Is everyone still following the rules?

[doireallyneedaname]

We have been since March. Over the top, my partner would say. Nobody we know has been, apart from the odd CEV friend.

I’m at the end of my tether though. Partner wants one year old to be able to see the family. I have refused for months, and before that it was the odd fleeting visit outside. He says we are the danger to his parents, not them to us - but in reality we don’t see anyone or do anything and they are still working etc, so despite their age - we are not the danger.

Still, I’m tempted to visit. I just don’t know anymore.

Is anyone following the rules 100%? I should add I have stuck to them for fear of Covid, but again I’m told I’m overly cautious being in my early 30’s.

I did let my kids play with their friends during first lockdown. It was only ever one friend.

That was simply because it made no sense at all to me that they could spend all day in school together (without social distancing), but it was against the rules as soon as they stepped foot off school property.

We have broken one rule: allowing 4 year old to play with her friend in the park without social distancing.

Also I guess the park j visited with a friend was 7 miles away which some might not consider "local".

I do think you're a bit OTT to be honest if you're young with no health conditions. I couldn't wait to form a support bubble when it was allowed, and we did all sorts of fun activities in the summer when allowed.

My household is.

Not entirely no.

Not really, no.

Yes, I don’t want my family to get ill nor others. Our children understand we need to play our part in the bigger picture rather than just suit ourselves.

The more who don’t follow the rules and guidelines the longer we will be under restrictions for.

Yes I am. If I got it from somewhere random and took it to the children at school or one of my colleagues I’d never forgive myself. The more people break the rules the longer this will go on. I literally go to work and the supermarket once a week.
It worries me that many of the parents sending their child in to school might not be as careful.

Have been really strict during all the lockdowns.

In summer we let the DC play with a few other children without strict social distancing, when local cases were very low (plus we’d had covid so thought chances of us being able to catch it again /spread it were very low).

We’re doing nothing now other than going for walks - lucky to have access to weekly supermarket deliveries so we don’t have to go to shops and have taken youngest out of nursery until schools reopen.

I am. And most I know are.

I'm also answering this on MN pretty much once a week. Are people expecting different answers the more they ask?

Also I don't think people can say "everyone I know follows the rules." My sister says that, but I know for a fact she spends most evenings rounds her colleagues house as they work together in close capacity all day with no distancing.

My friends don't know I see my partner- I'd have to explain my mental health, blah blah, and it's not something I feel comfortable sharing yet. I'd only ever tell them if there is a possibility of me transmitting it to them, ie, if I was asked to do emergency childcare, so they could factor that in.

Yes I am

It’s hard but breaking rules won’t help much

I await the lift as it is awful. But I do abide by them

Of course. Not seen anyone since October, not seen DS since August. Only go walking in the countryside locally and go food shopping once a week. We've only used the car about 3 times this year to transport heavy shopping. I'm shocked how busy the roads are this time round. There's almost nothing open so where is everyone going?

Just want to get through it as soon as possible. I can see it's improving so why would we not stick to the rules?

Hell yes, the vaccine is on the way. Why give up now?

Yes. We've had a death in the family and two new births. We didn't attend the funeral and we haven't met the babies.

Yes.
Even last summer I didn't go to restaurants or back to the gym. The sooner we're over the worst the better.

@DavidsSchitt

Was the baby under 1 on 2nd December and if so why haven't you created a bubble?

We're following the rules still, yes

Bubbles are 'permitted' not a force field against the virus!! The OP us allowed to make safer choices than what is 'permitted'

@doireallyneedaname

I know we can have a bubble as he’s not yet 1, he turns 1 in a month - but like I say the worry for me is covid, not “rule breaking” - so it we bubbled with the in laws who are still working, then we are putting ourselves at risk. My partner doesn’t agree with me though, I’m totally alone with the fear.

Some people just don't seem to understand that! Permitted =|= safe.

Tell your partner he's welcome to 'move home' if he can't wait a few more weeks to see his mummy & daddy.

I'm sure they'd live to see DS, but they'll just have to wait, like many others.

@fussychica the roads are busy as people are going to work. A lot more were furloughed last time. Their places of work probably have restrictions in place now

We've always followed the rules. I'm so lucky in that I've had my first vaccine, DH should hopefully get his in next couple of months. It's made me even more determined not to catch it now - also help keep numbers low in next few months in the hope we can have a better life sooner rather than later.

Has your baby really seen no one apart from you and your husband since last March? I would be much more worried about that than the tiny risk of getting ill with covid. With babies development is time sensitive and if you miss the opportunity to socialise you can’t turn the clock back. It worries me that so many people think this is normal. Childcare bubbles weren’t allowed just for the benefit of the parents but also for the children.
I have looked after my now 1 yr old grandson three days a week throughout the pandemic so his critical worker parents can work. He goes to nursery the other two days - luckily they have only closed once for a positive case among the workers. From my experience this is much more normal than the way you are living at the moment and we aren’t living in a state of fear either.

Yes still following the rules .

Only time we have broken them was to meet outdoors in our garden when rules said you could only meet in the park, and I stand by our meetings being safer because we were able to distance properly .

We've done everything we've been allowed to though , so we holidayed and ate out last summer and met indoors on Christmas Day.

Very much locked down at the moment, online shopping and one walk a day .

I followed every rule 100% this whole time I'd probably be dead by now.

To answer your question: definitely not!

Yes. But a walk with a friend ended up being a drive first with us both in the car to get to the walk.

I’ve actually been told by several healthcare practitioners that babies don’t actually need to socialise until 2 or 3, and any lack of socialisation with others before then doesn’t make a difference to them.