Will you spend time with partially / un vaccinated people?

[roseyroses]

I have severe health anxiety and after a conversation with my Dr this morning I have decided against my second Covid Jab.

I had my first AZ but I’m severely anxious about my second one and it’s really interfering with my work / home life.

I don’t want this to get in the way of being able to spend time with friends or family (who will be fully vaccinated)

I have a small child and I want to be able to arrange plat dates and days out by I’m afraid people won’t want to be around me if I’ve only had one vaccine.

I can assure you I'm not going to be an entitled cf and ask anyone, tbh.

I mean this kindly, (and as someone currently having health anxiety treatment I do understand) but you have made your decision and you need to stand by it and stop now worrying about the various consequences. Constantly going over and over it in your mind or on mumsnet won’t help and will just fuel your anxiety spikes. It’s another type of reassurance checking that might make you feel better in the short term but probably not long term. You can’t worry about other people and what they think. Try to forget about it. You’ve made your decision

[quote CaptainCaveMum]@roseyroses even once fully vaccinated, we are still able to carry coronavirus and infect others (we just don’t personally get ill). People who say they don’t care are probably not aware of this...yet.

So no, I don’t want to socialise with semi-vaccinated or unvaccinated people because I might carry it home to my DC - who cannot be vaccinated.

Your choice if you want to be vaccinated ... but you need to tell people so they can make their own risk assessments.
Or you need to stay home.[/quote]
Or you could keep your little self- righteous judgemental self at home instead ? Just a thought 🤷‍♀️

@CaptainCaveMum do you plan on keeping your unvaccinated children at home too so they don't go round spreading their germs everywhere?

But surely if you don't have the 2nd vaccine, your health anxiety will just focus on a fear of getting covid instead, having not had the vaccine.
Health anxiety will always find something to fixate on in my experience.

I have several family members who refuse to be vaccinated for silly reasons but I won't exclude them for it. I certainly won't go around asking my friends of they are vaccinated and I sing in a choir and won't be asking my fellow singers if they have had theirs before I stand near them. Life is too bloody short.

No, I wouldn’t refuse. Nor would I ask. I’ll be as protected as I can be with my 2 doses, what anyone else does is up to them.

I'll be welcoming to everyone 🌸

No one will know because you can say you've had both and who's going to know any different because we don't walk around with our medical records above our heads. Personally I don't ask anyone because it's their body and their choice plus I wouldn't ask them if they've ever had treatment for some embarrassing illness or medical problem so why is the vaccine any different? Medical records are confidential for a reason and should stay that way.

OP, I also have terrible anxiety which has spiked lately. I haven't had the vaccine. I am almost as wound up about the consequences of not getting it as those of getting it. I find that when my anxiety is really bad I can't make a decision. I have cried every day for about 3 weeks. So on Monday I phoned the GP and scored as high as you possibly can on the anxiety screening questionnaire and fairly high on the depression one. I have been prescribed medication and have told myself I cannot make a decision about the vaccine for a month, when I know the tablets will have kicked in and I can think clearly. Even having taken that step has made me feel slightly better. Wishing you all the best x

If I knew, I would avoid meeting you inside. However, I wouldn't question every parent of my children's friends to find out.

If you were a close friend of mine I guess I'd be more likely to know and would also stick to outside meet ups as far as possible.

I was around 4 people last night who aren't vaccinated, couldn't give a toss if they are vaccinated or not.

I just meet people outside. Mitigates at lot of these problems.

I couldn’t care less. I’d be your friend whatever you decide. I would never ask my friends for private medical information or base my friendships on their vaccine status.

I think vaccine status should be on display for all times, so people can make their own decision. A green badge for eg with a vaccinated status and a red showing the selfish. if you can't be vaccinated for genuine medical reasons maybe a yellow badge showing that person is still decent but caution should be advised. In many countries you are forced to have identity cards so why not enforce a badge wearing policy so we know what risk people pose.

@roseyroses even once fully vaccinated, we are still able to carry coronavirus and infect others (we just don’t personally get ill). People who say they don’t care are probably not aware of this...yet.

It massively reduced transmission as well. It doesn’t eliminate the chance of transmission altogether, but it (much) more than halves the chance of passing it on.

It’s not about ‘just not personally getting ill’ - it’s also about breaking the majority of transmission chains.

@TakeYourVaccine

decision. A green badge for eg with a vaccinated status and a red showing the selfish.

I am absolutely not selfish.

I’ve had my first dose but since the vaccine I’ve had is now no longer recommended for my age group and has caused bloods clots (including from the second dose) it has triggered severe anxiety for me.

Perhaps if you had ever suffered with your mental health as severely as and still am, then you would show more empathy and understanding!

[quote roseyroses]@TakeYourVaccine

decision. A green badge for eg with a vaccinated status and a red showing the selfish.

I am absolutely not selfish.

I’ve had my first dose but since the vaccine I’ve had is now no longer recommended for my age group and has caused bloods clots (including from the second dose) it has triggered severe anxiety for me.

Perhaps if you had ever suffered with your mental health as severely as and still am, then you would show more empathy and understanding![/quote]
Ignore them, OP. They are a joke account and having fun by posing as an extreme pro-vacc person.

1. You do not need to tell anyone your vaccine status, it is private health information.

2. I will not be asking anyone this personal question so I am happy to spend time with unvaccinate dpeople

3. I will be spending time with my unvaccinated kids, they are the primary pool of transmission by the look of data in places like Bolton.

Wouldn't even think to ask. The only issue I would have would be if you started to lecture me about the vaccine.

A friend has just called asking me if I want to meet in a cafe next week. I don't know if she is vaccinated and didnt want to ask, so I suggested we meet outside. She agreed. Job done!

If you’re vaccinated then why are you so bothered? I think you need to see a doctor about your irrational anxiety.

@CutieBear

If you’re vaccinated then why are you so bothered? I think you need to see a doctor about your irrational anxiety.

@CutieBear

I’ve only had one dose. I’m worried people won’t want to spend time with me.

I don’t really have anyone in my social circle or family who wouldn’t take the vaccine, so I doubt it will come up for me. My friends and family are all largely healthcare professionals or in professions aligned to that sort of area (medical devices suppliers, public health, social work, etc).

I live in a London borough where it looks like we will be lucky to get 50% of adults vaccinated. Quite frankly I wouldn't be able to do the school run, go to local groups and shops. If I didn't mix with unvaccinated people. Also have a mixture of people from different ethic communities in my friendship group. So some of them have hesitancy that is backed up by their extended families etc.