Would you take your elderly mum to Sainsbury's

[Icequeen01]

So I'm in such a quandary about this. My DM who is 81 has had both her jabs. She hasn't been out for weeks and weeks and I do her shopping each week when I do mine. She has told me she is coming with me to Sainsbury's next week as it will then be over a week since her booster. She knows she has to wear a mask, hand sanitise and socially distance etc.

I'm still not comfortable with taking her though. I've explained that they don't know if she can still transmit the virus but this is something she desperately wants to do, just to have a little bit of normality again and to be able to do her own shopping. She was very upset when I suggested she shouldn't come.

What would you do?

@Robbybobtail

If someone has to wait longer in the queue because she fancies a trip out that's fine right?

Yes. It is. Why does your right to go to the shop trump the OP’s mums?

Just another example of selfish entitlement.

Not yet. I would wait a few weeks. I think I heard that the vaccination takes 2-4 weeks to protect you. I just wouldn't risk it for a while.

@WaxOnFeckOff, I was agreeing with you!

sorry @saraclara - i misread the tone :)

Nope.

Just not worth the risk.

@WaxOnFeckOff

sorry *@saraclara* - i misread the tone :)

No worries. on re-reading I can see how it might not have been clear.

My daughter has severe anxiety and depression and would love to come with me when o get the food shopping but she doesn’t. We’re in lockdown. Sorry but mum needs to wait a bit longer

I would be absolutely delighted to wait a bit longer in the queue to facilitate the OP’s poor mum who hasn’t been out shopping for months and at last feels safe enough to do so.

I wonder wtf is wrong with people on here sometimes. Not an ounce of compassion.

So, if your Mum contracts it, then you will potentially be a contact and have the inconvenience and worry, that it would entail.

How many people in your household would that bring an additional risk to?

If you are ina support bubble, you are treated as one household, so you are doubling the risk to your "household" by additonal potential exposure. (Depending on how often and the type of visits that you make).

If you can go around the shop separately, and your mum is keen to go, and understands the necessary precautions, why on earth not? Too many bossy, controlling daughters on this thread!

My understanding was that it takes up to three weeks after 2nd jab to develop immunity. So I would suggest waiting at least that long.

I do empathise with her - we are all bored of restrictions- but there is light at the end of the tunnel, we just need to hang on for a bit longer (I really hope so anyway!)

Looks like you need to wait at least 12 days after the second dose.

Seeing as cases are still so high and the vaccine doesn’t provide 100% protection I would be wary.

It would be different if she could get herself there but by asking you to help you will feel partly responsible for the decision and potential outcomes.

@ktp100

Nope.

Just not worth the risk.

What risk, exactly?

Jeeze, my 92 year old auntie does her own shopping.

The only thing that makes this an OP is that this 81 year old needs a lift. People of her age and older are shopping in my Tesco every time I go. No-one is stopping them.

This is control by "you need my car to get you there".

@Joeblack066

My daughter has severe anxiety and depression and would love to come with me when o get the food shopping but she doesn’t. We’re in lockdown. Sorry but mum needs to wait a bit longer

I don't understand.

'Sorry but we are in lockdown' ?

People are allowed to go shopping 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why can't OPs mum go shopping but other people can? I'm with @saraclara and co on this!

@FreshFreesias

She’s a free woman and wants an outing it would be mean spirited to refuse. Aren’t people allowed to think for themselves?

and this is why this bloody lockdown will continue and why more people will die

OP has already said the vaccine protection states 7 days after the second dose and it will be almost 2 weeks if she takes her mum shopping. Why at so many people telling g her otherwise? Presumably her mum was given this information at the point of vaccination

I would not take her. My mum of similar age was vaccinated on Saturday and has a leaflet which I have been told about in detail. Wait a bit longer.

Supermarkets are now discouraging people shopping in any sort of group I understand, so as to give more space.

No no no!
My mum is 74 highly vulnerable. Hasn’t been out the house now since March last year. She’s going stir crazy. Once she’d had her vaccines I will take her out but the supermarket would be the last place I’d take her. I hate going there myself at the moment.

If it’s because she wants to go out could you maybe take her to a farm shop - somewhere a bit rural where it’s quieter. That’s what I’ll do. There’s a farm shop about 20 minutes away - a lot more safer

@EmmaGrundyForPM, this 81 year old has just as much right to go to Sainsbury's as you do. And she's less risk to people in there than you are. She's vaccinated and she's not left her home in weeks.

@Robbybobtail

Why?

I don't understand.

'Sorry but we are in lockdown' ?

People are allowed to go shopping 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s the covid police, they make up their own rules - didn’t you know?
Out in force again salivating over anyone stepping outside their doors now the numbers are high again - they love it!

If there has been any saying more fitting during this pandemic is has to be “Misery likes company”!

If it’s because she wants to go out could you maybe take her to a farm shop - somewhere a bit rural where it’s quieter.

Presumably she wants to go to Sainsbury’s.

She’s not you. She’s a grown woman capable of making her own decisions about what she wants to do.

Hopefully Sainsbury's will stop this along with them enforcing mask wearing

Well you're all heart aren't you Handcarthell. My dad couldn't shop on his own and neither could my mum and they just about manage together. They are both blind and mum has dementia. They don't go anywhere apart from the supermarket. Let's hope Sainsburys have more compassion that you, hey.