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Please, please people take this seriously

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ConcernedAuntie · 20/01/2021 11:54

To all those covid deniers and mask refusers out there.

I have just had a phone call from my cousin and I am totally shaken. Her husband has died from Covid this morning. He was 48, a big strong bear of a man and has done manual outside work all his working life. He tested positive last Friday. I can't believe it. The only places he has been indoors is home and he collected a prescription for his MIL the previous Monday. He had two children 12 and 14. The whole family is devastated.

This is not the flu.

OP posts:
TempsPerdu · 20/01/2021 13:43

I'm very sorry for your loss but your post makes no sense. Your cousin's husband was very very careful and still caught it and died. So how can 'taking it seriously' make any difference to anyone?

OP I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s undeniably tragic - but given he was being so careful and following the guidelines, what more would you like us to do?

This is a nasty virus and sadly it will kill people, sometimes apparently at random. I think we just need to accept that at this point, rather than berating and terrifying people who are broadly already doing everything they can to avoid it.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 20/01/2021 13:43

@TheDailyCarbunkle

I'm very sorry for your loss but your post makes no sense.

Your cousin's husband was very very careful and still caught it and died. So how can 'taking it seriously' make any difference to anyone?

If every single person took it more seriously ie masks, staying at home as much as possible etc then there wouldn't be as much spread in society. Then perhaps it wouldn't be rife in the country and the OP's cousins husband wouldn't have caught it. That's what I'm taking from her post anyway - we all need to be more careful so that we can slow down the spread so that less folk catch it and pass it on.
Carrotcakeforbreakfast · 20/01/2021 13:45

Is there any need for the hostility shown to the OP?
Sorry for your loss.

OwMyNeck · 20/01/2021 13:46

but given he was being so careful and following the guidelines, what more would you like us to do

Quite clearly she's telling the people who aren't that careful to be more careful, then they might not pass it on to people who will die from it.

Honestly, the people who think it doesn't make sense...I despair.

SabrinaMorningstar · 20/01/2021 13:46

Sorry for your loss OP. Flowers

And sorry that this thread highlights everything that is wrong with Covid threads on here. Flowers

Bonsai49 · 20/01/2021 13:47

OP - I’m sorry for your loss.

To those of you having a go just stop it please .

SeasonFinale · 20/01/2021 13:48

[quote DioneTheDiabolist]**@SeasonFinale, I will not be gathering with anyone. I will not be standing near anyone. I will not be a risk to anyone and no one will be a risk to me.

But I will be there as she enters and leaves the church because she has asked me to be there.[/quote]
in breach of restrictions placed on funerals

Tal45 · 20/01/2021 13:48

So sorry OP, that is just so awful. Unfortunately as shown by this thread there are plenty of people who won't take it seriously until/unless it happens to them.

Nixmini · 20/01/2021 13:50

The OP's post is literally directed to non-mask wearers and covid deniers!! I am not sure why everyone is getting so judgemental.

Sorry for your loss OP, it must be a terrible shock.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 20/01/2021 13:50

@Same4Walls

Message deleted by MNHQ. Quotes deleted post

I'm sorry for your loss and I appreciate you are still hurting snd in shock but you honestly have absolutely no eay of knowing that the person he caught it from wasn't following the rules. For you to imply that the person he caught it from had it because they were not s rule follower is disingenuous and ubfiar. You are still able to catch the virus even if you follow every rule to the letter.

But surely if everyone followed the rules then it wouldn't spread as fast as it is and thus her relative may have been less likely to catch it? I'm not saying he wouldn't have caught it but it just stands to reason that if everyone adhered to the rules and was careful then there would be a lower level of spread and therefore less cases.
oakleaffy · 20/01/2021 13:53

@Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow

You don’t even know how he caught it!!! Your post doesn’t sound good.

Supermarkets are where it’s speeding up here - everyone is in masks. Everyone. It is still spreading

I was horrified to see two children, aged 11 and maybe 10 in a supermarket running wild, the girl was

Picking up frozen ice cream and lolly tubs and boxes and LICKING them, then putting them down, picking up another, &c. and giggling

The adult ''in charge'' was completely oblivious/didn't care.

The shop staff said it ''Was difficult'' to stop kids running riot if the parent/guardian doesn't step in. They too were grossed out.

God help the poor customer who bought those licked containers.

Children are not wearing masks, and are in every pharmacy/supermarket, often very close to other customers.

AliceMadHatter · 20/01/2021 13:57

Sorry for your loss OP, such a sad time for your family.

It is frustrating for us who are being as careful as can be. It is frustrating because we can do no more and it is frustrating because others are taking the piss.

I'm know there are people who can't wear masks but I also know there are a lot of people who just don't for no reason. People I know before anyones asks.

SeasonFinale · 20/01/2021 14:01

@Dionethedaibolist sending personal messages to me and then blocking me from replying is one way to get yourself reported to MN.

Funeral numbers are restricted. If you do not fall within the numbers that can attend you should not be hanging around outside.

Arobase · 20/01/2021 14:07

Your cousin's husband was very very careful and still caught it and died. So how can 'taking it seriously' make any difference to anyone?

Sorry, but this sounds like someone being deliberately obtuse. It's pretty obvious that she is thinking of people who don't bother to take precautions because they believe that Covid is a trivial illness, they won't have it seriously, etc etc. And it's also pretty obvious that taking precautions still reduces people's chances of catching Covid, so "taking it seriously" manifestly does have the potential to make a difference.

Arobase · 20/01/2021 14:11

Funeral numbers are restricted. If you do not fall within the numbers that can attend you should not be hanging around outside.

Dione has made it clear that she is not "attending". She's entitled to go out for exercise. If she chooses to exercise by walking in the vicinity of the church, that's perfectly legitimate, and clearly does not increase risk to anyone as she is socially distancing.

Original poster
ConcernedAuntie · 20/01/2021 14:12

@RosieLemonade

Bored of these posts. I would say the vast vast majority of people take it very seriously and follow the rules. Those who do not will probably not be on this part of the Internet and will not change because of yourcousins husband who they don't know from Adam.
I am so sorry you are bored. Please accept my heart felt condolences
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Albless · 20/01/2021 14:12

@DioneTheDiabolist

I know how you feel OP, tomorrow I will be standing outside a church as the funeral of my friend's father happens. He died of Covid 5 days after being admitted to hospital, he'd only tested positive 2 days before. Her brother is in a terrible state as he had it first. He blames himself.Sad On Friday my BiL's uncle will be buried, his other uncle is in intensive care.

The attitudes of some posters on here show that people aren't taking it seriously.

Condolences OP.Flowers

You shouldn't be standing outside the church. The numbers at funerals are restricted in an effort to reduce the spread of the virus. Gathering outside the church defeats the purpose of having a small funeral and is simply another way of spreading the virus.

I'm a parish minister, and people gathering outside churches and crematoria has been major problem over the past 10 months. Please, don't do it. Stay at home. Send a card, send flowers, watch the service on-line if possible, light a candle, but do not go and gather outside the church.

SeasonFinale · 20/01/2021 14:13

@Arobase

Funeral numbers are restricted. If you do not fall within the numbers that can attend you should not be hanging around outside.

Dione has made it clear that she is not "attending". She's entitled to go out for exercise. If she chooses to exercise by walking in the vicinity of the church, that's perfectly legitimate, and clearly does not increase risk to anyone as she is socially distancing.

She has not said she is exercising in the vicinity. She has said she is waiting outside at the request of her friend - thus in breach of restrictions. If she wants to do that then crack on. I was pointing out the irony of her posting that she was happy to do so on a thread where there the OP was asking people to not do so.
MacDuffsMuff · 20/01/2021 14:15

@Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow

You don’t even know how he caught it!!! Your post doesn’t sound good.

Supermarkets are where it’s speeding up here - everyone is in masks. Everyone. It is still spreading

Fucks sake, what's wrong with you? She's just said her whole family are grieving.

And everyone is NOT in masks at all. This virus doesn't just spread on it's own, people spread it.

Albless · 20/01/2021 14:18

@Arobase

Funeral numbers are restricted. If you do not fall within the numbers that can attend you should not be hanging around outside.

Dione has made it clear that she is not "attending". She's entitled to go out for exercise. If she chooses to exercise by walking in the vicinity of the church, that's perfectly legitimate, and clearly does not increase risk to anyone as she is socially distancing.

I have conducted funeral services where there were more people "not attending" than there were actually attending. The undertakers and I do what we can to make a funeral service as safe as possible for those who are attending - physical distancing, sanitising etc. There are control measures in place at all for the many who gather outside or at a slight distance from the graveside.

With the best will in the world, even with all measures in place, funerals are a time when people are in close contact with each other. And that's when they are being managed. The 'non-attending' attendees are at even more risk.

IthinkIm · 20/01/2021 14:19

I'm sorry for your loss OP. There's so mean people on here at the moment.

I assume he thought he caught it from the pharmacy? His MIL must feel awful too.

I can (sadly) recommend an excellent charity that might be able to help his children come to terms with it. They're called www.winstonswish.co.uk. They worked miracles when we needed them.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 20/01/2021 14:19

So, so sorry to read this - your poor relatives.
I understand why you've posted what you have - because the more people refuse to pay attention to the rules, and the seriousness, the longer this shitfest will last and the more people like your cousin's husband will catch it through no fault of their own.

EVERYONE has to take responsibility and stop pretending it's "not that bad" - for some, it's not, but for others it IS that bad.

Albless · 20/01/2021 14:19

That should say, no control measures in place at all for the many who gather ...

Pastanred · 20/01/2021 14:20

Op hasn’t said he’s been in all the time

Sorry for your loss op

But big bear suggests overweight and you said he does manual outside work

It’s very likely he picked it up at work as (presuming here) building sites/construction etc are not the cleanest and often staff do sit indoors, in their cars etc to eat lunch etc

They share tools and equipment

It’s not exactly a low risk job despite outdoors - most outdoor jobs are not clean

I know a few construction people who caught it at work

Goingtothebudgies · 20/01/2021 14:21

Obviously, the OP means that if everyone was careful, there would be fewer infected people around. Fewer people would then get it. Surely no-one believes that everybody is currently being careful?