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Am I going to die :(

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 08/10/2021 21:43

My husband has just had a positive LFT.

I’m absolutely petrified. I’m extremely obese with a BMI of 40.

I am fully vaccinated but I have had two different vaccines. 1 AZ and 1 Pfizer.

I feel physically sick with worry. 😓

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 09/10/2021 23:26

@GreyhoundG1rl

He’s doing just fine. He’s had meals, snacks and drinks taken up for him all day!!
I ran him a bath earlier too, he was in there over an hour. He’s been looked after, don’t you guys worry…

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Mickarooni · 10/10/2021 01:13

It’s important you get out every day. A walk sounds nice. Do you have any friends you can meet up with?

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 07:35

@Mickarooni

Yes I do but I’m worried nobody will want to meet up with me if they know DH is at home with Covid.

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 07:36

DH PCR is positive 😞😞😞😞

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Gladioli23 · 10/10/2021 07:46

They did some tests which mixed vaccines (AZ and Pfizer) and the mixture was more effective than AZ alone so I don't think you need to worry about not being fully protected.

As a 35 year old, even with co-morbidities, you're still very likely to be okay if you catch coronavirus, statistically. I recognise that doesn't make the panic go away. When is your next call with your psychologist? Can you talk to them about how this is impacting you now?

hopeishere · 10/10/2021 07:56

So now you have concrete information. It is covid. All you can do now is stay apart as much as possible and test yourself regularly. You need to lean in to your fear.

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 08:04

MIL & FIL both positive too. We saw them Tuesday so pretty obvious where is has come from.

MIL is CEV 😞

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LIZS · 10/10/2021 08:10

So your next step is to get a pcr as a close contact. Just take it one at a time. For all you know you or ds have had it and never realised.

honeylemonteaforme · 10/10/2021 08:11

With a BMI of 41 you will hopefully be eligible for a booster btw if you were in group 6. If not you should ask your GP

userxx · 10/10/2021 08:17

@Iwannabelikeyouohh

I thought I was doing okay and I’ve just had the biggest panic attack. 😞😞

I was sat watching TV when my heart began to pound. I was shaking and sweating and literally couldn’t catch my breath.

Had to run upstairs to DH who has now hugged me to calm me down (he had two masks on) 🙁😩😩

I’m so scared. I can’t believe the --fucking plague-- Covid is finally in my home.

I'm saying this kindly, try and get a grip. Your anxiety is taking over, recognise it and try and find some coping mechanisms.

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 08:26

@honeylemonteaforme

With a BMI of 41 you will hopefully be eligible for a booster btw if you were in group 6. If not you should ask your GP
@honeylemonteaforme

Not until 6 months after my second.

My first was mid March second end of June.

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LIZS · 10/10/2021 08:28

Boosters can be than six months, are you thinking of the top up dose?

Whatwentwronghere · 10/10/2021 08:32

I'd be so annoyed in your situation op. If mil was full of cold why on earth did she not test to rule it out?

Get yourself a pcr, most people will get symptoms by day 5 so if you're feeling OK today then odds are in your favour your vaccine is doing it's job.

There was a study, I think it was in south Korea, that found the combination you had was the dream team of vaccines for preventing infection.

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 08:34

@Whatwentwronghere

I'd be so annoyed in your situation op. If mil was full of cold why on earth did she not test to rule it out?

Get yourself a pcr, most people will get symptoms by day 5 so if you're feeling OK today then odds are in your favour your vaccine is doing it's job.

There was a study, I think it was in south Korea, that found the combination you had was the dream team of vaccines for preventing infection.

@Whatwentwronghere

She wasn’t when we saw her Tuesday she was full
Of cold on Wednesday.

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BlueberrySugar · 10/10/2021 08:47

Is your DH vaccinated?

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 10/10/2021 09:02

At least you can apologise to DH as you both socialised with them so it was nothing to do with just him alone.
Your and your little one need to get tests now as close contacts and isolate as much as possible if negative.

OliveTree75 · 10/10/2021 09:09

OP it really isn't anyones fault for catching a virus. I hope you manage to avoid it but if you don't I am sure you will be fine.

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 09:12

@BlueberrySugar

Is your DH vaccinated?
@BlueberrySugar

Yes.

DH MIL & FIL all double vaccinated.

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 09:13

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

At least you can apologise to DH as you both socialised with them so it was nothing to do with just him alone. Your and your little one need to get tests now as close contacts and isolate as much as possible if negative.
@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

I have apologised. Me and DS are going for PCR this morning.

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Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 11:26

Me and DS have been for PCR this morning.

My sister in law and her 15 month old have symptoms now. They saw MIL on Wednesday (she thought she just had a cold) 😣

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AntimonySalts · 10/10/2021 14:44

I haven’t even been able to go to the loo alone

Come on, OP. I wasn't able to go the loo alone for about five years solid as I was at home for days on end with the children, and sometimes at the weekends too. In the end, I got so fed up with carting babies and toddlers upstairs to the loo that used the potty downstairs instead. Plus it's jolly difficult to climb stairs at toddler pace with a full bladder, a weak pelvic floor, and an armful of babies. You really are capable of more than you think you are!

Now, as you say, "the Plague" is in your house. This is where you need to erect a mental STOP sign before you start catastrophising ("Covid is here, and I'm going to die of it").

Break it down.

Covid is in your house.

What is the worst thing that can happen?

I'm going to die of it.

How likely is this?

It's 100% likely because I'm so overweight.

Is there anything that might make up for your weight?

I'm young.

I'm otherwise in reasonable health.

I'm female

I have had what appears to be the dream team of mixed vaccinations.

The overwhelming majority of overweight people who have Covid are not even hospitalised, never mind die.

The overwhelming majority of people who contract Covid at all, even if unvaccinated, have a minor illness.

And so on.

Once your family has got over this Covid hump - which you will - you then need to try again to find the root cause of the anxiety. The root cause of my phobia about norovirus (which still causes panic attacks in me) turned out to be to some extent related to the fact that I was absolutely terrified of the children being killed in a random accident, which in turn stemmed from post-natal anxiety.

You are young, and you can sort this out.

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 15:04

@AntimonySalts

I haven’t even been able to go to the loo alone

Come on, OP. I wasn't able to go the loo alone for about five years solid as I was at home for days on end with the children, and sometimes at the weekends too. In the end, I got so fed up with carting babies and toddlers upstairs to the loo that used the potty downstairs instead. Plus it's jolly difficult to climb stairs at toddler pace with a full bladder, a weak pelvic floor, and an armful of babies. You really are capable of more than you think you are!

Now, as you say, "the Plague" is in your house. This is where you need to erect a mental STOP sign before you start catastrophising ("Covid is here, and I'm going to die of it").

Break it down.

Covid is in your house.

What is the worst thing that can happen?

I'm going to die of it.

How likely is this?

It's 100% likely because I'm so overweight.

Is there anything that might make up for your weight?

I'm young.

I'm otherwise in reasonable health.

I'm female

I have had what appears to be the dream team of mixed vaccinations.

The overwhelming majority of overweight people who have Covid are not even hospitalised, never mind die.

The overwhelming majority of people who contract Covid at all, even if unvaccinated, have a minor illness.

And so on.

Once your family has got over this Covid hump - which you will - you then need to try again to find the root cause of the anxiety. The root cause of my phobia about norovirus (which still causes panic attacks in me) turned out to be to some extent related to the fact that I was absolutely terrified of the children being killed in a random accident, which in turn stemmed from post-natal anxiety.

You are young, and you can sort this out.

Yesterday was such a bad day, I wasn’t thinking properly.

I just felt so overwhelmed and I felt like I wanted to hide from my toddler because my mind was so consumed with Covid and death.

I’ve been able to do some relaxation and I’m trying so hard to keep positive.

If DS and I are negative (did Pcr today) we are going on the holiday we have booked tomorrow.

It’s a caravan by the coast for a week. We can do lots of outdoor things together and it’s a good way to isolate form DH.

Poor thing is still upstairs. He’s getting fed plenty. He seems happy enough.

He still doesn’t have any symptoms. I wonder when they will appear.

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makelovenotpetrol · 10/10/2021 15:12

They likely won't appear OP.

I know you are getting help from the mental health services but in the kindest way if this is what's happening to you, that help is not working - you might need to address this with them and see if they can change anything or offer anything else.

Asking to be sectioned isnt reasonable behaviour either as per your original post. You don't have a serious psychiatric disorder which would require that, you have severe anxiety which needs addressing. Sectioning someone will not help with that.

Iwannabelikeyouohh · 10/10/2021 15:36

@makelovenotpetrol

I don’t think my behaviour on this particular situation is “abnormal”

I think anyone in my position would feed the same.

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GreyhoundG1rl · 10/10/2021 15:39

I don’t think my behaviour on this particular situation is “abnormal”

I think anyone in my position would feed the same.

I'm afraid you're wrong on both counts.

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