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Please, please people take this seriously

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ConcernedAuntie · 20/01/2021 11:54

To all those covid deniers and mask refusers out there.

I have just had a phone call from my cousin and I am totally shaken. Her husband has died from Covid this morning. He was 48, a big strong bear of a man and has done manual outside work all his working life. He tested positive last Friday. I can't believe it. The only places he has been indoors is home and he collected a prescription for his MIL the previous Monday. He had two children 12 and 14. The whole family is devastated.

This is not the flu.

OP posts:
toolazytothinkofausername · 20/01/2021 12:32

"If this post reaches and changes the behaviour of just one person then its worth posting"

Hear hear!!!

Iknowwhatudidlastsummer · 20/01/2021 12:32

Very sorry for your loss OP

Too many people are NOT taking it seriously, and they are the reason the virus spreads. It's simple.

Too many people have a chat with a friend, send kids at school who could stay home, go shopping

larry5 · 20/01/2021 12:34

I am so sorry to hear about your cousin's husband.

I had covid with none of the nhs symptoms. I started sneezing on 1st Jan and got slightly worse so when I filled in the Covid 19 survey on the 3rd they suggested on the 4th that I got tested which I did on the 5th. I was very surprised to be positive. All I felt I had was that I had a mild cold.

Track and Trace wanted to know who I had been in contact with from 30th December because I would have been infectious from then. I do take the virus seriously but if I had not been on the app I wouldn't and couldn't get a test. A lot of people who have had covid would not know because each year people get slight colds and think nothing of it.

Nannewnannew · 20/01/2021 12:35

I’m so sorry for your loss, his poor family must be devastated.
It really is worrying how easily and rapidly this virus is spreading, surely all the people who have succumbed to Covid haven’t been ‘reckless’ as some people seem to think/ assume.

NoSauce · 20/01/2021 12:37

Awful news OP. Take care of yourself.

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Bitbusyattheminute · 20/01/2021 12:38

It's not the flu. It's more unpredictable than the flu and that's what makes it dangerous.

Dh and I both have it. I'm OK ish. Not great, but have been worse with flu. But I'm only 7 days in, so don't know where it's going.

Dh is a mess. I made him phone 111 this morning cos he got up, then coughed so much he couldn't breathe. He has no underlying issues. He's tentatively come downstairs, but is scared to move in case he can't breathe. Flu has never done this. I'm on pins, because there have been a couple of men his age die round here recently. He's not old. Not even close.

lucywho123 · 20/01/2021 12:38

Sorry for your loss. So sad for the children to lose their DF at that age.

However, it does sound like he was taking it seriously so I am a little confused by your thread title also sorry

MaxNormal · 20/01/2021 12:39

I'm sorry for your loss but I don't understand what else you want people to do?
Everyone i know who got it got it at work.

Bitbusyattheminute · 20/01/2021 12:40

larry5 I only went for a test because dh was positive. I had what seemed like hayfever. And sneezing was a big part of it. The message needs to change.

RickiTarr · 20/01/2021 12:40

I’m sorry for your loss OP.

Unfortunately this thread is taking on a nasty tone.

TwelvePaws · 20/01/2021 12:41

I’m very sorry OP. 💐 I hope your cousin has support at this desperately sad time.

Your cousin's husband was very very careful and still caught it and died. So how can 'taking it seriously' make any difference to anyone?

Bloody hell. Maybe because some people are still going out with symptoms or not wearing masks when they’re not actually exempt etc so they need to take it more seriously.

But I don’t think a thread where someone is telling us their relative has died is really an appropriate place to start an argument.

TwelvePaws · 20/01/2021 12:42

However, it does sound like he was taking it seriously so I am a little confused by your thread title also sorry

Because he potentially got it from someone else not taking it seriously !

Beautifulbonnie · 20/01/2021 12:45

It’s awful OP. People saying your post doesn’t make sense. Looking out for any tiny discrepancy. Which is easily done when grieving. People are out to jump on anyone who says how bad this is

I’m friends with a lot of doctors. They’ve told me stay at home. No supermarkets. No nothing. This new variant is so so deadly.

Hugs op. Xxx if you ever want a friendly ear

Same4Walls · 20/01/2021 12:45

Because he potentially got it from someone else not taking it seriously!

The key part of this is potentially. Personally I can't believe anyonest is still assuming anyone who has covid is not following the rules, not wearing a mask or going out with symptoms etc. Most people who have caught covid are following the rules, being sensible and doing the right thing and to think otherwise is just nonsense.

Delatron · 20/01/2021 12:48

The new variant is more transmissible @Beautifulbonnie not more deadly. There’s no evidence for that so I wouldn’t want your post to scare people.

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DioneTheDiabolist · 20/01/2021 12:49

I know how you feel OP, tomorrow I will be standing outside a church as the funeral of my friend's father happens. He died of Covid 5 days after being admitted to hospital, he'd only tested positive 2 days before. Her brother is in a terrible state as he had it first. He blames himself.Sad On Friday my BiL's uncle will be buried, his other uncle is in intensive care.

The attitudes of some posters on here show that people aren't taking it seriously.

Condolences OP.Flowers

TheDailyCarbunkle · 20/01/2021 12:50

@Beautifulbonnie

It’s awful OP. People saying your post doesn’t make sense. Looking out for any tiny discrepancy. Which is easily done when grieving. People are out to jump on anyone who says how bad this is

I’m friends with a lot of doctors. They’ve told me stay at home. No supermarkets. No nothing. This new variant is so so deadly.

Hugs op. Xxx if you ever want a friendly ear

The new variant isn't 'so so deadly' so either you're lying or the doctors you're talking to are. It is more infectious NOT more 'deadly.'

The 'deadliness' of the virus is exactly the same as it's always been, in fact, there's some evidence that it's lower. Even a 90+ year old with multiple health conditions has a greater than 85% chance of surviving. If you are under 50 with no health conditions your chances of dying are tiny, less than your chances of drowning.

So don't spread nonsense.

justasking111 · 20/01/2021 12:51

So sorry for your loss. 90 odd percent of people are being uber careful, still the virus kills. I cannot give anyone an answer nor I suspect can the scientists. 2 million dead so far, the only comfort I can offer is that the spanish flu killed 50 to 100 million, so we are doing better this time around.

lucywho123 · 20/01/2021 12:51

@Delatron

The new variant is more transmissible *@Beautifulbonnie* not more deadly. There’s no evidence for that so I wouldn’t want your post to scare people.
Yes. Its important people are not spreading false information right now
RickiTarr · 20/01/2021 12:54

@Beautifulbonnie you really shouldn’t post such alarmist and inaccurate drivel.

BustopherPonsonbyJones · 20/01/2021 12:56

I am very sorry for you and your family. Those with an agenda keep pushing it at the expense of their humanity. They should be ashamed.

Deathraystare · 20/01/2021 12:58

Oh God how terrible for you all. So sorry.

It is very scarey and anyone not taking it seriously is a twat.

ConquestEmpireHungerPlague · 20/01/2021 12:58

I know loads of people who aren't taking it seriously. I think OP's point is that if everyone was, there'd be less of it circulating generally, and her cousin's DH might never have caught it. Reasonable point, I'd have thought - not sure why so many pp are acting like it's a bizarre concept. This is a textbook example of how unpredictable Covid's effects are and why all the people (on other threads) saying they're not worried because they're under 40 and in good shape are being a bit dim. Awful for his family. Flowers for you, OP, and for everyone who has lost someone, and for everyone who has had a traumatic ICU experience, and for everyone who has been feeling exhausted or unwell for months despite having it 'mildly' by comparison, and for everyone in the NHS who is on their last legs.