.

You might not be able to start anything right away e.g. group classes, but you could try some free online workouts to see if any are fun for you and then look for similar classes in your area for when you're able to socialise again.

I remember a friend of mine with health anxiety (caused by the trauma of a serious case of sepsis) saying it made her world feel so small that it was full to the brim with thoughts of her health, worst case scenarios etc.

Rather than trying to push her thoughts about health out of her world, she made her world bigger so there was room for other thoughts if that makes sense?

She added new layers to her life - a hobby, some classes, seeing friends more often etc and found that as her world was bigger, the health anxiety took a much smaller proportion of her headspace. You could do all of that, bit by bit, once things are back to normal when it comes to social restrictions.

I don't know if that helps at all but something worth considering maybe?

Getting healthier can only be a positive thing and sometimes a health scare that triggers trauma and worry can also be a trigger for a positive change in your health.

I’ve decided to book a PCR. I woke up with a headache, didn’t think much of it but it’s getting worse and I feel really sick with it.

It could be from lack of sleep and stress, but since I’m living with two positive cases, I’m going to test.

LFT is negative.

If I’m positive, will I have a higher viral load? Because I’ve been around both my husband and son, will I have more virus as they’re both positive?

Is that how it works?

@Iwannabelikeyouohh

If I’m positive, will I have a higher viral load? Because I’ve been around both my husband and son, will I have more virus as they’re both positive?

Is that how it works?

No, don't worry about that.

The viral load you have, if you were positive, is dependent on how efficient your immune system is at degrading the virus.

You've had two vaccinations so your immune system has a headstart if you were to be infected :)

I'm glad your LFT was negative and there no harm in doing a PCR again. Viral load is about exposure so hospital staff in the first wave were exposed to a lot of virus which make them more vulnerable.
HOWEVER, small children don't shed many virus particles so you won't get many from your son. Your DH can and should still wear a mask around you when he can, and he was isolating from you during the first days after he tested positive so you won't pick up too much virus from him either.
There are lots of stories of families who mixed fully and some of them never caught it. Couples who shared a bed throughout but one never got it from the other.
What I'm saying is that you WON'T have been exposed to a higher viral load than most of us with family members who have Covid.

Also, remember that your body is absolutely FULL of antibodies just waiting to fight of any virus particles that dare to come near you!

Your anti bodies are ready to go in a way no one else in your family has. Breastfeeding DS will have set off your immune system already. There are really high chances you'll be absolutely fine.

@talkalarm

Your anti bodies are ready to go in a way no one else in your family has. Breastfeeding DS will have set off your immune system already. There are really high chances you'll be absolutely fine.

Why do people keep saying this? Breastfeeding will make no difference as it's her DS that's infected not the OP. It would only make a difference the other way around. If the OP was positive then antibodies would (possibly) be passed to her DS through her breastmilk.

@benelephant people keep saying it because it is true. A mother's body will make antibodies to pathogens that the baby/child has in their system, regardless of whether the mother is infected herself.

It's one of the amazing features of breastfeeding.

@benelephant and anyone else who doesn't know this... the mother's nipple senses antigens in baby's saliva and then makes antibodies for them. It's really awesome and i wish it was more widely known how amazing breastmilk is.

[quote Isabellabasil]@benelephant and anyone else who doesn't know this... the mother's nipple senses antigens in baby's saliva and then makes antibodies for them. It's really awesome and i wish it was more widely known how amazing breastmilk is.[/quote]
How strange. I was a breastfeeding counsellor for 15 years and fed my own children for 13 years and counting, but yet I've never heard this.

I hopr your pcr comes back negative @Parky04

If it’s any comfort OP - my husband and two children all tested positive end of August. Husband was symptomatic (in bed for a couple of days) but children were not. We always agreed that we would not segregate from each other if one was positive, as our children are still young.

I slept next to my husband each night (although didn’t snog him obviously!) and interacted with my kids as usual. I didn’t catch covid - I’m double jabbed with AZ.

The thing that you are most at risk from as a young, double vaccinated female, is your debilitating anxiety.

@benelephant wow! Thanks for being a bf counsellor, that's fab. I guess it's not very widely known?
www.parents.com/baby/all-about-babies/amazing-viral-photo-shows-how-breastmilk-changes-for-babys-needs/

@makelovenotpetrol

The thing that you are most at risk from as a young, double vaccinated female, is your debilitating anxiety.

@makelovenotpetrol

You forgot the obesity…

A young (ish) double vaccinated, obese female.

I’m at risk from Covid because of my size.

I’m not at risk from my anxiety

I disagree entirely. Living in a constant state of flight or fight, complete disproportionate to the reality of a situation, is no good for anyone.

OP here is a risk calculator of your odds of dying as a 35 yr old obese woman. This was PRE vaccination. As you see , the risk is tiny even without being double Vaxed. www.economist.com/graphic-detail/covid-pandemic-mortality-risk-estimator
Your anxiety on the other hand is seriously detrimental to your health , wellbeing and relationships. I think this could be a good thing- now you are facing your fear, hopefully when you move past it with little trouble, you will be able to move on and get some normalcy back x

I can't remeber if I have already replied to this thread but my very obese friend only had one jab and caught covid ....... she had a headache!!

You will be fine x

@benelephant you might be interested in this study which shows that the leukocyte content of mature milk is elevated even when only the infant has an infection, while the mother was asymptomatic.

There are also currently studies underway looking at the covid antibodies present in the milk of vaccinated mothers.

Just because the OP isn't testing positive doesn't mean she won't have antibodies present in her system, given she's living in a house with two people with covid if she's not testing positive it's because her antibodies are doing their job.