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Are you still sticking to ALL of the rules?

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CallTheSheriff · 03/05/2021 21:33

Our family has followed all rules to date but with two weeks left until social contact restrictions are lifted I see more and more people using a ‘common sense’ approach for their own risk.

My DC go to school (primary), attend swimming lessons, attend dance classes and indoor football classes but we decline the offer of play dates with other DC in their class.

DH and I have not mixed indoors with any other adult since last March. We both WFH and are both partially vaccinated. We do not attend gyms etc as we didn’t pre covid anyway.

Our friends and family think we are being OTT, especially in not allowing DC to visit others after school but allowing them to attend classes.

It made me wonder how others are doing it?

OP posts:
CarrieBlue · 03/05/2021 22:19

Yes

NefretForth · 03/05/2021 22:19

@Mumbot345635

Yes. We are following the rules.

I think it’s really sad that people are so gleeful about breaking them and not ashamed at all. We’ve all found the last year unbelievably hard but the rules are what have saved thousands if not millions of deaths. Good people comply with the law. If you don’t like the law/rules then don’t vote conservative!

Well, that’s easy, I never have voted Conservative and never would.

I’m not gleeful, I’m weighing up risks and benefits. DD and her best mate are in the same class at school, and the risk to them (age 11) is really low. DM and DSis need me, there are other priorities than Covid.

septemberismyfavouritemonth · 03/05/2021 22:19

Not any more, am mixing outside if weather is nice otherwise eating and socialising inside with friends and family. I agree with a previous poster that it's good to hear lots of people are doing it and it doesn't appear to be impacting numbers.

Changemaname1 · 03/05/2021 22:20

For a while now it’s just been by default tbh because am still not doing much socially as am busy with work . I have a couple nights out planned in the coming weeks and a couple days out with the dc all within what’s available to do and open currently , I wear a mask because you have to in stores but other than that I don’t really think about it that much anymore So am following the rules I guess but just because I’m not doing a whole lot

Megan2018 · 03/05/2021 22:21

I broke a rule today and went in to my Dads house. Socially distancing still but indoors.
We had Covid tests this weekend as DD had a minor cold (with a cough)-negative. Dad has had both vaccines.

I’d had a really shitty day and we were trying to stay outside but it pissed it down. We felt the risk was acceptable to us.

We’ve followed rules completely until then, but I can’t see what’s different about today vs 2 more weeks.
I won’t see him again for several weeks so not a rule we’ll break again.

Bellabelloo · 03/05/2021 22:26

We are, but DC is at nursery and my husband and I work and socialise in the evenings in the garden. So no real complaints.

thirstyformore · 03/05/2021 22:26

No. I'm done with the rules now. We had friends round for lunch today and it was glorious. First time since last year.

Our family have had covid this year, all of our parents are fully vaccinated, and all adults who met up today are partially vaccinated. Kids go to school together.

Very low risk.

CynsterBitch · 03/05/2021 22:30

I’ve followed all the rules from the start, only deviation was last week when I was due to have a socially distant girls night in my friends garden, she was sorting dinner but then her baby woke up and wouldn’t go down again. I wasn’t going to sit outside getting pissed on wine waiting to be served, so I went inside and finished off dinner, then we eventually had a lovely tipsy dinner outside 😁
To A certain extent I think people can make judgement calls on a lot of this themselves, my judgement call is that I can’t trust other people to have made safe decisions so I limit social interactions and stick to the rules.

bookworm1632 · 03/05/2021 22:33

common sense approach

So the OP believes people were born with an innate understanding of epidemiology... So crazy that people study this sh*t for decades to become experts when they could simply refer to their genetic intelligence for all the answers....

Crinolinelady · 03/05/2021 22:34

Yes

bookworm1632 · 03/05/2021 22:36

And I cannot think of a clearer sign of arrogance, ignorance and selfishness combined than stating "I'm weighing the risks..." when those concerned know fuck all about what those actual risks are.

The ones who DO know the risks aren't stupid enough to be claiming the rules no longer matter.

ReviewingTheSituation · 03/05/2021 22:36

Yes, I am. And it annoys me that others aren't. What makes you more special? It's selfish. We ALL want and need to see friends. We ALL want to see our parents. In 2 weeks' time, we can do that indoors. The point of waiting is to check that the last relaxing (shops, gyms, hairdressers, outdoor hospitality etc) didn't cause a rise. It doesn't seem to be, so we can enjoy the next relaxation when it comes. But the roadmap is there for a reason- whether you personally agree with it or not is irrelevant.

The whole 'I don't know what the rules are any more' argument is particularly irritating. It's not hard to find out, and has been outlined clearly since February, so ignorance is no excuse. It's not like last summer when things were changing at a local level all the time. It's pretty simple - you're not allowed to meet people outside of your bubble indoors (in England). Easy.

I hate the restrictions as much as the next person, but I'm willing to make sacrifices so that we can all get back to something close to normal.

megletthesecond · 03/05/2021 22:36

Yes. Although I'm slightly gutted that we can't stay with fully vaccinated family in half term. They don't want to risk it. I've had my first and we would test before going, but no.

BigGreen · 03/05/2021 22:36

We've met in bigger groups outdoors, like 4 families instead of 2. But other than that, we've followed all the rules.

firstimemamma · 03/05/2021 22:43

Couldn't care less about the rules and think they are all stupid so no.

SirVixofVixHall · 03/05/2021 22:43

Yes.

Mumbot345635 · 03/05/2021 22:44

Netfretforrh - you are one of the people I would class as generally rule following. Seeing your mum and sister whilst your brother is in hospital is supporting someone vulnerable if they need support.
I agree children should have been exempt from the rules - under 12s /10s? in Scotland were.
Your friend coming in was breaking the rules but I can see how it happened. Fwiw I haven’t visited family and friends that long a drive away as you can’t rely on the weather. I miss them massively. My husband hasn’t been able to get home abroad to see his family in over a year.
Fwiw - my experience the major and consistent rule breakers that I know have all caught covid at some point over the past year. Not that following the rules stops you getting it - but it has massively reduced our risk meaning we’ve got to vaccination without having caught it, and crucially, we’ve not passed it on to others.

Happycat1212 · 03/05/2021 22:53

No absolutely not, I don’t even know what the latest ones are tbh

Jaxhog · 03/05/2021 22:56

Yes, we are. As is almost everyone else we know.

Sparklingbrook · 03/05/2021 22:57

For anyone not knowing what the latest rules are-

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-response-spring-2021/covid-19-response-spring-2021-summary

toolatetooearly · 03/05/2021 22:59

No, was round at a friends house this afternoon for a couple of hours, 8 of us (2 families) all inside. All adults have had the jab, and with 2 weeks to go till we can do it legally, it didn't seem like a big deal.

didireallysaythat · 03/05/2021 23:08

Yes. Haven't seen my mum and brother since dad's funeral Nov 2019, haven't been in someone else's house since Jan 2020. I'm fortunate in that I can WFH and has to work a mask at work for some tasks anyway so wearing one all the time isn't a big deal. I don't shop for leisure, don't use a gym and don't go to the pub more than 2-3 times a year. I'm one of the lucky ones.

RaspberryCoulis · 03/05/2021 23:10

[quote Sparklingbrook]For anyone not knowing what the latest rules are-

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-response-spring-2021/covid-19-response-spring-2021-summary[/quote]
That's for England... not everyone is in England.

Sparklingbrook · 03/05/2021 23:12

Yes I know that @RaspberryCoulis. Obviously. I was assuming a majority, and I am in England, those elsewhere can Google it for themselves, i can't be Googling all night for everyone. Grin. if they genuinely don't know.

GiveMeTulipsfromAmsterdam · 03/05/2021 23:14

I have been into my parents home. Hugged them.
Had another person and daughter in my car.
Been to my partner's father's home for a cup of tea, last month.
Partner is in a bubble with me but also seen both his adult sons.
I have had around 5 people around for a cuppa all separately and some for business.
None of us has had covid, most vaccinated, cases are extremely low here.
Happy with my choices

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