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Are you still sticking to ALL of the rules?

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CallTheSheriff · 03/05/2021 21:33

Our family has followed all rules to date but with two weeks left until social contact restrictions are lifted I see more and more people using a ‘common sense’ approach for their own risk.

My DC go to school (primary), attend swimming lessons, attend dance classes and indoor football classes but we decline the offer of play dates with other DC in their class.

DH and I have not mixed indoors with any other adult since last March. We both WFH and are both partially vaccinated. We do not attend gyms etc as we didn’t pre covid anyway.

Our friends and family think we are being OTT, especially in not allowing DC to visit others after school but allowing them to attend classes.

It made me wonder how others are doing it?

OP posts:
yomommasmomma · 11/05/2021 14:21

@mightbealittlebitmad

Both! I'm not the kind of person that will make myself depressed in order to be perceived as selfless. I don't have anything to prove, no people to berate for being selfish whilst I'm just so perfect doing everything I'm told.

I'm human, I'm not perfect. I sometimes break rules, I drank underage, I do 80 on the motorway me.

Like I said if others can isolate themselves without sacrificing their mental health then that's great. I'm just not that person, I'm a person who needs people and I'm not going to apologise for that.

You're perfect, congratulations. Have a medal and a halo.

At least you are honest and I so hope your mental health improves.
ensete · 11/05/2021 14:24

I've been social distancing since way before covid. I wear my mask, wash my hands, sanitise.

But no, I've had friends and family over since first lockdown ended, I didn't participate in the previous two. We're very lucky in that we live rurally and remotely and our closest neighbour is almost four miles away. I'm glad we've done things the way we did, for all of our mental health. I had a baby the week before the first lockdown and I really really suffered for following the rules.

yomommasmomma · 11/05/2021 14:28

@ensete

I've been social distancing since way before covid. I wear my mask, wash my hands, sanitise.

But no, I've had friends and family over since first lockdown ended, I didn't participate in the previous two. We're very lucky in that we live rurally and remotely and our closest neighbour is almost four miles away. I'm glad we've done things the way we did, for all of our mental health. I had a baby the week before the first lockdown and I really really suffered for following the rules.

Another one! How do you think others who did do the right thing managed then? Hmm
Egghead81 · 11/05/2021 17:03

@ensete

I've been social distancing since way before covid. I wear my mask, wash my hands, sanitise.

But no, I've had friends and family over since first lockdown ended, I didn't participate in the previous two. We're very lucky in that we live rurally and remotely and our closest neighbour is almost four miles away. I'm glad we've done things the way we did, for all of our mental health. I had a baby the week before the first lockdown and I really really suffered for following the rules.

So pleased to read this.

You were very sensible.

@yomommasmomma
* Another one! How do you think others who did do the right thing managed then?*

A new mother. Really suffered in first lockdown. Lives very rurally. She made a decision to prioritise not only her mental health but her new baby. Very sensible.

And yet you think what.... she should have ploughed on, regardless of anything but the “rules”. The rules the rules the rules

yomommasmomma · 11/05/2021 17:25

Yes I do because she wasn't the only one in this position and others managed. Also anyone with a baby was allowed a support bubble, so she has support available. There was no need/excuse to ignore the third lockdown completely and have friends and families in and out of her house. No excuses

Egghead81 · 11/05/2021 17:45

@yomommasmomma

Yes I do because she wasn't the only one in this position and others managed. Also anyone with a baby was allowed a support bubble, so she has support available. There was no need/excuse to ignore the third lockdown completely and have friends and families in and out of her house. No excuses
Is everyone the same in your mind?

I wasn’t in the least bit mentally effected by lockdown
But I recognise that there are many out there much more more vulnerable to serious mental health issues.

So like those more physically vulnerable to covoid were advised to shield, I have no issue with those mentally more vulnerable to lockdown adjusting the rules slightly taking in to account their particular situation (so in this case nearest neighbour 4 miles) in order to shield their mental health l

Imonlyhumanafterall2021 · 11/05/2021 19:50

@Egghead81

I think yo mo mo is a troll or batshit or both, she has no empathy or perception that things might be different for others because the 'rules' .... there are quite a lot of her posts where she calls people selfish or weak or not as strong etc.... a bit sad really, I pity her lack of empathy 😢 she has had a go at several people, I'd ignore her.

Imonlyhumanafterall2021 · 11/05/2021 19:53

@yomommasmomma

Yes I do because she wasn't the only one in this position and others managed. Also anyone with a baby was allowed a support bubble, so she has support available. There was no need/excuse to ignore the third lockdown completely and have friends and families in and out of her house. No excuses
Stop banging on at people Miss Perfect.... I was going to ignore you but seriously what is your problem with others who cannot for numerous reasons follow all 'the rules'.

Covid has brought out the worst in some

ensete · 11/05/2021 20:13

@yomommasmomma do you know what, there was no such thing as a support bubble in the first lockdown, I did almost 12 weeks with a newborn and a toddler and a fairly hard birth injury whilst my husband who is a farmer was busy at work. I had no one, I kept both sets of grandparents and my friends away for fear we were going to end up in some version of 28 days later and I was going to die and leave my children without a mum thanks to the shitstorm the media whipped up. I was so lonely and low by the end of the first lockdown I made a deal that I wasn't putting myself or my very sociable three year old through it again.
I've been sensible, we've met up with other friends who are wfh or our parents who are also our childcare, especially since I returned to work.
But no, I decided to prioritise my family and I'm not going to apologise for that, everyone has their own end point.

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Egghead81 · 11/05/2021 20:25

You worrywonder what these posters are like as parents.
And of course they’ll come back with something along the lines of “I’m a wonderful parent, I am teaching them to follow rules etc etc”

But the content of their posts indicates, well many of us know what it indicates

Imonlyhumanafterall2021 · 11/05/2021 20:53

[quote ensete]@yomommasmomma actually I'll go one further and suggest you actually fuck the fuck off. Everything stopped in the first lockdown - I had no midwife and no health visitor and had to genuinely beg in the reception of my GP surgery for a referral to gynae after my birth injury because literally the NHS was only dealing with COVID. My daughter dropped three centiles and again I had to beg and beg for health visitors to even come and weigh her because they had all been redeployed for covid. It was a shit year to need the NHS for anything else, and with literally none of my friends and family around, you have no idea how hard that was. [/quote]
Flowers

That must have been awful, I hope things are much better for you now. Sending a virtual 🤗

yomommasmomma · 11/05/2021 20:58

[quote ensete]@yomommasmomma actually I'll go one further and suggest you actually fuck the fuck off. Everything stopped in the first lockdown - I had no midwife and no health visitor and had to genuinely beg in the reception of my GP surgery for a referral to gynae after my birth injury because literally the NHS was only dealing with COVID. My daughter dropped three centiles and again I had to beg and beg for health visitors to even come and weigh her because they had all been redeployed for covid. It was a shit year to need the NHS for anything else, and with literally none of my friends and family around, you have no idea how hard that was. [/quote]
This doesn't mean you needed to have your friends in and out of your house during the third lockdown though.

HelloOldSport · 11/05/2021 20:59

@yomommasmomma

Yes I do because she wasn't the only one in this position and others managed. Also anyone with a baby was allowed a support bubble, so she has support available. There was no need/excuse to ignore the third lockdown completely and have friends and families in and out of her house. No excuses
I can't believe you actually think anyone cares about your opinion.

You're irrelevant. Bye.

yomommasmomma · 11/05/2021 21:04

I am entitled to my opinion just as much as you are! Bye!

HelloOldSport · 11/05/2021 21:04

This doesn't mean you needed to have your friends in and out of your house during the third lockdown though

Nobody cares. You're irrelevant and so is your opinion.

HelloOldSport · 11/05/2021 21:05

@yomommasmomma

I am entitled to my opinion just as much as you are! Bye!
Irrelevant
Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 11/05/2021 21:11

Well that went well didn’t it Shock

yomommasmomma · 11/05/2021 21:15

@HelloOldSport

This doesn't mean you needed to have your friends in and out of your house during the third lockdown though

Nobody cares. You're irrelevant and so is your opinion.

Clearly that's not true is it!
XenoBitch · 11/05/2021 21:17

Another one! How do you think others who did do the right thing managed then?

@yomommasmomma

Many tried to do the right thing and did not manage at all. I made an attempt on my life during the first lockdown. There was no support bubbles. You would be called a murderer for making eye contact with another person when out for a walk... that many thought was one hour a day only. So people were yelled at about that too.
A line that keeps getting said is that we are all in the same storm, but in different boats. It seems you are looking down at the people in busted dinghies from your posh cruise ship, and judging them for reaching out to someone in a more stable boat than they are in right now.

Imonlyhumanafterall2021 · 11/05/2021 21:23

@XenoBitch

Another one! How do you think others who did do the right thing managed then?

@yomommasmomma

Many tried to do the right thing and did not manage at all. I made an attempt on my life during the first lockdown. There was no support bubbles. You would be called a murderer for making eye contact with another person when out for a walk... that many thought was one hour a day only. So people were yelled at about that too.
A line that keeps getting said is that we are all in the same storm, but in different boats. It seems you are looking down at the people in busted dinghies from your posh cruise ship, and judging them for reaching out to someone in a more stable boat than they are in right now.

Flowers @XenoBitch

I hope you are in a much happier place now. Good luck

Imonlyhumanafterall2021 · 11/05/2021 21:27

@yomommasmomma

I am entitled to my opinion just as much as you are! Bye!
It's not an opinion though is it; its the judgemental comments. What makes you want to through comments around to people who obviously struggled? Why do that?
Imonlyhumanafterall2021 · 11/05/2021 21:28

Throw not through! Hmm

XenoBitch · 11/05/2021 21:31

@Imonlyhumanafterall2021

Thank you. I got through this lockdown by having a friend in my house every fortnight. My support bubble is my mum, but there is a lot I can not discuss with her. My friend insisted on it. It is far easier to prevent a crisis than try to claw back from one once it happens.

Egghead81 · 11/05/2021 21:33

@yomommasmomma

Wtaf

You posted this last year

* We can manage 2 weeks of not seeing family, but no longer than that. *

If we are expected to not see grandparents (both very fit and healthy 55 year olds) for longer than that, I will not be obeying the rules.

Shock

I don’t think I have come across a more hypocritical poster on mumsnet ever before!

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