Is everyone still following the rules?

[doireallyneedaname]

We have been since March. Over the top, my partner would say. Nobody we know has been, apart from the odd CEV friend.

I’m at the end of my tether though. Partner wants one year old to be able to see the family. I have refused for months, and before that it was the odd fleeting visit outside. He says we are the danger to his parents, not them to us - but in reality we don’t see anyone or do anything and they are still working etc, so despite their age - we are not the danger.

Still, I’m tempted to visit. I just don’t know anymore.

Is anyone following the rules 100%? I should add I have stuck to them for fear of Covid, but again I’m told I’m overly cautious being in my early 30’s.

Nope

Letting my DC (under 12) see select pals indoors. Glasgow in February - it's freezing & very wet outdoors and it's tipped us over into rule breaking. They're allowed to meet up outdoors though here in any number. Once you do it once it's easy to do it again!

Last lockdown really affected them emotionally and mentally.

Otherwise yes, and utterly done with it all now.

Yes. I have not seen a person outside my family since October.

Yes we are and don’t know anyone (family and close friends all of same opinion) who isn’t actually

We were at 1st then started seeing my dm and my in laws.. I had at the time an under 1 and a 2 year old.
The 2 year old was used to seeing I laws 3 times a week for fun. Dh had returned to work. And I was struggling

So we see them once a week.
Same as my dm.

And now I'm past caring. I kept away from a relative to keep them safe. The relative ended up lonely and isolated. And after all that. Best part of a year alone on her own. I found her passed away a few days ago. When we couldn't make contact. She died fucking lonely because of this fucking virus. And now I don't care. I can never get her back ever. And it wasn't even covid that got her! She always said she didn't care she'd rather see us wbut we didn't.

My neighbours opposite have people in an out all day as do many others locally I don't care that's their choice

And yes it's an unpopular opinion on MN but IRL it's really not. I know of a handful of people who have followed the rules. Rest haven't since last May time. Yet cases are low here

People must be blinkered to belive that most follow rules irl

Yes haven't seen anyone since Christmas eve.
Haven't seen dad since August. Mum since September.
I'd happily see them but they live an hour each way and one of them is shielding (very low white blood cell count) and they seem to prefer rule following more than me.
Shops/pubs - if they opened, I'd be there the same day no problems. I'm only following rules as they've been imposed on me 🙄 can't visit a shut pub or shop.

I have broken them in the summer when rules were relaxed a niy

We are 100%, I really do not want to get covid and having previously been on a ventilator it is not an experience I am keen to repeat. We have a child under 1 so have a support bubble with MIL, who is also following the rules 100% so I feel comfortable with that. If she was still working, I like @doireallyneedaname, am not sure I would be comfortable seeing her.

Ugh, fat fingers.

When rules were relaxed a bit. I'm following them now though.

@IsItSummerYet21 I am sorry for your loss. This is why I see my nan and let the dc see her. She wants to see them and she is getting on. I wouldn't if we were a risk to her but we don't go anywhere.

Saying that though DS is attending school on a key worker place so he gets socialisation at school. If he wasn't at school I would break the rules to let him see a friend, he's an only child and having no contact with other children at all is unhealthy in my opinion.

Yup. Still going. Everyone I know is doing the same. It is not for much longer, the infection rate is coming down faster than I feared so yes feeling okay with carrying on for a few more weeks. No longer though. March is where I am at.

Yes we are and so are most people we know. There is one family who are breaking the rules that I know of. They have just got Covid, including 80 year old grandparents, as they had a “get together” for a 30th birthday. But it doesn’t surprise me as I’ve always know they are stupid.

The issue for me is those poor NHS staff who are on their knees treating Covid patients. I don’t want to be responsible for adding to their workload.

Also we’re in a bubble with my Dd and her dh who have a baby. We can all work from home so very safe. If one of us has an actual meeting or for instance baby has had a few hospital appointments recently, we don’t see each other for 10 days. It’s really really hard but it is not worth the risk!

I have been, although I did see my elderly uncle in his house a couple of weeks ago. I took him some shopping and stayed to talk to him for a bit.

We have no choice but to be more conservative than the rules for the general public. It’s very hard to see people complaining about the comparatively easy restrictions. Seeing family at Christmas even if it was a smaller celebration? No. We met just a few family members outside, wore masks, and still stayed 2 meters apart the whole brief visit. It was the first time we had seen them in 9 months and we don’t know when we will be able to risk seeing them again.

To those claiming to be following the rules and so is ‘everyone they know’, how can you speak on behalf of ‘everyone you know’ exactly? Personally I’ve seen people without masks on in public indoor spaces, I’ve experienced people reaching over me in super markets and not socially distancing, I’ve seen large groups of kids and teenagers together, I know some people who have ‘one too many’ people in their social bubbles- I obviously live in a completely different world.

I took my children to the supermarket (2.5 yr and 2 month) just to get out of the house and speak to another adult. I’m not a single parent so could have gone in the evening. But I’m so lonely that a trip to the supermarket was something to break the long days up.

We’re still going with all rules. One of DD’s class spent much of online registration today listing all the people she’s been meeting 🤦‍♀️

For your age, the chances of covid making you really poorly are very slim. So slim, you may have already even had it and not even been aware.

Its not about the rules though it is OP - there are rules in place which would allow you to have created a bubble etc.

This isnt keeping to the rules it is allowing fear to control you

@Turnedouttoes

Yes but I know so many people who are not and it’s very frustrating. The world and his dog seem to have a reason why it’s okay for them to bend the rules. DPs best friend for example lives at home as does his girlfriend. He still goes over to see her every evening because of course they can’t be expected to not see each other Also ignoring the fact that he lives with his mum who still sees her nieces daily so actually at least 3 households mixing.

But why is it ok that it's been made illegal for people in relationships to not see eachother?

I'm not anti-lockdown or against taking measures but there are things that were not reasonable to ask people to do and not seeing partners was one of them. I think there should have been some acceptance that we can only ask people to take reasonable measures and banning people from seeing partners was one of them.

But it's very easy for people who live with their spouse or partner to criticise isn't it.

Most are. Some aren’t.

I’ve ended a friendship with someone though who started yet another relationship doing lockdown and no doubt still seeing other households. Woman works at a doctors surgery at front desk 🙄

All of the rules 100% since last March? No. Transgressions include allowing my toddler to disregard social distancing (we're in England) back in the summer when cases were low.

But I do think most of the people follow most of the rules most of the time. Which is probably what behavioural scientists assume will happen when they advise the government.

I am pretty much. I broke the rules the other day and gave my friends CEV husband a lift to get his Covid jab, as they’ve been shielding and he was terrified to get in a taxi, as he’s not been near a soul in months. I figured I’m very low risk - not been in a shop since pre-pandemic, not been near anyone other than ds who lives here - so it’s safer for him to get in the back of my car than in a taxi where hundreds of other people have been. Other than that, I’m sticking to the rules completely, and most people I know are too.

Pretty much. Only rule I have broken is I have met a friend and her 2 young kids for a walk.

Yes, of course. Wish the kids could play with someone else, but the rules only hold as long as everyone keeps to them, so we won't.