sick of this shit. Absolutely sick of it. Now hairdressers told they can't do highlights.

[MercyBooth]

I just want my cut and colour.

inews.co.uk/news/uk/brits-haircuts-leisurely-treatments-government-guidelines-salons-short-appointments-949174?ito=social_itw_theipaper&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter#Echobox=1618002591

@SpringtimeSummertime

It’s an insult to those who have died alone, those have lost loved ones and have been unable to be with them, suffered illness themselves at the hands of Covid, have seen their businesses and livelihoods disappear, those who have been unable to see and comfort relatives in care homes, those who have worked on the ICU wards.

Complaining about hair dye is VERY insensitive and insulting in context.

No it's not. It is about nonsensical rules that don't prevent any of those things from happening.

I last had my balayage and a cut in November, just before the second lockdown.

Since then, I was induced and had a horrible two days in hospital alone. Then an emergency section then two more days in hospital alone.

Then readmitted with baby ds just after Christmas. Alone. Got literally no sleep because they insisted on giving him this enormous crib that upset him as it was so big.

Trudged through endless muddy cold parks with ds in the sling or the pram.

Lost three and a half stone.

Have had time away from ds on maybe five occasions, one for a successful job interview.

So sue me. I can’t wait to sit in a chair and have my hair done. At the moment it feels coarse and horrible. It’s also far too long and dry and messy. I don’t like how I look and it upsets me.

As soon as I can make an appointment I will relish the thought of sitting there for a few hours with a hot drink and my kindle.

And none of that doesn’t mean my heart goes out to those who lost others or those who lost jobs (incidentally I think my hairdresser will be pleased to have the custom) and I will be very upset if it is taken away.

I’m booked in for a cut and colour. My salon has been in touch to say everyone has to have a patch test 48 hours in advance and that you can’t have a colour within 2 weeks of the jab because of allergic reaction risks.

As soon as the top nine groups (so 32 million people approx) have been fully vaccinated, that should be it. No more restrictions, no more working from home, no more using Covid as an excuse for stupid rules and rubbish service. Back to 100% normality.

@mustlovegin

Who's thinking about highlights now? YABU OP

Which bit of "now" is upsetting you? Still covid ? Or did DofE not like highlights?

OTT pearl clutch alert. Cat bottom mouth incoming!

YANBU, I need my grey covering, OP. I'm in Monday. My mental health will be better for not looking like an ageing witch.

Article misleading though, i think.

I'm looking forward to getting my roots done for sure! It does make a difference to people's mood and general quality of life, even if it's not earth-shattering and we would cope if we had to wait longer.

But I don't see what's wrong with the government guidance, either. It says to consider whether appointments could be made shorter. Clearly with colour and highlights, it can't. But nothing wrong with telling them to think about what they could do - perhaps making sure people don't wait around before or after, or timing things so that it can be done in the minimum amount of time from one stage of the process to the next or whatever. Maybe they can't do much for some appointments, but for other types, they could. So why not consider it if it's possible, and if it's not, then it's not. And even then, it's still only guidance!

Radio 4 rocks they aren’t sensible guidelines though. They make Absolutely no sense. Any idiot can see that is appointments are shorter you will have more clients in a day therefore exposed to more clients, therefore exposed to more risk.
I’d rather be a hairdresser doing long appointments than a barber doing multiple short appointments if I didn’t want to catch covid. The guidelines have been written by jobsworth s with absolutely no clue.
Not to mention that if you have highlights you spend a good portion of your appointment sitting on your own while you wait for the dye to take.

@StillCounting123

I understand what you are saying, OP. My hair has been cut and dyed by myself and it looks it. Need a hairdresser pronto.

Although, as usual on MN the martyrs are out in force who never go anywhere, grow their own food, have cut own hair since 1981 and sew their clothes from spider webs in their wine cellars.

The media have whipped this all up these past months and no one knows wtf is law and what is guidance. Also, news reports here in NI where I live report on the rules in England, Wales, Scotland and the RoI, so us poor saps in NI are totally confused. Plus, our government of sock puppets haven't actually released any dates of when anything is going to reopen. Think they are hoping that everyone will die of boredom waiting.

As a society we've been dehumanised - seeing family is forbidden, affection banned, hobbies cancelled etc etc and woe betide anyone who struggles with this.

They have done a good job or trying to squash our humanity out, may as well treat us as robots physically now too. Robots don't need haircuts, just nod as programmed to say yes master.

I have been ranting about this for a long time, but can see some glimmers of hope for the future.

What an incredibly rude post.

It isn't martyrdom to care about the community and to want to limit the spread of a deadly virus.

Stamping feet and having tantrums is just childish. Robots? Really? Oh dear.

Rant away and leave the decisions to those intelligent enough to make them.

People are craving normality and OP had an expectation based on previous information which she was worried would not now go ahead. After a year, it’s a completely understandable “last straw” moment

Exactly. People are fucking nasty. If this thread had been started in the first week of April 2020, yeah it’s self indulgent. But this is clearly a reaction fuelled by a very difficult year, and I have no idea what difficulties and hardships this OP may have been through during lockdown. The dismissal of the fact people are struggling with all aspects of their life being wrenched from them (albeit in the greater good) is disgusting. If someone is struggling mentally, then the smallest thing can have a big impact on someone.

@HermioneWeasley

People are craving normality and OP had an expectation based on previous information which she was worried would not now go ahead. After a year, it’s a completely understandable “last straw” moment.

I’m astonished how slowly the government are unlocking - I really don’t understand what’s in it for them to have no economy left and peoples mental health completely trashed, but that’s what they’re choosing to do.

I agree. It seems to me at the moment that every time we have something to look forward to the bloody government puts a spanner in the works. Maybe I'm shallow but I'm looking forward to my cut and colour on Wednesday and will probably cry if the colour is cancelled as I'm sick of looking at my grey roots.

Oh and before anyone suggests I dye it myself I would if I could find a box dye that will actually colour my grey!

Wow this thread is really virulent!
@MercyBooth get this deleted
You’ll get people saying 1) what about ww2 2) it’s just hair 3) but people are DYING and 4) I’m a teacher so the world should shut down.

Look, we all have things we love doing that have been taken away from us. The government isn’t “abusive” - they are protecting people from the virus and doing their best. This article is misleading. For me, my final straw was not being to able to get my eyebrows done: it really annoys me. For others it might be different. It’s fine.
As for the guidelines many are using then as an excuse to provide shit service (councils...and GPs) but we can only hope and stay patient!
Hang in there.

@emilyfrost

Christ, calm the fuck down. You’ve not been psychologically abused, nor have you been shat on.

You need to take some personal responsibility; if you’ve been comfort eating and gained weight that’s on nobody but you and you need to find a better way of coping.

You're unpleasant on every thread you comment on. Are you this nasty in RL or is it an online persona you enjoy?

I hear you Mercy and some of the responses are absolutely pathetic.

Some of the responses remind me of the threads from a year ago. Has anyone called Mercy (or anyone else who wants a cut and colour) a murderer yet as having your hair done isn't essential?

Only if you have a coffee with cheese in it while you are there pink

@SpringtimeSummertime

It’s an insult to those who have died alone, those have lost loved ones and have been unable to be with them, suffered illness themselves at the hands of Covid, have seen their businesses and livelihoods disappear, those who have been unable to see and comfort relatives in care homes, those who have worked on the ICU wards.

Complaining about hair dye is VERY insensitive and insulting in context.

You do realise that none of those things were necessary, don't you?

There was absolutely no need for anyone to die alone without their family by their side.

This is why people are talking about gaslighting and physiological abuse.

Look, we all have things we love doing that have been taken away from us. The government isn’t “abusive” - they are protecting people from the virus and doing their best

I disagree that the government did its best. It acted too late, and, initially not hard enough and then it prevaricated.

But lockdowns and restrictions are not 'abuse' (for the love of the Goddess) - they are and were necessary to protect us from a disease that killed many and would have killed more without the restrictions.

It's just guidance as has been said. I don't know any hairdressers locally who are saying no colours.

Re the vaccine and not opening up. I think this is entirely down to not having a two tier system.

Once everyone eligible has been offered their vaccine, at least first shot or at least the bigger majority, I think we will see a big difference. But until then it's a balancing act. They can't say it's fine for those vaccinated to do xyz, as those unvaccinated will be in uproar. I suspect it's also one of the reasons why there is a bigger focus on second shots for the priority groups, as well as supply issues. Once the 9 priority groups have had both jabs things can start to open more fully I suspect.

@TheWaif

But they haven't actually said you can't get highlights!

Exactly but people are ignoring this so they can have a good old froth.

I’m looking forward to having my hair cut next week. Can’t wait!

Well, my hairdresser is still doing my highlights on Monday. I just text & asked. So good times. She said she may as well not open if she’s not able to do colour..

Haenow people mentioned highlights because they take at least 1.5-2 hrs. So if the hairdressers were to stick to the guidelines about short appointments highlightes would not be offered.

@MandalaYogaTapestry

Haenow people mentioned highlights because they take at least 1.5-2 hrs. So if the hairdressers were to stick to the guidelines about short appointments highlightes would not be offered.

I know but it’s guidelines. Nobody has said you can’t have them done, just that it’s not advisable. Most hairdressers are going ahead as usual, which is good.

@PickAChew

It's all a bit ass backwards, as guidance goes. Hey, stylists, don't see 5 clients in a day, it's safer to see 10

Thank goodness it is only guidance and not law.

It's about it being safer (not totally safe) for both the client & the hairdresser.

It's guidance to reduce Covid risk. The less time you spend in a confined area, the less chance you have of getting it.

It's not complicated!

A little empathy goes a long way and OP is clearly struggling.

Emotional resilience is not just blankly going through life emotions. You are allowed to have difficult moments, your allowed to get angry and upset about things that effect you, even if they seem trivial to others. Your allowed to feel down, or anxious and you are allowed to reach breaking point. Emotional resilience is about having these challenges and getting through them. There's no prizes for getting through this lockdown without finding it hard, it doesn't make you a better person.

This thread is pretty sad, I'm sure OP is fully aware that non highlighted hair is not the end of the world but equally its allowed to be her breaking point.

I get it too @MercyBooth and I hope you’re ok and this isn’t a ‘last straw’ moment for you.

We have all been subjected to more than a year of psychological abuse and it continues on, regardless of how well we have all ‘behaved’ nor how well we have met every single goalpost that has been set, on it still goes. It’s so detrimental and I’m not surprised that people will struggle when something that has been promised is yet again denied or dampened down.

It seems to me that all of these ‘relaxations’ are coming with massive restrictions which make them either unobtainable or far less enjoyable than they should be.
For example; yes you can book a hair appointment but we strongly advice hairdressers not to provide longer services like colouring.
Yes you can go to a pub on Monday but it must be outside in the cold and you must have limited tables with limited people.
Yes you can go back to theme parks and zoos but limited numbers and shorter time slots mean it’s difficult to book a slot and so once again you face a school holiday with nothing to do.
Yes you can leave the country after 17th May but you must book an expensive government approved test to return home and possibly have to quarantine for longer than you are able to take off work including the holiday.

It sickens me quite honestly and makes me question just how true it is that ALL restrictions will end on 21st June. Maybe they will end, but there appear to be a fuck load of caveats so far....

Well said @DIshedUp. I had 'a moment' a couple of weeks ago over something completely trivial. I couldn't get the filters to work properly on a spreadsheet and I just sat and cried. It wasn't really about the stupid spreadsheet but that was the final straw for me.

Everyone has a breaking point and, while it might seem silly or shallow to other people, at the time it's the end of the world.