Is everyone still following the rules?

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We have been since March. Over the top, my partner would say. Nobody we know has been, apart from the odd CEV friend.

I’m at the end of my tether though. Partner wants one year old to be able to see the family. I have refused for months, and before that it was the odd fleeting visit outside. He says we are the danger to his parents, not them to us - but in reality we don’t see anyone or do anything and they are still working etc, so despite their age - we are not the danger.

Still, I’m tempted to visit. I just don’t know anymore.

Is anyone following the rules 100%? I should add I have stuck to them for fear of Covid, but again I’m told I’m overly cautious being in my early 30’s.

We are and we are very, very bored.

Absolutely not! I have seen first hand the devastation of lockdown due to the abandonment of our elderly and vulnerable, I do what I have to do to keep them living which includes their mental health! I live in a small town with a massive elderly population, loads of care homes, no deaths with covid, 12 in the last 12 months not due to covid, a tourist based economy on its knees, a 24 month wait for child mh services, people I know looking for a way out! I can't support the economy that will ultimately pay for the NHS, but I will not abandon those that need me!

I’m obeying the rules and genuinely upset on a call with my friends today when everyone was admitting to breaking them to see family and friends.

I’ve a young baby who is yet to meet any of my family (in Wales so we don’t have a baby/childcare bubble) and I feel really isolated at the moment. Felt really gutted that I was the only one taking the rules seriously.

Yes, apart from non-essential food shopping, but it's out of practicality as much as anything - my friends who would be willing to bend/break the rules all live quite far away, and everywhere I'd normally go is shut. Tbh I'm not having as bad a time this time round (first lockdown was horrendous) so I'd probably be sticking to them anyway., but I certainly wouldn't judge anyone for meeting friends if they're struggling.

Nope. Stopped doing this months ago when I realised it was not about the virus any more. Travelled to coastal towns in England to break down the routine, happy to see there is MORE life out there. Going abroad to see the family next week. If this sh@t does not end by summer will consider relocating to a better place. This is not living. This is a pathetic existence.

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@RobynNora

I’m obeying the rules and genuinely upset on a call with my friends today when everyone was admitting to breaking them to see family and friends.

I’ve a young baby who is yet to meet any of my family (in Wales so we don’t have a baby/childcare bubble) and I feel really isolated at the moment. Felt really gutted that I was the only one taking the rules seriously.

I would absolutely be breaking the rules if I had a young baby who I wanted to introduce to family

Nope. Stopped doing this months ago when I realised it was not about the virus any more.

What it is about if not the virus?

So many selfish people on this thread. Also a lot of arrogance, the rules don't apply to them, only the rest of us. Because these people don't think the rules apply to them, everyone else has to suffer for longer.

Of course we are. If we all give up, or stop, then we will go back to square one. Signs already are the non vaccination groups could created a 4th wave in spring. Slowly, slowly out of this, with schools first and second an emphasis on those whom are isolated is the only way forward IMO.

It is boring, hard, mind numbing and not the life I planned. But it’s the life we have to accept until we get on a more manageable footing with this horrible virus

In the main we are although yesterday I took my 6yo out for a walk with her friend she hasn’t seen since schools closed so there was 4 of us with her mum too. I’m worried for her not interacting with children now. Rates are down, we kept our distance but it was so lovely to see her laugh & chat with her little pal.

I can't put my hand on heart and say 100% I have followed them strictly. If for example my children have been playing at the park and we have seen a kid from school come along I have just let them all play and not made them stay 2m away (as long as their parent was ok with this two, and us adults have stayed apart for whatever that is worth). I stand by that decision though. I have stuck to most rules though, and have absolutely enjoyed my bubble (I am a single parent so allowed one) and have enjoyed going places when the tiers allowed it.

@yomommasmomma

So many selfish people on this thread. Also a lot of arrogance, the rules don't apply to them, only the rest of us. Because these people don't think the rules apply to them, everyone else has to suffer for longer.

I know.

It’s not just about a longer lockdown, it’s the extra spread of the virus.

Seeing how many have lost their lives, are in hospital seriously unwell, long covid etc should be enough to make everyone want to comply for the sake of all but sadly it’s not the case for many.

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@Derbee everyone is different and I wouldn’t judge anyone either way. My neighbour works in a Covid ICU and I have NHS family so the virus feels close to home. I don’t see myself as exceptional just because I have a new baby so I haven’t bent the rules.

I’m long past judgement of other people so long as they’re not being too egregious. You never know how much anyone is privately struggling and they may need to genuinely see someone. I do find it hard to hear about other people seeing friends and family when I’m finding things tough but wouldn’t judge.

I have lots of sympathy for OP as it’s so tough to be pregnant a new parenting in a pandemic (an anxious time anyway) and it’s tough to know what’s best.