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Would you have non-vaccinated people in your house?

312 replies

NormaSnorks · 01/07/2021 15:32

I am part of a reading group. 8 of us used to meet in each other's houses on a rotating basis. Have been on zoom for last 14 months but we are starting to discuss return to hosting at home.

One member is ardent anti-vaxxer and two other members have said privately that they don't want her in their homes as they believe she presents a higher risk. One has an elderly relative at home and the other a CEV child.

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AppealingPeel · 01/07/2021 18:56

We are having a family get together this summer and my mother has excluded her sister because she's not vaccinated. Mum is 12 years older and not willing to take the chance. It's caused a lot of hurt feelings but everyone has backed mum which has made the anti-vax aunt feel awful.

Micemakingclothes · 01/07/2021 18:59

DH is CEV and got no anti-bodies from the vaccine. No one without a vaccination is entering our home.

We are following the guidelines given by his doctors. We don’t socialize with anyone who is unvaccinated. Our friends and family all know about his condition and all know the extreme steps we have had to take to keep him safe. Not a single one has balked at sharing their vaccination information with us.

(And I know someone will inevitably ask, what about the kids going to school? We have been homeschooling since March 2020. Thankfully our local school has been incredibly helpful with this and DH and I are both well-positioned for this task. Socialization has been provided with families in similar circumstances)

LimitIsUp · 01/07/2021 19:02

Those are a particular set of circumstances Mince where it makes perfect sense to know the vaccine status of everyone visiting your house

LimitIsUp · 01/07/2021 19:03

Mice even!

starfish4 · 01/07/2021 19:05

I've struggled throughout, mainly as I have two high contact jobs, one some customers have little respect, the other masks shouldn't be worn (some of us wear visors/masks). I need to be able to relax in my home - DH and I have discussed this, and he actually said the answer is only to have people who've been vaccinated in our house. Seems to be a real talking point about everyone we know, and we know everyone's vaccination status. As it happens, turns out all we know want to the careful and seem only to meet outside.

You have to do what you feel personally comfortable with.

sparemonitor · 01/07/2021 19:21

I wouldn't be friends with anyone who was an anti vaxxer.no one I know socially is selfish enough not to get the covid jab so it's not an issue. Why are you friends with these people?

Hornbill123456789 · 01/07/2021 19:35

Of course I don’t need to know the vaccine status of people working on my house, or the delivery driver. Although if - say a workman was giving me a quote and the showed no Covid consideration I wouldn’t use them.
Friends are different and tbh I tend to be more friendly with those who share the same outlook to me.

Vaccine hesitancy I can understand, but the only conspiracy theorist I know (no longer friends) - was pushy, dominant and looked down on me for not sharing her view.
On Mumsnet I’ve crossed paths with a few - and they seem to share similar traits - denial, unable to listen to reason, hypocritical, paranoid, very ready to gaslight/exclude/use ableist language to anyone who disagrees.

kezziethegingercat · 01/07/2021 19:42

The only person I know who openly says she hasn't had it and won't I s my mum and I allow her in my house. Also have my own children and their friends/family's children. I don't ask other people their vaccine status to be honest and happy to have them in my house regardless.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 01/07/2021 20:11

I find that vaccine status is a normal part of conversation, here in California. Locally, we have 90% full vaccination, and have celebrated that our kids 12 and up are included. Long way to say, no. I would not have anyone unvaccinated in my home (barring a dire circumstance) nor in my office. Of course, if there were health reasons that barred vaccination, we'd consider our options.

An anti-vaxxer, no hope. They'd not be invited into my garden either.

YogaLite · 01/07/2021 20:32

I really don't get why anyone is scared of non-vaccinated people Confused

Why not do tests before meeting, even LFT, just to make sure (assuming tests can be relied on to some extent)?

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NormaSnorks · 01/07/2021 20:45

If a person is a covid-denier ("it's just flu...") then they're unlikely to be willing to do a LF test?

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Ifitquacks · 01/07/2021 20:47

Yes I would. I have to, as I have 3 kids who live here.

Ifitquacks · 01/07/2021 20:48

Also, I’ve been vaccinated and trust that it prevent serious illness so why would I be worried about someone being unvaxxed?

Heneage · 01/07/2021 20:54

Only if they are pregnant/medically exempt or haven't been offered it. The rest are not welcome in my gaff

Schrutesbeets · 01/07/2021 21:09

Heneage
Is 'I'm exempt' sufficient for you, or will you be requiring their medical history too?

Ifitquacks · 01/07/2021 21:11

@Heneage

Only if they are pregnant/medically exempt or haven't been offered it. The rest are not welcome in my gaff
Do you want the reason they’re exempt? A copy of their Dr’s notes?
KimmyAndMe · 01/07/2021 21:23

Nobody who couldn’t give a toss about protecting me or mine would be invited into my home. My DF is unable to have the jab for health reasons. It’s because she has severe health problems and cannot have the jab, she would not choose to be around others, and has no choice other than to isolate.

Everyone in my home has had both jabs. We had them to protect ourselves and others. Anyone who chooses to not have the vaccination is not welcome. We didn’t have the vaccination to protect them, any more than they did not have the vaccination to protect anyone else. They don’t care about me and I don’t care about them.

peboh · 01/07/2021 21:25

Yes I would, because it's none of my business wether a grown adult has chosen to have a vaccination or not. I don't know if my friends or family have been vaccinated, I haven't volunteered information on my vaccination status either because it never occurred to me that I had to inform people.

sleepwouldbenice · 01/07/2021 21:26

I wouldn't expect to know someone's vaccination status to make that call and I wouldn't exclude anyone just for that
But a general do what I like and sod everyone else person I would avoid as I wouldn't like them personally and they would be higher risk overall

ilovesooty · 01/07/2021 21:31

@Hornbill123456789

I think - again I would exclude myself and not associate with an ardent anti-vaxxer. I have a right to choose to disagree strongly with their view. So rather than exclude the person, I would exclude myself.
Same here.
shewalkslikerihanna · 01/07/2021 21:40

I have non vaxEd people in my house all the time
I don’t discriminate on the basis of their medical history

FflosFfantastig · 01/07/2021 21:44

It seems to me that vaccinated people seem very scared still, despite having had their vaccine to protect themselves. I find it very bizarre. It must be awful to live every day with that degree of fear and preoccupation with other people's medical history.

chickenyhead · 01/07/2021 21:46

@FflosFfantastig

It seems to me that vaccinated people seem very scared still, despite having had their vaccine to protect themselves. I find it very bizarre. It must be awful to live every day with that degree of fear and preoccupation with other people's medical history.
A LOT of people got vaccinated to protect vulnerable members of their family. NOT themselves.
Ifitquacks · 01/07/2021 21:46

@FflosFfantastig

It seems to me that vaccinated people seem very scared still, despite having had their vaccine to protect themselves. I find it very bizarre. It must be awful to live every day with that degree of fear and preoccupation with other people's medical history.
I mean... you’d almost think they thought the vaccine didn’t work! I trust the vaccine to protect me, I don’t care if anyone else has had it or not.
KimmyAndMe · 01/07/2021 22:04

It seems to me that vaccinated people seem very scared still, despite having had their vaccine to protect themselves. I find it very bizarre. It must be awful to live every day with that degree of fear and preoccupation with other people's medical history

I’m not scared of contracting covid. I’m fully vaccinated, as are all members of my family and close friends who are able to have the vaccine. I am scared that those dearest to me, who cannot have the vaccination due to major health conditions. They don’t want, or deserve, to end up in hospital on a ventilator, or even worse, die from Covid through no fault of their own. I don’t want that for them so will protect them the best I can. Anyone who chooses to not have the vaccination, despite being able to, and ends up on a ventilator or worse… well… their choice really 🤷🏻‍♀️