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Original poster

Adult dc wants to come home.. is it breaking the rules ?

147 replies

Whatnow100 · 01/03/2021 20:25

Adult dc .. lives in student house . They are not a student now ... all students returning home for 2 weeks at end of rhe month . Our adult dc has been feeling low for a while and wants to come home too for company .Says will have rapid covid test and therefore no risk to anyone with evidence of a negative test on their phone. But the message is still stay home .. any thoughts ?

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rhowton · 01/03/2021 20:26

I'd leave your child at university. Who cares that their mental health is bad... they're only your child... 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ragwort · 01/03/2021 20:29

I can't believe you would prevent your child from coming home?! Don't you want to support them?

Racoonworld · 01/03/2021 20:29

If they move to your house and actually move in then it’s fine. But if they’re just staying for a couple of weeks then going back to their own place then no it’s completely against the rules. Also one negative test does not mean they won’t pass you covid, they cold develop it after the test due to the incubation time.

Oysterbabe · 01/03/2021 20:30

I'd have them home without a moment's hesitation.

Racoonworld · 01/03/2021 20:30

@Ragwort

I can't believe you would prevent your child from coming home?! Don't you want to support them?
Non-student adult DC. Should we all go home to visit our parents now?
AlecTrevelyan006 · 01/03/2021 20:31

Welcome them home

Bluntness100 · 01/03/2021 20:31

I can’t believe you actually need to ask this, where did it go wrong in your relationship where you’d need to think about it?

harridan50 · 01/03/2021 20:31

No question they should come home what have we become

MichelleScarn · 01/03/2021 20:31

How adult are you meaning and have they the means to live else where?

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Whatnow100 · 01/03/2021 20:32

They just want to come home for a week max .. dont want to be alone in house and have low mood .

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Bluntness100 · 01/03/2021 20:32

Non-student adult DC. Should we all go home to visit our parents now

I don’t know, are you a younger depressed person living alone? If so then yes, go home to your parents, hopefully you have kind ones who would welcome you,

rawalpindithelabrador · 01/03/2021 20:32

JFC! We've gone so far down the rabbit hole of fear and scaremongering a person is questioning whether to allow her own depressed child home. FML!

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Whatnow100 · 01/03/2021 20:33

Michelle . They are in 2os and work . They live in a student house which is avaliable to them .

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 01/03/2021 20:33

Of course they should come home. Honestly, some people don’t deserve a good relationship with their children.

Bluntness100 · 01/03/2021 20:33

@rawalpindithelabrador

JFC! We've gone so far down the rabbit hole of fear and scaremongering a person is questioning whether to allow her own depressed child home. FML!
Yup and someone’s even encouraging her to tell her child no.

You wouldn’t believe it unless you’d read it would you. That it’s come to this, for some peoole.

rawalpindithelabrador · 01/03/2021 20:34

Non-student adult DC. Should we all go home to visit our parents now?

Yes.

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Whatnow100 · 01/03/2021 20:36

Yes of course want to put adult child first . So many folk have sacrificed so much such as out local nurse .. it has led me to question myself on this in direct opposition to wanting adult dc home.

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Racoonworld · 01/03/2021 20:37

OP wasn’t asking if they should let DC come home, they were asking if it would be breaking the rules. The answer is yes, it’s breaking the law.

Personally, I think we should all be able to see who we like now, I’ve had enough of all this as much as anyone. But it doesn’t change the answer to OPs question.

Bluntness100 · 01/03/2021 20:37

@Whatnow100

Yes of course want to put adult child first . So many folk have sacrificed so much such as out local nurse .. it has led me to question myself on this in direct opposition to wanting adult dc home.
Then don’t, call her and tell her immediately you want her back. Don’t make it worse by making her think you’re not sure,
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Whatnow100 · 01/03/2021 20:38

Through. We do have a food relationship. We live in a small community and i feelmindful of sacrifices others have had to make. Such as a local medic feeling unable to visit her mother as she works on a covid ward.

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DianaT1969 · 01/03/2021 20:39

What? Your child is low and wants to come home. What is there to think about?

Chessie678 · 01/03/2021 20:39

I’d never prevent my child from coming home if they wanted to. Moving home is allowed. Who’s to say how long term that move needs to be. There was some guidance for the police early on last year saying it needed to be at least a few days. I’m fairly sure it would be almost impossible to prosecute for it if your child moved back for a few weeks.

RedGoldAndGreene · 01/03/2021 20:40

Moving house is allowed but this sounds more like a stay in a second home which is technically not allowed.

OliveTree75 · 01/03/2021 20:41

I can't believe you need to ask. Of course you should let him. Unless you plan on ruining your relationship because you weren't there when he needed you. I went home to my parents for 2 weeks in the first lockdown when I needed them with my 3 kids. We were welcomed with open arms!

5zeds · 01/03/2021 20:41

Go and visit for the day?