This is shit

[wiggleshasmylife]

I went through my entire pregnancy alone because of covid. I got induced and spent 4 days alone in a hospital bed because of covid. No visitors rill active labour. My husband had to leave 3 hours after her birth.
We've spent the last year saving and scrimping money because you guessed it covid fucked us over financially. Now it's my daughters first birthday this week. We arranged a very small gathering.. both grandparents, 2 friends and 4 cousins. Thats all we asked for and we've had to cancel because 2 have tested positive and we've been pinged by the app. So this is shit. I've had enough. This was the last little bit of something I was clinging to. I'm.done with this shit. I've saved my last little bit of holiday and money to do something with her and now we can't. What's the point anymore? And before anyone comments I know she wont remember it but I've had a very shit year and this is all I wanted

You really don’t need to isolate so I definitely wouldn’t be doing that!

Thing is, most posts have been variations of the same thing i.e commiserations and then suggestions of things you could do. That’s the ‘life gives you lemons’ message all over, just packaged differently 🤷‍♀️

You’re clearly not in a headspace to want to be made to feel better, that’s fine, feel your feelings but don’t let them take over and dig your heels in at the expense of moving to a different frame of mind that ultimately you benefit the most from.

Your comment of 'so what' regarding everyone else who's had a shit year says a lot about you. Thing is Op, there's more than you dealing with all this crap. When I gave birth, it was alone, Dp didn't get there on time, and saw his child all of 11 minutes before he and I was taken away due to illness. FYI severe pre eclampsia. You see Op, shit happens to a lot of people. You need to pull up your big girl pants and get on with it.

@Tootsey11 I'm really not gonna have a who's life is worse competition. I'm fairly certain the so what comment applys to a lot of people. My grandma died alone with no visitors because of this, my husband has gone thru 3 jobs because of this covid shit each one earning less that his previous. We don't eat dinner most evenings cos we have no money. If you want to have a pissing competition that's fine..if I didn't have my big girl pants on I'd have been dead 8 months ago. Dont judge me before you know the shit I've gone through.

OP, if you can, please ignore the 'get over it' posters.

FWIW, I have cancer and am in the CEV group, so had a pretty shit 2020, but I remember thinking 'at least I haven't just had a baby'!

You've had a tough time, and I know that last straw feeling so well.

@MilesJuppIsMyBitch thank you. Sorry today's been hard. Lost my temper a little bit

For those wanting an update it was her birthday today. We ate cake.we watched lion King again. We saw grandparents quickly in the garden. We watched lion King Once more. And then we ate more cake and had some food.
We are going to have a party soon.

@JaniieJones

'I know covid is a big deal but I dont need to be told others have it worse. I'm sorry to sound so blunt but so what.'

Yes but equally others could say 'so what, hopsital appointments alone and a missed birthday party'.

What you do is accept it's been an awful year, it's getting better. Just arrange a belated birthday party. You have a child, I presume you're all fit and well. Stop wallowing.

If the 'stop wallowing' was you trying to be helpful, I'd hate to see when you're attempting to be a dick.

Solidarity OP, hope you have been enjoying the day. Please try to ignore some of the more obviously cunting posts. It's been fucking hard for many women having babies during this. You are entitled to say so.

'If the 'stop wallowing' was you trying to be helpful, I'd hate to see when you're attempting to be a dick.'

Oh stop being so precious, if 'stop wallowing' has you this outraged god help you on other threads 🙄.

Yes the op has had a tough time, as we've all acknowledged. It's fine to have a moan but on a chat forum folk will offer their opinions you see, such as 'yes it's been awful but I'd just have a belated birthday celebration'. Which is what I also said, not just your 'stop wallowing' selective snippet.

The time when you could've convincingly called anyone precious has long elapsed.

You made an unhelpful and totally unnecessary comment to someone who it clearly wasn't going to help. So you're getting called on it. Don't like it? That's a shame.

Had my baby April 2020 and I can so relate. I feel like I’ve been partially robbed of her first year :( look after yourself x

[quote wiggleshasmylife]@MilesJuppIsMyBitch thank you. Sorry today's been hard. Lost my temper a little bit

For those wanting an update it was her birthday today. We ate cake.we watched lion King again. We saw grandparents quickly in the garden. We watched lion King Once more. And then we ate more cake and had some food.
We are going to have a party soon. [/quote]
I'm glad you made what sounds like a lovely birthday for your daughter. Enjoy the party when you have it!

Delete the app, ignore the 10 day isolation and have the party minus the two positive friends.....

I'm so sorry OP. I hope you do have that party soon and I hope you really enjoy it!

I had a baby in May 2020. It was so lonely. I didn't know anybody else with children and had nobody to talk to. DH had to work, so I was very much alone with DS and no help.

It is awful and not what I feel was a good start to parenthood. Your situation really sucks. I'm sorry it's gone this way for you and I hope you can celebrate your DC's birthday with friends and family soon!