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Will you spend time with partially / un vaccinated people?

194 replies

roseyroses · 26/05/2021 14:51

I have severe health anxiety and after a conversation with my Dr this morning I have decided against my second Covid Jab.

I had my first AZ but I’m severely anxious about my second one and it’s really interfering with my work / home life.

I don’t want this to get in the way of being able to spend time with friends or family (who will be fully vaccinated)

I have a small child and I want to be able to arrange plat dates and days out by I’m afraid people won’t want to be around me if I’ve only had one vaccine.

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RaspberryCoulis · 26/05/2021 14:53

I couldn't give two hoots. I also wouldn't think to ask people if they have or not had the vaccine.

After over a year of this shit, the last thing i want to talk about on a playdate is covid.

TonTonMacoute · 26/05/2021 14:53

It wouldn't worry me at all.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 26/05/2021 14:53

Couldn't care less, and I don't ask people

Waxonwaxoff0 · 26/05/2021 14:54

Yes, I don't care. I wouldn't know anyway as I'm not going around asking people!

thisisfineihavewine · 26/05/2021 14:55

I literally wouldn’t/don’t care abs it wouldn’t enter my head to talk about. The last thing I want to talk about on a play date is Covid

osbertthesyrianhamster · 26/05/2021 14:55

I don't care. I've had two doses of AZ. I did it for me.

Dozycuntlaters · 26/05/2021 14:55

Wouldn't bother me at all. I've had my jabs but would never think to ask someone else if they've had theirs and certainly wouldn't not see someone because they are not vaccinated.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/05/2021 14:55

Wouldn't occur to me to ask.

Surely as someone who's partially unvaccinated it's more an issue for you being around non or part vaxxed not me being around you iyswim

EducatingArti · 26/05/2021 14:56

Well, as I work with children, none of whom are vaccinated, then yes I would, but I'm waiting to see how things go with new variants before I switch back to face to face work rather than online. For me it depends exactly what the rates of infection are at any particular time.

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roseyroses · 26/05/2021 14:57

@SleepingStandingUp

Surely as someone who's partially unvaccinated it's more an issue for you being around non or part vaxxed not me being around you iyswim

Yeah the Dr actually said the same thing.

I just wasn’t sure how others would feel about it.

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Yummymummy2020 · 26/05/2021 14:57

I guess everyone will have their own limit on what risks they are willing to take. I am happy to see people but outside at the moment. I am not having people in my house though not fully vaccinated at this time or for the foreseeable. For context though I am a high risk pregnancy and was too far gone to get the vaccine when I was offered it. Outside of pregnancy I am high risk too so my willingness to take risks will be lower than someone not in the risk group. It is up to you if you want to take the vaccine or not, but I guess If you are upfront about it some people may or may not choose to interact differently with you. I’m not sure it will impact play dates hugely as kids are not yet vaccinated anyway to my knowledge. I can tell you though, if one of my friends didn’t take the vaccine I would respect their decision as I do feel it’s their choice, I would just plan seeing them in the safest way possible, at least till I myself can get the vaccine anyway!

Highlands23 · 26/05/2021 14:57

Not had any doses yet and spoke to GP and want to hold off for a couple of years yet and no I’m not anti vax just doesn’t sit well with me this one with no real long term testing and I’m Having drinks with two fully vaccinated friends and they know my opinion and respect it and we are good friends whatever

Baluchistan95 · 26/05/2021 14:58

Interesting. I'm 57 and do not intend to take this experimental vaccine which is still on trial until 2023 and has only emergency approval. My concerns are the opposite of yours. Do I want to be around vaccinated people? I am reading a lot about the possibility of 'shedding' from those that have been vaccinated, which to be honest, scares me. However, my gut feeling is that I am not at any risk from the vaccinated.

CoffeeCakey · 26/05/2021 14:59

I'd only take it into account if the person I was seeing wanted to hold off until they'd had been fully vaccinated. If someone decideds they only want one/none then that's their choice and I wouldn't be asking them.

TwoAndAnOnion · 26/05/2021 14:59

TBH, Im vaxxed, I'm protected, but I could still carry and pass it to you, it's your choice not to receive a second vaccine and leave yourself vulnerable.

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 26/05/2021 15:00

Couldn’t you have started this thread in the coronavirus topic?

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roseyroses · 26/05/2021 15:01

@TwoAndAnOnion

it's your choice not to receive a second vaccine and leave yourself vulnerable

I disagree with this. I feel like I can’t chose because my incredibly anxious brain is not capable of thinking rationally about this. 😔

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roseyroses · 26/05/2021 15:02

@Allmyarseandpeggymartin

Couldn’t you have started this thread in the coronavirus topic?
@Allmyarseandpeggymartin

Yh I could but I wanted the opinion of more that board. that ok? 😃

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Sensateria · 26/05/2021 15:02

How will they know you are only half vaccinated?

Acupofcamus · 26/05/2021 15:03

Haven’t had mine yet because I’m not old enough to. You’re not the only poster to say they don’t want the second dose, I don’t really understand this because you’ve already had one dose so already have it in your system. I’d understand more if you were too anxious to have it all together but not having the second dose doesn’t make much sense to me...

Anyway, my best friend and my Dad have never been vaccinated against anything, never stopped me spending time with them. So I wouldn’t choose not to spend time with someone because they haven’t been vaccinated, no.

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 26/05/2021 15:04

Hang on a minute you have already started this thread in the coronavirus topic Hmm

Nietzschethehiker · 26/05/2021 15:04

I wouldn't have any problem at all unless you were spouting anti vax rubbish (I recognise its about your health so you aren't likely to be doing that)

Your choice is your choice. I also wouldn't ask about it. The only thing I've disliked seeing on some of these boards is people actively lying about it. Whilst I do think peoples privacy should be protected I've recently come across someone who announces without prompting that she has been vaccinated and she hasn't (she's very clear about this and very proud of herself for her deception)

People's privacy and bodily autonomy should be respected but don't lie about it. Just don't bring it up but noone should be excluding anyone either way for their vaccination choices.( shedding ....Good grief ).

XenoBitch · 26/05/2021 15:04

I don't care, and certainly would never ask about the vaccination status of my friends. Anyone asking me will be met with "none of your business".

ShoutingBirb · 26/05/2021 15:05

Are you having therapy/medication for your anxiety?

ZaraW · 26/05/2021 15:05

@Baluchistan95

Interesting. I'm 57 and do not intend to take this experimental vaccine which is still on trial until 2023 and has only emergency approval. My concerns are the opposite of yours. Do I want to be around vaccinated people? I am reading a lot about the possibility of 'shedding' from those that have been vaccinated, which to be honest, scares me. However, my gut feeling is that I am not at any risk from the vaccinated.
Can you provide a credible source?
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